Let's Never Talk About This Again
Samantha Irby meets Bettyville in this darkly funny and poignant memoir about love, loss, Alzheimer's, and reviving her father's pornographic writing career from Mortified writer and producer Sara Faith Alterman. 12-year-old Sara enjoyed an G-rated existence in suburban New England, filled with over-the-top birthday cakes, Revolutionary War reenactments, and nerdy word games invented by her prudish father, Ira. But Sara's world changed for the icky, when she discovered that Ira had been shielding her from the truth; that he was a campy sex writer who'd sold millions of books in multiple languages, including the wildly popular 'Games You Can Play with Your Pussy.' Which was, to the naive Sara's horror, not a book about cats. For decades the books remained an unspoken family secret, until Ira developed early onset Alzheimer's disease...and announced he'd be reviving his writing career. With Sara's help. In this cringeworthy, hilarious, and moving memoir, Sara shares the profound experience of discovering new facets of her father; once as a child, and again as an adult. 'Let's Never Talk About This Again' is a must-read confessional from a woman who spent years trying to find humor in the perverse and optimism in the darkness, and succeeded.

Let's Never Talk About This Again Details

TitleLet's Never Talk About This Again
Author
LanguageEnglish
ReleaseJul 28th, 2020
PublisherGrand Central Publishing
Rating
GenreAutobiography, Memoir, Nonfiction, Audiobook, Adult

Let's Never Talk About This Again Review

  • Libby
    January 1, 1970
    In this hilarious and loving tribute to her father, Alterman writes about realizing your parents are fallible humans with lives of their own. In the case of Alterman’s dad it’s a secret life writing punny sex books and suffering from Alzheimer’s. Full of 80s and 90s nostalgia from her childhood and surprisingly vulnerable moments of becoming a parent herself while caring for her father. A funny and touching read.
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  • Debbie Boucher
    January 1, 1970
    This memoir is newly out, and I looked forward to reading it since my daughter knows the author. Sara Faith Alterman does a good job at bringing humor to a difficult subject: a parent with Alzheimers. If you are not too close to this subject (my father-in-law succumbed to it in 11/19), and you enjoy black humor (think the TV series Catastrohe and Dead to Me) you will like this book.
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  • Bookreporter.com Biography & Memoir
    January 1, 1970
    Sara Faith Alterman grew up in the 1980s in the kind of family that never swore or made rude jokes. Her father, Ira, would leap out of the chair to turn off the television if anything even close to a sex scene cropped up, and the closest they ever came to “the talk” was when a teenaged Sara had an ovarian cyst and he had to explain the diagnosis to her. He loved terrible puns, wordplay of all sorts and doing the crossword puzzle. So imagine Sara’s surprise when, as a relatively young girl, she d Sara Faith Alterman grew up in the 1980s in the kind of family that never swore or made rude jokes. Her father, Ira, would leap out of the chair to turn off the television if anything even close to a sex scene cropped up, and the closest they ever came to “the talk” was when a teenaged Sara had an ovarian cyst and he had to explain the diagnosis to her. He loved terrible puns, wordplay of all sorts and doing the crossword puzzle. So imagine Sara’s surprise when, as a relatively young girl, she discovered a cache of humorous sex books --- written by her father, with bawdy cartoon illustrations by one of his best friends.When Sara first found the books, she was too young to really understand their double entendres. As she entered adolescence, however, she used them as how-to manuals for her relationship with her own first boyfriend. Years passed, and Sara never discussed the books with Ira, or with anyone else in her family --- until her father, now in his early 60s, lost his job in executive education.Sara --- who by this time was living with her husband in San Francisco, across the country from her parents’ Massachusetts home --- wanted to help and was drawn into her father’s increasingly frustrating job search. As she helped him navigate Monster.com and improve his LinkedIn profile, she gradually began to suspect that there was something a little off about him, more than could be explained by depression or advancing age. He seemed confused by computers and by the internet in particular, incapable of performing simple search functions that once would have been easy for him.And then, when Ira decided to revive his writing and publishing business as a way to earn some money, Sara knew something was off-kilter for sure. Why would her dad, who had never even joked about sex in front of her before, be sending her manuscript pages from his latest work, Sex After 40, for her to edit? As Sara and the rest of her family began to suspect that Ira suffered from dementia caused by Alzheimer’s, Sara realized that offering to help him --- no matter how uncomfortable it might make her --- could be a last opportunity for them to work together and to understand one another as fellow adults, not just as parent and child.Alterman, who is one of the producers of the podcast and live show “Mortified,” excels at telling cringeworthy stories of her youth and young adulthood --- stories that don’t flinch even as they touch on deeply uncomfortable topics and themes. She also, courageously, acknowledges her own failings in dealing with her father during his rapid decline and eventual death, and her regrets over how she failed to support her mother in her own grief.I don’t read many memoirs, but when I do, I’m looking for ones like Alterman’s: a true story that offers hilarious anecdotes and insights but also addresses difficult topics with the same honesty and candor. Alterman’s voice is funny, irreverent and full of love for her father, and readers are unlikely to come away without a deep fondness for them and their entire family.Reviewed by Norah Piehl
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  • Donna Boyd
    January 1, 1970
    Thank you to #NetGalley, the author and publisher for providing me with a digital copy of this book prior to publication in exchange for my honest review. Let's Never Talk About This Again by Sarah Faith Alterman is a memoir that will make you laugh and cry, sometimes on the same page. Sarah grew up in a seemingly normal home on the outskirts of Boston. Seemingly is the key word here because when she was 12 she discovered a shelf of pornographic books written by her father. Sarah keeps her disco Thank you to #NetGalley, the author and publisher for providing me with a digital copy of this book prior to publication in exchange for my honest review. Let's Never Talk About This Again by Sarah Faith Alterman is a memoir that will make you laugh and cry, sometimes on the same page. Sarah grew up in a seemingly normal home on the outskirts of Boston. Seemingly is the key word here because when she was 12 she discovered a shelf of pornographic books written by her father. Sarah keeps her discovery to herself and it is only later, when her father is diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's and asks her for help with reviving his career that the acknowledges the truth that she has known for years. Just imagine if it is your father who wrote a book called Games You Can Play with Your Pussy, and we are not talking about a cat, or asks you for help writing a book called The Naughty Bride and it's about your own wedding. Sarah's humor and compassion in dealing with her father's unorthodox books along with helping to care for a father who is ill while trying to start her own family on the opposite coast, resonate in this book. It is well worth reading.
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  • Christa Musto
    January 1, 1970
    Wow, unsure where to start with this review. Let’s Never Talk About This Again is a memoir that I almost didn’t finish. I decided to stick through it, and let me tell you I’m so glad I did. This book started out a little raunchy, which turned me off at first, but ultimately led into a heartbreaking story about a daughter watching her father mentally deteriorate before her eyes. This memoir made me truly laugh out loud (the hiking trip part, you’ll see) and also put me on the verge of tears. It w Wow, unsure where to start with this review. Let’s Never Talk About This Again is a memoir that I almost didn’t finish. I decided to stick through it, and let me tell you I’m so glad I did. This book started out a little raunchy, which turned me off at first, but ultimately led into a heartbreaking story about a daughter watching her father mentally deteriorate before her eyes. This memoir made me truly laugh out loud (the hiking trip part, you’ll see) and also put me on the verge of tears. It was raw, emotional, honest, and amazing. The writing was spectacular, which is sometimes not true for a memoir, and I can honestly say I stayed up as late as I could last night to finish every word. I loved this book, and I’m also appreciative of the author for allowing us as readers a look into her world and her story. So to Sara Alterman, thank you.Thank you to NetGalley and Sara Alterman for providing a digital review copy in exchange for honest feedback.
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  • Kate
    January 1, 1970
    Sara Alterman recounts her relationship with her father in this hilarious, honest and touching memoir. •Sara grew up in a suburban home filled with a lot of rules, very sensored. Then one day she finds a stack of pornographic books written by her father. Horrified, she never mentions finding these to anyone. Then decades later when her father developes early onset Alzheimer's disease and he decides he wants her help to revive his writing career. •This was a poignant read. Partly hilarious, partl Sara Alterman recounts her relationship with her father in this hilarious, honest and touching memoir. •Sara grew up in a suburban home filled with a lot of rules, very sensored. Then one day she finds a stack of pornographic books written by her father. Horrified, she never mentions finding these to anyone. Then decades later when her father developes early onset Alzheimer's disease and he decides he wants her help to revive his writing career. •This was a poignant read. Partly hilarious, partly heartbreaking. Their father-daughter relationship wasn't like most, but their bond was strong through it all. This is also a very eye opening account of the heartbreaking reality of watching a loved one's demise from Alzheimer's disease. •Thank you to the publisher for sending me this #ARC opinions are my own. •For more of my book content check out instagram.com/bookalong
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  • Sara Broad
    January 1, 1970
    "Let's Never About This Again" is Sara Alterman's funny, engaging, sad, and honest memoir about her relationship with her father. She recounts her relationship with her father from the time she was young to his last moments alive. She has a very unusual experience learning about sex, and for better or for worse, she avoids discussing this topic with her father until he benignly approaches Sara about it in his later years. Despite her father's sometimes poor temperament, Sara and Ira had an unbre "Let's Never About This Again" is Sara Alterman's funny, engaging, sad, and honest memoir about her relationship with her father. She recounts her relationship with her father from the time she was young to his last moments alive. She has a very unusual experience learning about sex, and for better or for worse, she avoids discussing this topic with her father until he benignly approaches Sara about it in his later years. Despite her father's sometimes poor temperament, Sara and Ira had an unbreakable bond that could be the envy of many. The book also offers a realistic portrayal of the havoc and heartbreak Alzheimers Disease and dementia inflict on a family. I definitely recommend this book!
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  • Lauren Archer
    January 1, 1970
    This is such a gem in world of memoirs. You will laugh a lot, but be prepared to have your tissues handy, because YOU WILL shed some tears.For my full review, please visit my blog at: http://obsessedbookaholic.com/2020/07...Thank you NetGalley and Grand Central Publishing for an Advanced Reader’s Copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. This is such a gem in world of memoirs. You will laugh a lot, but be prepared to have your tissues handy, because YOU WILL shed some tears.For my full review, please visit my blog at: http://obsessedbookaholic.com/2020/07...Thank you NetGalley and Grand Central Publishing for an Advanced Reader’s Copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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  • Morelia (Strandedinbooks)
    January 1, 1970
    *CW: death of a parent, Alzheimer’s, grief I freaking adore this memoir, for as much as it broke my heart. The author’s humor was so perfectly thrown in to balance out the story and ultimately just made a fan out of me. To get to read such intimate thoughts really hit me in the feels, and now I’ll just sit here with my tears and hug the shit out of my own dad.
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  • Melissa
    January 1, 1970
    I laughed so hard and then cried so long. Sara writes in a very relatable way to everyone’s daily lives. She has the best paint-a-picture voice that doesn’t get boring. Her parents are awesome and her story really resonated with me. A must-read memoir.
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  • Kayo
    January 1, 1970
    This book made me cry like a blubbering idiot. Very well written. Great book!Thanks to author, publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.
  • Caroline Meehan
    January 1, 1970
    Such a great read! Sara deftly treats a tough topic (her Dads Alzheimer’s diagnosis) with compassion, humor and candor.
  • Melinda
    January 1, 1970
    Heartfelt and at times hilarious walk through a complicated daughter-father relationship.
  • E.B.
    January 1, 1970
    Come for the Revolutionary War puns and dick jokes, stay for the heartbreaking and accurate rendering of what it is like to lose someone you love to Alzheimer’s. I laughed, I cried, and I want to buy copies of this book for everyone I know. Sara Faith Alterman, you are my hero!!! I can’t wait until this book comes out!!!
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