You Deserve Each Other
When your nemesis also happens to be your fiancé, happily ever after becomes a lot more complicated in this wickedly funny, lovers-to-enemies-to-lovers romantic comedy debut.Naomi Westfield has the perfect fiancé: Nicholas Rose holds doors open for her, remembers her restaurant orders, and comes from the kind of upstanding society family any bride would love to be a part of. They never fight. They're preparing for their lavish wedding that's three months away. And she is miserably and utterly sick of him.Naomi wants out, but there's a catch: whoever ends the engagement will have to foot the nonrefundable wedding bill. When Naomi discovers that Nicholas, too, has been feigning contentment, the two of them go head-to-head in a battle of pranks, sabotage, and all-out emotional warfare.But with the countdown looming to the wedding that may or may not come to pass, Naomi finds her resolve slipping. Because now that they have nothing to lose, they're finally being themselves--and having fun with the last person they expect: each other.

You Deserve Each Other Details

TitleYou Deserve Each Other
Author
LanguageEnglish
ReleaseJan 1st, 1970
Rating
GenreRomance, Contemporary, Adult

You Deserve Each Other Review

  • Nilufer Ozmekik
    January 1, 1970
    Four let’s make a party to congratulate we have a new evil-genius, sarcastic writer in the town who knows how to write a great mean romantic comedy stars!!! I think promoting this book as a great choice for the fans of “Hating Games” might be wrong. Only thing there is similar with Sally Thorne’s book is “HATING”part. The characters are not colleagues. This is not slow burn enemies to lovers story. They’re already engaged. This could be best defined as friends-lovers-enemies-friends-again lovers Four let’s make a party to congratulate we have a new evil-genius, sarcastic writer in the town who knows how to write a great mean romantic comedy stars!!! I think promoting this book as a great choice for the fans of “Hating Games” might be wrong. Only thing there is similar with Sally Thorne’s book is “HATING”part. The characters are not colleagues. This is not slow burn enemies to lovers story. They’re already engaged. This could be best defined as friends-lovers-enemies-friends-again lovers story. Because the chronology of the couple’s relationship developed as I summarized. At first the book a little irritated me. Because both characters acted like spoiled toddlers, immature brats who were evil minds trying so hard to sabotage each other or they were mostly each other’s throats! Sometimes I wanted to put duct tapes on their mouths and scold them to learn act like real grown-ups. Let me introduce you Naomi who is about to lose her job, has limited connection with her family. She is making A,B,C,D plans for her life but she doesn’t get any action. And her fiancée, our hero, Nicholas, charming, successful but also a little arrogant, snob, annoying and truly mother’s boy. Yessss, we had a MOTHER-IN LAW-ZILLA OR MOMAZILLA ALERT! Deborah, the evil queens of mother-in laws is quiet mash-up of Miranda Presley( Meryl Streep’s Devil Wears Prada character), Mary Louise Wright ( Meryl Streep’s Big Little Lies character), Eleanor Shaw ( Meryl Streep’s Manchurian Candidate character)! Okay she’s definitely evil version of Meryl Streep! SO I was about to give two stars to this book! Because first 100 pages I hate the guts of the characters. Both of them were definition of shining, rising “DOUCHEBAGS” I found it ridiculous their decision to stay together. If they hated each other so much and said so many things to ruin what they had before, they should take time off or begin to communicate about what’s happening to them.Playing games, working on multiple creative pranks might look like fun but they didn’t do anything about the elephant in their living room that not only broke all the valuable, fragile things but also is about to destroy their relationship. Naomi seemed like too much coward to get an important decision about her life and Nicholas seemed like too stubborn to end things with her. But I have to admit, the pranks they’ve orchestrated were so entertaining. Few pages later you began to root for Nicholas who was really trying to save their relationship. Without asking Naomi, buying a new house and making decisions about their lives seemed like a wrong move. But later we realized he did the right thing. Because he didn’t only buy a house, he also bought a place they could become a couple who still love each other and make things work. THINGS MADE ME RAISE MY STAR POINTS:- The second half of the book the couple made peace and realized the reasons why they fell in love with each other and they learned from their mistakes and turned into PARTNERS IN CRIME.- The part how they met made me smile too much!So yes, I had a little bad start but the witty, entertaining writing mesmerized me. I laughed so much especially the part Naomi and Nicholas’ hiding behind the closed door not to invite Deborah inside their house and telling their excuses from alien abduction to Nicholas’ real identity as Shia LaBeouf!I had great time with this debut novel. So happy I lately meet with fantastic new writers.Special thanks to Putnam and NetGalley for sharing this amazing ARC COPY with me as exchange my honest review.
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  • Cindy ✩☽ Savage Queen ♔
    January 1, 1970
    For fans of The Hating Game...Well they called and I'm here to answer
  • .
    January 1, 1970
    review can be found on my blog! this book was literally the hating game on acid 🌼review can be found on my blog! 🌼 this book was literally the hating game on acid
  • Warda
    January 1, 1970
    GIVE. ME. THIS. BOOK!!!!
  • Samantha Young
    January 1, 1970
    An honest depiction of how dishonesty in a relationship can be its undoing. You Deserve Each Other is a sharp and witty look at how relationships take work to succeed, and how being true to yourself and each other is at the very core of a romantic connection. Earthy, authentic, and laugh out loud funny, I read this in one sitting. A refreshing and unputdownable debut!
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  • Tracy C
    January 1, 1970
    This was such a great debut for Sarah Hogle!!! I went into this with equal parts intrigued and wary. I am not a fan of a lot of angst or the snippy back and forth. It gives me real anxiety. I am so glad I gave this a chance. Naomi's crazy was so funny and real. And with ALL the interaction between her and Nicholas you could feel the love under al the antics. We get to see them discover each other again and become so much stronger for it. Loved it!!
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  • Jessica (Angie & Jessica's Dreamy Reads)
    January 1, 1970
    Talk about putting your emotions through the absolute wringer. This novel frayed my nerves, keeping me on a razor sharp line between hope and despair. It is funny, this story. I'd go so far as to say that it's hilarious. It's superbly smart. Quick. Sharp. But that humor comes at the expense of the imminent demise of a relationship as an engaged couple engages in a turbulent war of roses. Their relentless attempts at sabotaging their relationship in order to get the other to break things off Talk about putting your emotions through the absolute wringer. This novel frayed my nerves, keeping me on a razor sharp line between hope and despair. It is funny, this story. I'd go so far as to say that it's hilarious. It's superbly smart. Quick. Sharp. But that humor comes at the expense of the imminent demise of a relationship as an engaged couple engages in a turbulent war of roses. Their relentless attempts at sabotaging their relationship in order to get the other to break things off rather than just ending it themselves is both funny and heartbreaking. It defines pleasure pain, this story, making me laugh out loud one moment and causing my heart to brutally ache the next. How a story can be so wickedly amusing yet invariably sad at the very same time is a true feat, and this author masterfully nails the task.i almost didn't think I could read this book as it's basically 90% inner monologue. But that's the crux of it, isn't it? The lack of honest communication between these characters is what drives this story. That lack of dialogue, the assumptions and the quiet resentment is what allows the divide to form. And in that divide lies both animosity and longing, both heartache and petty anger. In that divide lies the question of what will become of this relationship. This was truly one of the most refreshing stories I've read. It's an enemies to lovers romance that exists within a committed relationship. These aren't strangers that have yet to get to know each other. These are lovers turned strangers who've allowed tiny bits of resentment and distance turn them into bitter rivals. All the sexual tension and wickedly clever barbs exist in this dynamic but it evolves on these pages in a fresh, intoxicating new way that we've never seen before.I so appreciate a smart romance, strong writing and captivating characters. This book certainly embodies all of those things, especially the captivating characters who are likable and relatable even when they're frustrating and flawed. But what I appreciated most was the message here about relationships, about the need to always work at it, to continue to give even when you don't feel like you're getting in return. At the end of the day, you do get what you give and resentment breeds resentment just as easily as appreciation will undoubtedly breed appreciation. The distance and longing in these pages are as palpable as the fierce devotion and blissful romance. It's so impeccably done, this book, and I loved it so much. This author's writing is some of the sharpest I've read and I'll be eagerly anticipating whatever might come next. 
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  • ♠️ TABI ♠️
    January 1, 1970
    this sounds like my guilty-bored-pleasure Hallmark movies
  • Stephanie
    January 1, 1970
    I received a copy of this title via NetGalley. It does not impact my review.The cute cover and the reference to The Hating Game definitely drew me to You Deserve Each Other. Unfortunately, it was just not for me.Naomi has to be one of the most unlikable characters I have ever read. For about the first 60% of the book I really thought she’d be better suited as the narcissistic villain in a psychological thriller rather than the heroine in a Romance. She is just so, so awful and self-centered. She I received a copy of this title via NetGalley. It does not impact my review.The cute cover and the reference to The Hating Game definitely drew me to You Deserve Each Other. Unfortunately, it was just not for me.Naomi has to be one of the most unlikable characters I have ever read. For about the first 60% of the book I really thought she’d be better suited as the narcissistic villain in a psychological thriller rather than the heroine in a Romance. She is just so, so awful and self-centered. She spent the early days of her relationship with Nicholas lying to him and then got mad when he thought that’s who she was. She refused to communicate and every time Nicholas tried to be honest, she would not take any responsibility for the things she’s done wrong, but would turn it back around on him. She was so mean and vindictive. I really couldn’t stand her. Nicholas also didn’t hep matters by often retaliating her bad behavior. However, he wasn’t trying to get her to break up with him like the sick game Naomi thought they were playing, but wanted to get an actual reaction out of her and get their relationship back on solid ground.Even though I was not enjoying the book at all, for some reason I kept reading it and a little over halfway through it began to get better. Naomi and Nicholas finally have real conversations and start to make positive changes. There were even several cute and humorous moments. It made me sad that the first half of the book was so frustrating because it had the potential to be such a sweet, fun story, but the second half was not enough to make up for the first.Overall, You Deserve Each Other ended up disappointing me. It did have some funny and cute moments, but Naomi was just so unlikable for the first half of the book (and still not great in the second half). She really came across as a sociopath to me and I felt bad for Nicholas. While I wouldn’t personally recommend it, I’m sure that there will be many people that find it funny and enjoy it much more than I did.Overall Rating (out of 5): 2 Stars
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  • Angelica
    January 1, 1970
    This book is what happens when you take The Hating Game and turn the antics and schemes up to eleven!I read this book twice in as many days. Needless to say, I kinda loved it. Do yourselves a favor and add this to your TBR!RTC.
  • Tara ☽
    January 1, 1970
    you know when you read a synopsis for a book and you briefly consider the idea that there must be a god out there because they have clearly responded to your very specific and admittedly slightly niche reading tastesliterally this exact plot is precisely the book I always knew I wanted but thought I would have to write myself in order to get it
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  • sof
    January 1, 1970
    5/5 stars You Deserve Each Other is definitely going into my personal hall of fame of books that I will tell everyone to read because it was just that good. It was fun to read and it had that romcom quality that I always appreciate and look for in a romance book. The the characters’ dynamic and characters themselves were great and the development of their relationship felt organic with the entire story.
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  • konstantina
    January 1, 1970
    YOU KNOW A BOOK IT'S FUCKING GOOD WHEN YOU SKIP DINNER SO YOU CAN FINISH ONE MORE CHAPTER WOW I HOPE YOU GUYS FALL IN LOVE WITH NAOMI AND NICHOLAS AS MUCH AS I DID !!!!
  • Rec-It Rachel
    January 1, 1970
    there's part of this book that is basically wish fulfillment for anyone who has ever read an r/relationships post about an overenthusiastic-in-the-wrong-way future-motherinlaw and wanted them to get punched in the face
  • mith
    January 1, 1970
    If I had the emotional capacity to cry right now—it’s 4:48 and my device is on 20%—I would be. Do you guys ever read a book that’s just. It’s just everything you want it to be, everything you need it to be? Because that’s what You Deserve Each Other felt like. Oooh I am so happy right now. So giddy and full of light and fluffy emotions. This is one of the best rom coms I have ever read—and one of the funniest too! It’s so full of love and amazing characters and the humour is just chefs kiss. I If I had the emotional capacity to cry right now—it’s 4:48 and my device is on 20%—I would be. Do you guys ever read a book that’s just. It’s just everything you want it to be, everything you need it to be? Because that’s what You Deserve Each Other felt like. Oooh I am so happy right now. So giddy and full of light and fluffy emotions. This is one of the best rom coms I have ever read—and one of the funniest too! It’s so full of love and amazing characters and the humour is just chefs kiss. I cackled soooo many times. Ugh. I love this book. So much. It feels like my happy place. I need y’all to read it and feel the same happiness.
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  • Beth
    January 1, 1970
    Wow okay you don’t have to do that to my heart but ok** Thank you Netgalley for sending me this arc in exchange for an honest review **This book is not your typical romance. It's not even your typical enemies to lovers romance. This is a lovers to enemies to friends to lovers romance. And after reading this, I don't know why there aren't more like it.The first half of this book, it was hard to imagine how this couple once loved each other, why they loved each other, and how it was possible to Wow okay you don’t have to do that to my heart but ok** Thank you Netgalley for sending me this arc in exchange for an honest review **This book is not your typical romance. It's not even your typical enemies to lovers romance. This is a lovers to enemies to friends to lovers romance. And after reading this, I don't know why there aren't more like it.The first half of this book, it was hard to imagine how this couple once loved each other, why they loved each other, and how it was possible to fix it. I didn't know if I wanted them to fix it because neither of them seemed to enjoy the relationship anymore.So, naturally, two grown adults started playing pranks on each other. Some downright hilarious that had tears in my eyes and some so mean I couldn't imagine pulling that on my boyfriend. And somehow, that made me love their relationship even more.This book was just super fun to read because I wanted to know what the next prank was. Who it was targeted at. I quickly became obsessed with this book because I loved watching them fall in love all over again.I read Landline several years ago and I think that's the closest comparison I can make to this book. There needs to be more books with this subgenre (can you consider this a subgenre? I don't care, I am!) and hopefully 2020 is the year of lovers to enemies to lovers again!
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  • Tucker
    January 1, 1970
    okay, i just want to make it clear what this book is about...it's about a couple about to get married but they hate each other and they're going to try to get the other to leave because whoever leaves has to pay the wedding bill... so they prank each other and are awful to each otherIT'S LOVERS TO ENEMIES| Goodreads | Blog | Pinterest | Reddit | LinkedIn | YouTube |
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  • Olly
    January 1, 1970
    I've been reading like crazy lately, romances mainly which is so odd for me, but I've been flying through them, rating them, and not writing reviews. As entertaining as I find them, I can discern between a 5-star rating and a romance that is still like the rest of them in so many ways. A book can be more of the same and still be great to me. But I'm stopping in here to say that this one is NOT like the rest of them, and it absolutely deserves more than just the praise of a high rating. I say I've been reading like crazy lately, romances mainly which is so odd for me, but I've been flying through them, rating them, and not writing reviews. As entertaining as I find them, I can discern between a 5-star rating and a romance that is still like the rest of them in so many ways. A book can be more of the same and still be great to me. But I'm stopping in here to say that this one is NOT like the rest of them, and it absolutely deserves more than just the praise of a high rating. I say this for the thing that makes this one stand out from most of the rest is the voice. I haven't fallen in love with quirky characters like this in SO long, and that's across every genre (and I read them all). I haven't laughed this hard at a book in forever, and I went red in the face more than a few times trying to suppress that laughter while trying to sneak in a page here and there while at work. The main character was delightfully dramatic in the driest, most endearing way that can be imagined. Her theatrics and her overall inner-monologues were tiny books in themselves for how entertaining and clever they were. I rarely read ARCs before a decent number of others have. Sue me, I need reviews and ratings to bolster my motivation. But there was something about this one, even in the short NetGalley blurb that grabbed me, and I can honestly say that I'm so excited to see what else comes from this author. Her knack for making a single paragraph funny, poetic, dramatic, entertaining, and endearing all at the same time simply cannot be passed up. I can't remember loyalty to an author building up this fast in me. This was one of the most memorable books of 2019 for me, and I can't recommend it enough. Happy Reading!
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  • BooksandBernie
    January 1, 1970
    As soon as I read the synopsis for this on Goodreads, I was game to read what I believed would become my next favorite romance. I was sure this would be a 5-star read, this book hooked me in, and I started off loving it. I loved how this was a unique take on the enemies to lovers trope, given that it existed in an already engaged couple. I found it easy to sympathize with both Naomi and Nicholas as they both had valid points as to why they felt their relationship was falling apart. I was As soon as I read the synopsis for this on Goodreads, I was game to read what I believed would become my next favorite romance. I was sure this would be a 5-star read, this book hooked me in, and I started off loving it. I loved how this was a unique take on the enemies to lovers trope, given that it existed in an already engaged couple. I found it easy to sympathize with both Naomi and Nicholas as they both had valid points as to why they felt their relationship was falling apart. I was genuinely interested to see how these two would find their way back to each other. But maybe I just had too high of expectations for this book because a few chapters in I found myself being slightly disappointed. The main character Naomi tended to act childish. I hated how Naomi and Nicholas couldn’t just communicate with each other, and I wish we would have gotten Nicholas’s perspective as well. This book wasn’t terrible by any means; it was just a constant cycle of me enjoying a few chapters and then finding the next few a bit tedious. However, this was overall entertaining, and I was interested to see how this story played out.
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  • Sara
    January 1, 1970
    I loved this a lot. It was funny, completely deranged, and so so full of love. I think I loved it a little more than The Hating Game because the two main characters, Nicholas and Naomi, do indeed hate each other, but they also, throughout the entire book, still very clearly LOVE each other and you can truly feel it. Their journey (tee em) back to each other is a little insane at times but that makes it so much fun. Can't wait for this to come out so everyone I know can read it and die a happy I loved this a lot. It was funny, completely deranged, and so so full of love. I think I loved it a little more than The Hating Game because the two main characters, Nicholas and Naomi, do indeed hate each other, but they also, throughout the entire book, still very clearly LOVE each other and you can truly feel it. Their journey (tee em) back to each other is a little insane at times but that makes it so much fun. Can't wait for this to come out so everyone I know can read it and die a happy death.Also Nicholas is the softest boy I've read about in a looooong time. What a dumbass. He owns my heart.
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  • Lacey
    January 1, 1970
    Thank you to Sarah Hogle, Putnam Books & NetGalley for a copy of this novel in exchange for an honest review."His eyes are so black, I think I can see hell in them."This book is officially my child. I want to hold this book, squeeze all of the contents in this book, and read it over and over. I had no idea of such a concept, but this is definitely one of my favorite books that I've ever read. I took my time reading every word, and yes, it made it a longer read for me, but I really grasped Thank you to Sarah Hogle, Putnam Books & NetGalley for a copy of this novel in exchange for an honest review."His eyes are so black, I think I can see hell in them."This book is officially my child. I want to hold this book, squeeze all of the contents in this book, and read it over and over. I had no idea of such a concept, but this is definitely one of my favorite books that I've ever read. I took my time reading every word, and yes, it made it a longer read for me, but I really grasped everything that Sarah Hogle was writing. This story starts out with an engaged couple, Naomi and Nicholas. They try to show that their relationship is picture perfect around their friends, but when they get behind closed doors, all bets are off. It's really a game of who will end the engagement first. The problem is, whoever ends up ending the engagement, has to pay for the wedding items they already purchased (which was an enormous bill). With only three months until the wedding, Naomi and Nicholas do whatever they can to get each other to call off the wedding. By these childish games and showing their real selves to each other, they start to see who is actually who and how much fun they have together. A true lovers to enemies to lovers. Absolutely amazing."I tried to keep him at a safe distance where he could only see the decent parts of me, and it made us both miserable."In the beginning of this novel, it just seemed relentless. The almost childish games that Naomi plays with Nicholas. I didn't know what was going to happen, as most of the mental problems were with Naomi. It seemed almost as she was picking on him, which I didn't think I would approve of and like this novel for it. HOWEVER, when Nicholas starts going back at her, phew this novel became hilarious. Some of the stuff that they would do was laugh-out-loud funny. You could feel the annoyance and stress through every page. I think that this definitely is one of my favorites because of all of the different emotions you feel yourself as the reader. Comedy, Romance, Cringe-worthy moments, ARE YOU KIDDING ME moments, both happy & sad moments. It was just an amazing ride from start to finish.I don't care if you aren't a fan of romances, you need to read this book. I literally could not put it down. I kept reading and reading and when it was over, I was actually sad. It's been a long time where a novel has made me feel sad because it was over so I knew that this was one of my favorites ever. A great story and a great debut by Sarah Hogle!
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  • Meha
    January 1, 1970
    AHHH!!! This was a funny, sexy, sweet delight that made me laugh out loud and chest-clutchingly swoon in equal parts.
  • Sherna
    January 1, 1970
    YOU'RE TELLING ME I HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL 2020 TO READ THIS BOOK????!!!!
  • ☆ sana ☆
    January 1, 1970
    2.5 stars? authors should just stop trying to write the hating game 2.0
  • Kimberly Kowalski
    January 1, 1970
    I have read hundreds of romance novels, this one is easily top 5. This is my new favorite second chance love story. It's realistic, heartwrenching, laugh out loud funny, genuine, and all-around incredibly satisfying. What happens when you've fallen out of love? When you can't even remember how your love story began? How do you get out of said relationship with the least amount of collateral damage? Meet Naomi and Nicholas, they are stuck in Dante's ninth circle of hell as far as engagements go. I have read hundreds of romance novels, this one is easily top 5. This is my new favorite second chance love story. It's realistic, heartwrenching, laugh out loud funny, genuine, and all-around incredibly satisfying. What happens when you've fallen out of love? When you can't even remember how your love story began? How do you get out of said relationship with the least amount of collateral damage? Meet Naomi and Nicholas, they are stuck in Dante's ninth circle of hell as far as engagements go. Happy is so far in the rearview mirror Naomi can't even remember the last time she saw it. She's been playing it safe, letting things roll off her back and pretending for the world to see that she's one half of the world's cutest couple. Until one day she can't keep up the act anymore, with only three months till D-Day (the wedding) she has little to lose in her attempts to make Nicholas the one to call it all off. The Mother-in-Law from Hades, her precarious position at work, no longer knowing or trusting the man she lives with, Naomi is completely on her own and finds if the only person she has left is herself she wants to grow a backbone and show her true colors. She's hidden them for so long, she can barely remember what they are. But as she and Nicholas stop pretending to be happy and start sabotoging to break each other down she's about to find that life still has a few more curveballs to throw her way. This engagement isn't over until one of them breaks and Naomi is no longer sure which one of them will last.
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  • Sana
    January 1, 1970
    This sounds like it's gonna blow up in the characters' faces and I can't wait \O/
  • Jillian Doherty
    January 1, 1970
    This is a delightfully refreshing story, with sharp character interaction!Not only was it a irresistible page-turner, it was cool to read a romance that didn't need the extra sexy story-lines to keep you reading~ Naomi and Nick's exchanges were delightfully enough to building anticipation and delightful follow through!Galley borrowed from the publisher.
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  • Audrey
    January 1, 1970
    I had a hard time with the beginning of this book. It was compared to Hating Game, but it was much meaner with real HATE. The couple were essentially playing chicken with their marriage date and I just couldn’t understand why they were even together given their antipathy to each other. But around half way, the characters’ began to show more layers as to why they acted the way they did and their own damage. It was so well constructed. And, as the plot developed, you could see, why, things were I had a hard time with the beginning of this book. It was compared to Hating Game, but it was much meaner with real HATE. The couple were essentially playing chicken with their marriage date and I just couldn’t understand why they were even together given their antipathy to each other. But around half way, the characters’ began to show more layers as to why they acted the way they did and their own damage. It was so well constructed. And, as the plot developed, you could see, why, things were how they slowly mended. And, I slowly realized, I was really enjoying the book. So, if you feel the need to bail on the book, be patient. It pays off. I received an arc from the publisher but all opinions are my own.
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  • Crystal
    January 1, 1970
    I was looking for something a little lighter to read than the WWII nonfiction I've been reading lately, so I was excited when I was approved for an advanced copy of You Deserve Each Other. It has a cute cover, and, although I've never seen the movie inspiration for this story, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, the concept sounded like it could be fun. Maybe along the lines of Shakespearean romantic bickering. However, that was not the case for me. Did I hate this book? No, and in fact I found it I was looking for something a little lighter to read than the WWII nonfiction I've been reading lately, so I was excited when I was approved for an advanced copy of You Deserve Each Other. It has a cute cover, and, although I've never seen the movie inspiration for this story, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, the concept sounded like it could be fun. Maybe along the lines of Shakespearean romantic bickering. However, that was not the case for me. Did I hate this book? No, and in fact I found it engaging enough that I didn't want to put it down, and finished 70% of it in two days. I even laughed a time or two while reading this book. But much of the time I was reading I also spent wrestling with the characters, trying to sort out what was actually going on, because this book did not seem to align with its promotional description.The fact that the book was not as advertised was probably my biggest problem with it. Had this been billed as an engaged couple with mental health issues dealing with personal issues and finding their way back into love and a stronger relationship, I would have enjoyed it more, because I would have known what to expect. As it is, this isn't even a normal love/ hate, enemies to lovers story, as the two main characters were already (engaged) lovers who then started to hate each other, before the story even began. (Much of this is told, not shown, which is another big frustration of mine.)And yes, the characters seem to be dealing with some serious psychological baggage, especially Naomi, who appears to suffer from not only some kind of attachment disorder, but also incredibly low self esteem, and an imagination so active as to almost be delusional. As Nicholas points out, she copes with situations by disassociating with what is going on, too. She's honestly not very likable for most of the book, as she screeches and acts vindictively towards Nicholas in some pretty terrible ways, with an incredible amount of paranoia and suspicion. Perhaps this is part of why I struggled to see Naomi as a woman in her thirties...she comes across much more like a barely out-of-school new adult. Or a less likable Jenny Lawson. Or both.Nicholas has people-pleasing and mommy issues of his own, but I honestly found him much more sympathetic than Naomi for the entire book. He could be really high-handed and somewhat condescending--usually just annoying, but he made A LOT of big life decisions without consulting the woman he was engaged to. I didn't blame her for being annoyed about that, although I didn't really blame him for not wanting to try to argue the topics out with her either. But, unlike Naomi, I was never in question as to his motivations. I was mostly confused why he was ever drawn to Naomi to begin with, much less why he stayed with her. Perhaps it really is a case of opposites attracting, as Naomi could not be more opposite from his dreadfully overbearing mother. That's easier to understand once we finally see them starting to reconnect in the second half of the book, when we also begin to see what about their personalities would have attracted them to each other and kept their relationship fun at first--but that's a long time to wait to understand the connection between main characters in a romantic story.In general, the style of writing was just not my cup of tea. Everything is extremely descriptive, mostly written as Naomi's internal thoughts, in a way that blurs the line between what she's observing and what she's imagining COULD happen or be. (Ex-were the walls of one of the rooms in the new house really midnight blue with stars painted on them? Or was she seeing the room as it could be/ as she'd want it?) I kept having to reread passages to try to understand what was actually going on. These imaginative musings makes the narration confusing, and pads the book with unnecessary description so much that by the end of the book I kept catching myself skimming paragraphs to find where the action of the story picked up again. Descriptions were also extremely flowery without actually being helpful. What do eyes the color of the four horsemen look like, for example? Red, white, black, and pale? Perhaps we'll never know. The author did create a lovely setting for Naomi and Nicholas, as she details the new home and its rural setting beautifully. I was almost a third character, and sounded charming and lovely. In general, there was little in the way of true friendship or even good family relationships in this story. Aside from the rocky relationship of the two main characters, all of their family is almost cartoonishly terrible (which does not necessarily make them unrealistic, sadly). There is absolutely nothing redeeming mentioned about any of their family members, or about most of their other relationships. This isn't a healthy way to live. Even friendships were separated into his and hers, mostly revolving around work, and most of them are not particularly healthy relationships. (Zach may have been funny, but he was cruel and honestly kind of a jerk. Melissa existed only as a nemesis with a grudge. Seth was an unlikable bully). At least they realized that themselves as the story progressed, and started focusing on the few friends that they had who were healthy, but it was still staggering how isolated they both seemed.There wasn't much diversity in this story either. I realize that the setting is in the rural northern Midwest, so having one character being described as in a gay relationship (not shown. sigh.) and another who wants to move to Alaska because (possible?) native heritage was perhaps better than nothing. It was not clear, however, if Brandy was actually an enrolled tribal member, or just a DNA-test/ family legend pretendian. Not that is really mattered much anyway, I suppose, as she did not figure in the story often or for large sections, and her possible heritage only seemed to affect her decorating choices. Everyone else in the story seemed super white, straight, cis-gender, able-bodied, etc. So very white.Aside from a cute cover, and a surprisingly readable, engaging story, however, there was one other noteworthy commendable aspect of the story for me. Naomi is presented as a formerly mediocre student who has not attended college and holds down a series of dead end, low paying retail jobs. That kind of existence is something that is not often represented in books, at least in romance novels. It's a snap of reality in an often highly unrealistic genre, and I appreciated the honesty about struggles like worn-out cars, limited budgets, and depressing job hunts, and even the camaraderie that is built by working with a team of people under those circumstances. Maybe it wasn't the most cheerful part of the story, but it gave Naomi a bit of authenticity, as her experiences align with that of so many of my friends and family. I also appreciated that Nicholas, while obviously financially stable, is neither a millionaire nor a blue collar worker who drives a pick up truck. I'm not sure I've read about a dentist as a romantic hero before, but a financially stable, educated working man made for a refreshing change of pace in a contemporary romance novel.If you've read this review and thought, ooh, that doesn't sound bad, then this might be the book for you. If you can't stand flowery descriptions and/or unstable MCs, or a very white setting, perhaps look for something else to read instead. At least you have a better idea what to expect going into it than I did.Thank you, #Netgalley, for a chance to read and review an advance copy of #YouDeserveEachOther
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  • Georgia
    January 1, 1970
    I love this book. It's exactly what a romance should be (in my opinion) — great character development so you actually understand why the couple falls in love, witty banter (I laughed out loud many times), good writing, and chemistry.In less than two years, Naomi has come to despise her fiancé Nicholas — he doesn't pay attention to her while he pays a lot of attention to his demanding mother (including regularly buying her flowers) and he's left all of the wedding planning to Naomi and said I love this book. It's exactly what a romance should be (in my opinion) — great character development so you actually understand why the couple falls in love, witty banter (I laughed out loud many times), good writing, and chemistry.In less than two years, Naomi has come to despise her fiancé Nicholas — he doesn't pay attention to her while he pays a lot of attention to his demanding mother (including regularly buying her flowers) and he's left all of the wedding planning to Naomi and said overbearing matriarch. But, rather than admit defeat and give him back the ring, Naomi tries to push every last one of Nicholas's buttons, hoping her seemingly content khaki-wearing dentist fiancé will give up and call the whole thing off... then she realizes that her machinations haven't gone unnoticed and Nicholas sees right through her. So, Naomi declares war, determined to win. However, once the gloves are off she begins to wonder whether it's a battle she still wants to win, and whether she even truly knows her opponent. Naomi and Nicholas get up to totally childish Jim Halpert/Dwight Schrute-level antics that will annoy some readers, but I found them hilarious because they were all too aware how low and hateful they'd each become to the other, even as Nicholas slowly begins to open up to Naomi and Naomi begins to realize how she's as much a part of their relationship problem as Nicholas. The best part, to me, was how they begin to finally voice the pain, disappointments, and insecurities that lead them to this point and to speak up about what they need from the other person...an actual relationship not based solely on attraction! I need more stories like this one.Other great things about this book:- The humor is right up my alley: For example, Naomi names a Charlie Brown Christmas tree in their yard Jason. Plus, there are so many funny descriptions: "I don't bother to dab concealer under my eyes. As a matter of act, I dab some faint purple eyeshadow there. I look like a pilgrim with cholera."- Great side characters, though I would have liked more of Naomi's BFF Brandy.- The setting is in a small Wisconsin town (not NYC or Paris or whatever) and the characters have normal jobs (not one of them is a writer either!)- The author wrote a wonderfully encouraging acknowledgement section in the back, about how it took her 10 years to get a book published (and this wasn't the first one she wrote).Sarah Hogle, this goes without saying, but I'm here for whatever you write next.I received an ARC from Net Galley in exchange for an honest review.
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