Here for It
From the creator of Elle 's "Eric Reads the News," a poignant and hilarious memoir-in-essays about growing up seeing the world differently, finding his joy, and every awkward, extraordinary stumble along the way. R. Eric Thomas didn't know he was different until the world told him so. Everywhere he went—whether it was his rich, mostly white, suburban high school, his conservative black church, or his Ivy League college in a big city—he found himself on the outside looking in.In essays by turns hysterical and heartfelt, Eric redefines what it means to be an "other" through the lens of his own life experience. He explores the two worlds of his childhood: the barren urban landscape where his parents' house was an anomalous bright spot, and the verdant school they sent him to in white suburbia. He writes about struggling to reconcile his Christian identity with his sexuality, about the exhaustion of code-switching in college, accidentally getting famous on the internet (for the wrong reason), and the surreal experience of covering the 2016 election as well as the seismic change that came thereafter. Ultimately, Eric seeks the answer to the ever more relevant question: Is the future worth it? Why do we bother when everything seems to be getting worse? As the world continues to shift in unpredictable ways, Eric finds the answers to these questions by re-envisioning what "normal" means, and in the powerful alchemy that occurs when you at last place yourself at the center of your own story.For fans of Samantha Irby, Michael Arceneaux, and David Sedaris, Here for It will resonate deeply and joyfully with everyone who has ever felt pushed to the margins, struggled with self-acceptance, or wished to shine more brightly in a dark world. Stay here for it—the future may surprise you.

Here for It Details

TitleHere for It
Author
LanguageEnglish
ReleaseFeb 18th, 2020
PublisherBallantine Books
ISBN-139780525621034
Rating
GenreWriting, Essays, Nonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, GLBT, Queer, Humor, LGBT

Here for It Review

  • Christine Guidera
    January 1, 1970
    I have not read this book and it does not matter. it's already perfect. Eric is a god.
  • Taylor Noel
    January 1, 1970
    Joyful, deeply felt, and intensely funny, this is a book for everyone who has ever struggled with marginalization, self-acceptance, or just the nagging sense of being at odds with the world. Eric's writing is alternatingly laugh-out-loud funny and deeply introspective. Loved every word and highly recommend.
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  • 🌈⭐️RoseOfRainbows⭐️🌈💕
    January 1, 1970
    Absolutely inspiring and utterly heartwarming. I’m in awe of the talents of this author. 5/5 stars for one of the best books I’ve read this year.
  • Melinda
    January 1, 1970
    I only knew the author from his funny Elle essays (which I love) so I was taken aback by how emotional and poignant some of the pieces in this book turned out to be. I really enjoyed this.
  • Erin
    January 1, 1970
    I won this copy in a Goodreads giveaway.I read R. Eric Thomas' Elle.com newsletter every week. It has been a bright spot in my Monday mornings for well over a year. I don't think I've ever read a column that didn't at least make me chuckle, and sometimes there is a bittersweet edge to his observations that never overwhelm the humor, because it is a comic newsletter after all.But the bittersweet takes a lot of moments in this book, and I loved it. The only criticism I have of this book is that I I won this copy in a Goodreads giveaway.I read R. Eric Thomas' Elle.com newsletter every week. It has been a bright spot in my Monday mornings for well over a year. I don't think I've ever read a column that didn't at least make me chuckle, and sometimes there is a bittersweet edge to his observations that never overwhelm the humor, because it is a comic newsletter after all.But the bittersweet takes a lot of moments in this book, and I loved it. The only criticism I have of this book is that I wish it was longer. Thomas reflects on young love, faith, the intersectionality he lives in as a gay black man, and the importance of family. I got teary. I was not expecting that. His essay on the high school friend lost to suicide is heartbreaking but never over the top, always respectful of its subjects: high school Eric, who can't quite find his way with anyone, and the girl he loves, maybe romantically, maybe platonically, another outsider who never really commits too strongly to any one person, place, or thing (except Madonna). That's what I got from a lot of his essays, in fact: respect. Thomas doesn't write about anything he doesn't care about, and even if it is a hilarious story about Easter Sunday at white church, he writes with respect. That's not something you see a lot of these days, especially for writers known for their work on the Internet. I loved it, every second.
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  • Jenny GB
    January 1, 1970
    I received a free copy of this book through a Goodreads Giveaway. Thank you!First, I didn't know who R. Eric Thomas was before winning this book. It looked like fun so I requested to win it and I have not been disappointed. In addition to reading this book, I also went and read some of Thomas' columns and generally just had a good time. It's been a while since I laughed this much reading a book. At the same time, Thomas is going to make you think about now with hope while still acknowledging I received a free copy of this book through a Goodreads Giveaway. Thank you!First, I didn't know who R. Eric Thomas was before winning this book. It looked like fun so I requested to win it and I have not been disappointed. In addition to reading this book, I also went and read some of Thomas' columns and generally just had a good time. It's been a while since I laughed this much reading a book. At the same time, Thomas is going to make you think about now with hope while still acknowledging that it can sometimes suck. The essays in the book are in mostly chronological order and discuss Thomas' experiences growing up and coming out. I was interested in what he had to say and entertained every step of the way. Go read this book even if you, like me, had no idea who Thomas was before hearing about this book!
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  • Alissa
    January 1, 1970
    NOTE: I received a free advanced reader copy from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.First, if you do not follow R. Eric Thomas on Facebook (or your social media of choice) and read his elle.com column, stop what you're doing and start following immediately. His columns are consistently laugh-out-loud funny. Which is why I requested an ARC of his forthcoming book.Now, as for the book itself, I really enjoyed getting to know more about Eric. But be forewarned - while entertaining, this NOTE: I received a free advanced reader copy from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.First, if you do not follow R. Eric Thomas on Facebook (or your social media of choice) and read his elle.com column, stop what you're doing and start following immediately. His columns are consistently laugh-out-loud funny. Which is why I requested an ARC of his forthcoming book.Now, as for the book itself, I really enjoyed getting to know more about Eric. But be forewarned - while entertaining, this book deals with some pretty heavy topics. There are definitely some very funny moments. But also some darker ones too, as Eric does not shy away from spring the challenges and ups and downs he faced trying to come to terms with himself as a religious gay black man. And while I was initially hoping for more laughs, I actually appreciate reading his story - his very personal story.
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  • Sarah
    January 1, 1970
    This book was just lovely. R. Eric Thomas is the best thing to happen to the internet. His facebook posts and work for Elle always make me laugh out loud (and I'm normally the kind of person who says 'that's funny' instead of laughing). I started this book expecting a group of lighthearted, humorous essays. Instead it is a vulnerable, heartfelt memoir about his struggles with his identity.... that is also laugh-out-loud funny. 5 stars! Thanks to NetGalley for an advanced readers copy.
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  • caitlin
    January 1, 1970
    Review copy courtesy of Edelweiss.Much like his enjoyable columns and hilarious Twitter account, this collection of essays will have you chuckling and laughing along with Thomas. My one complaint was I thought the essays would be more sequential so at times I felt like I needed a guide to know what part of his life he was writing about. Otherwise he is a wonderful, funny voice that can challenge David Sedaris for engaging essays.
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  • Dara (Dara Reads OK)
    January 1, 1970
    Netgalley/ARCI adored this book. I actually had to cover my mouth laughing out loud reading it in public. R. Eric Thomas is one of my favorite writers on the internet. His email roundup of his Elle.com column etc. is one of my weekly highlights. Writing at the intersection of being a black, gay man married to a minister, this group of essays covers everything from the silly to the sacred and brought a tear or two to my eyes.
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  • Kate Grace
    January 1, 1970
    This brilliantly-written essay collection made me, by turns, laugh out loud and tear up. It always challenged me to consider WHY we craft and consume stories. I’m excited for this writing to have a wider audience following its winter 2020 publication. Thank you to R. Eric Thomas, Ballantine Books, and Goodreads Giveaways for my advance reader copy.
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  • Jennifer P
    January 1, 1970
    I got a free copy of this book through a Goodreads Giveaway, which was awesome because I’m going to have to buy the Audible Edition so I can listen to it too. That’s right, I’m already planning to buy the book I just finished reading for free. It’s that good. It’s funny, charming, wise, and really just lovely. Enjoy!
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  • Emilie
    January 1, 1970
    What a delight! Hilarious, hopeful, and moving... exactly what we all need right now.
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