Life Will Be the Death of Me
In a haze of vape smoke on a rare windy night in L.A. in the fall of 2016, Chelsea Handler daydreams about what life will be like with a woman in the White House. And then Donald Trump happens. In a torpor of despair, she decides that she's had enough of the privileged bubble she's lived in--a bubble within a bubble--and that it's time to make some changes, both in her personal life and in the world at large.At home, she embarks on a year of self-sufficiency--learning how to work the remote, how to pick up dog shit, where to find the toaster. She meets her match in an earnest, brainy psychiatrist and enters into therapy, prepared to do the heavy lifting required to look within and make sense of a childhood marked by love and loss and to figure out why people are afraid of her. She becomes politically active--finding her voice as an advocate for change, having difficult conversations, and energizing her base. In the process, she develops a healthy fixation on Special Counsel Robert Mueller and, through unflinching self-reflection and psychological excavation, unearths some glittering truths that light up the road ahead.

Life Will Be the Death of Me Details

TitleLife Will Be the Death of Me
Author
ReleaseApr 9th, 2019
PublisherSpiegel & Grau
ISBN-139780525511779
Rating
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Audiobook, Humor, Biography

Life Will Be the Death of Me Review

  • Maxwell
    January 1, 1970
    Loved her narration of the audiobook—you could hear the emotion in her voice. And I respect how vulnerable and real she was in this. Definitely not a book for everyone but I appreciated it and it was a good companion during my move and unpacking of many boxes.
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  • Cortney LaScola - The Bookworm, Myrtle Beach
    January 1, 1970
    This was a very big departure from the type of books Chelsea normally writes. It still had flashes of her humor (which I love), but it was pretty serious. It was mostly about her dealing with the death of her brother and mom, and then realizing her shortcomings and wanting to be a better person.It was good, and I will always be a huge fan of hers, but if you're looking to laugh, this is not the book.
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  • Tina
    January 1, 1970
    This was Chelsea's best-and most honest- memoir yet. Its still got that Chelsea brand of humor but she gets deep about privilege, politics, activism, drugs, family, and finding meaning in your life. It's really personal and probably won't appeal to every reader, but I enjoyed it. It made me think and made a great case for therapy being something for everyone. What...a delight.
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  • lit.erary.britt
    January 1, 1970
    In an effort to burst her privileged bubble, Handler, with the aid of her brilliant, unflagging therapist, unearths who she is and why. After suffering a significant loss as a child, her already awkward family shifted. This memoir is a departure from her humorous essays, and while the wit is certainly still there, this is some heavy shit. I appreciate her openness. The way her pieces came together made sense. It’s never too late to work on yourself; you’re worth it. I should probably be in thera In an effort to burst her privileged bubble, Handler, with the aid of her brilliant, unflagging therapist, unearths who she is and why. After suffering a significant loss as a child, her already awkward family shifted. This memoir is a departure from her humorous essays, and while the wit is certainly still there, this is some heavy shit. I appreciate her openness. The way her pieces came together made sense. It’s never too late to work on yourself; you’re worth it. I should probably be in therapy, tbh.
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  • Heather K (dentist in my spare time)
    January 1, 1970
    I didn't properly read reviews before starting the audiobook of Life Will Be the Death of Me: . . . and You Too!, and I expected it to be another outrageous, funny, anecdotal book from Chelsea Handler. That's not at all what I got. This book is a deep, introspective look at Chelsea Handler's life, shortcomings, and personality traits that make up the complex person that she is today. It is a serious story, and it's told very movingly and with much more vulnerability than I would have though Chel I didn't properly read reviews before starting the audiobook of Life Will Be the Death of Me: . . . and You Too!, and I expected it to be another outrageous, funny, anecdotal book from Chelsea Handler. That's not at all what I got. This book is a deep, introspective look at Chelsea Handler's life, shortcomings, and personality traits that make up the complex person that she is today. It is a serious story, and it's told very movingly and with much more vulnerability than I would have though Chelsea Handler to be capable of. If you have the chance to listen to this book in audio format, take it. I couldn't stop listening to Chelsea's voice, which ranges in tone from brazen to outraged to quivering with raw emotion. During the very meaty parts of the story, Chelsea is just opening crying while she reads. It was very enlightening listening experience for me. The story feels like a train of thought that never ends. It is like one long, gutting therapy session (at times, it is literally that). It humanized Chelsea Handler for me, who previously seemed chiefly just bawdy and tough. When I described the gist of the book to my husband, his immediate reaction was, Why would anyone listen to that? I'll admit, it's hard to describe the appeal of reading about a woman in her 40s examining her privilege, learning empathy for the first time, and digging deep into the reasons she is the way that she is. However, I found the audiobook to be addictive in a serious, contemplative way, and I had a hard time pressing pause. Go into this book looking for something different, not something funny or particularly entertaining. I found it to be a very worthwhile listening experience, and I know I'll be thinking about Chelsea Handler in a new light from now on. goodreads|instagram|twitter|blog
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  • Malia
    January 1, 1970
    This was quite a bit more serious than I expected, but definitely Handler's best book so far. If you're looking for fluff, this isn't it, but Handler does, of course, pack in her signature acerbic humor, even when she talks about far more serious stories of her life than in previous books. Entertaining and surprisingly moving at times!Find more reviews and bookish fun at http://www.princessandpen.com
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  • Antigone
    January 1, 1970
    Plunged into a full-bodied Blue State despair by the election of Donald Trump, comedienne and talk show host Chelsea Handler takes her privileged self off to therapy to discuss, among other things, privilege, gender and, eventually, the deep-seated rage and fear that informs most of her choice-making. In a candid (if scattershot) examination of her childhood, she unearths the long-reaching effect of the death of her brother on her intimate relationships, her professional goals, and the framework Plunged into a full-bodied Blue State despair by the election of Donald Trump, comedienne and talk show host Chelsea Handler takes her privileged self off to therapy to discuss, among other things, privilege, gender and, eventually, the deep-seated rage and fear that informs most of her choice-making. In a candid (if scattershot) examination of her childhood, she unearths the long-reaching effect of the death of her brother on her intimate relationships, her professional goals, and the framework of her value system.Handler is an extraordinarily frank woman; she's made quite the fortune on this trait. It would be a mistake, however, to imagine that makes her self-reflective. This is probably her first experience with introspection and the insights she comes away with are start-of-the-journey affairs. Coupled, of course, with the requisite dose of wacky asides and outrageous behavior.At a tidy two-hundred thirty-nine pages, it will fill an afternoon with chat and the occasional therapeutic chit. Above all else, an entertaining read.
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  • Kelsey (Kelseylovesbooks)
    January 1, 1970
    I've read all of Chelsea Handler's books, and this one was by far the poignant but also the most real. The humor I've come to know and love from her books is present, but she also tackles much more serious topics as the death of her brother when she was nine and her lifelong struggles with trusting those around her not to abandon her.Much of the book is told through her interactions with her therapist as she makes discoveries about herself and who she is. Life Will be the Death of Me felt much m I've read all of Chelsea Handler's books, and this one was by far the poignant but also the most real. The humor I've come to know and love from her books is present, but she also tackles much more serious topics as the death of her brother when she was nine and her lifelong struggles with trusting those around her not to abandon her.Much of the book is told through her interactions with her therapist as she makes discoveries about herself and who she is. Life Will be the Death of Me felt much more like a memoir and a turning of chapter's in Chelsea's life. I enjoyed it in a different way from her other books- I wasn't hysterically laughing quite as often, but I felt more connections to her story.
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  • Jennifer
    January 1, 1970
    Read this in one evening. It’s so Chelsea- which I love- brutally honest, charming and snarky- but she also opens up about some really tough topics, like the death of her brother and the loss of her parents, which is a side you rarely see from her. She brings up a lot of good points about the culture of endulgence and why we think bigger is always better. She catalogs many sessions with her therapist who asks her deep questions that had me feeling like I wanted go open up to someone too. Thank y Read this in one evening. It’s so Chelsea- which I love- brutally honest, charming and snarky- but she also opens up about some really tough topics, like the death of her brother and the loss of her parents, which is a side you rarely see from her. She brings up a lot of good points about the culture of endulgence and why we think bigger is always better. She catalogs many sessions with her therapist who asks her deep questions that had me feeling like I wanted go open up to someone too. Thank you randomhouse #partner for my free copy. All opinions are my own.
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  • Chance Lee
    January 1, 1970
    I miss Chelsea Handler's Netflix show, but this book explains why she quit. Lots of introspection from someone who doesn't seem accustomed to it. A few humorous stories about her dogs, but mostly serious essays about therapy. I like the acronym her therapist uses -- IAM: Identification. Awareness. Modification. And I am (no pun intended) curious about Enneagrams. I don't think I'm an 8, even though I identify with Chelsea and her journey (a word she hates, and I do too!) more than I expected to.
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  • Donna
    January 1, 1970
    I stopped reading at paragraph 2 when she makes reference to her 2 assistants.
  • Suzanne
    January 1, 1970
    This Chelsea Handler book is different from her others but I loved it even more for that reason. She tackles so many serious matters and expresses her concerns and thoughts extremely well. She showed a much deeper and more intelligent side to herself in this one. I have read her other books and knew she was kinder than people would assume but this is really shown even more so in this book. I really incredible read.
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  • Jacob Kolody
    January 1, 1970
    More like 3.5 stars but y’know…I was hoping this would be a 5-star read after all the hype but it wasn’t for me. Now in saying that, this is easily Chelsea Handler’s most well written book BUT I opened it with the hope that I would laugh out loud the way I did with her other memoirs. To my surprise, this was actually very emotionally affecting and unlike anything she has written before. It’s clear that therapy has changed her. It seems to have really opened her eyes and allowed her to dig deeper More like 3.5 stars but y’know…I was hoping this would be a 5-star read after all the hype but it wasn’t for me. Now in saying that, this is easily Chelsea Handler’s most well written book BUT I opened it with the hope that I would laugh out loud the way I did with her other memoirs. To my surprise, this was actually very emotionally affecting and unlike anything she has written before. It’s clear that therapy has changed her. It seems to have really opened her eyes and allowed her to dig deeper inside herself. She let her guard down a lot with this book and I’m very appreciative of that because, while I didn’t enjoy it as much as some of her other work, it allowed us to see who Chelsea Handler really is when she isn’t just writing a book to make us laugh.Maybe a re-read would do better for me now that I’ve got my expectations in check. We’ll see.
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  • Lisa
    January 1, 1970
    I just can't read another book about a celebrity being depressed after the 2016 election - I'm not saying I didn't feel the same.. it's just too much at this point IMO.
  • Amy Johns
    January 1, 1970
    Loved the idea of the metanoia, the Enneagram, and the Identification, Awareness, and Modification approach to self-awareness. Some elements of the memoir seemed underdeveloped or disjointed—but it was a fun and insightful and funny memoir.
  • Jenny
    January 1, 1970
    By far the best book she's written! Really enjoyed and could relate to sitting with your own sh*t and how hard that can be but how necessary it is to healing.
  • Alexandria
    January 1, 1970
    I can't believe Chelsea Handler made me cry.
  • Melanie
    January 1, 1970
    So raw and vulnerable- with a splash of that Chelsea humor we all know and love. This is not your typical horizontal smut we are used to- this is some memoir type shiit. It was surprisingly very enjoyable and made me appreciate Chelsea that much more. She faced some hard truths and got really honest with herself... and still dabbled in a double dose of ayaguasca... because of course she does. A really refreshing version of CH.
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  • Elle Rudy
    January 1, 1970
    There's a lot of self-help books on the market. And thank god this isn't one. Some people have found their way in the world, and good for them. But a few of them have turned it into a formula and commodified it, to be sold to the world as a cure-all for life's big and small problems. And people going through personal crises lap it up, hoping to find something that might work for them too.Chelsea Handler isn't doing that. She, like many of us, see the issues of the world and want to do something, There's a lot of self-help books on the market. And thank god this isn't one. Some people have found their way in the world, and good for them. But a few of them have turned it into a formula and commodified it, to be sold to the world as a cure-all for life's big and small problems. And people going through personal crises lap it up, hoping to find something that might work for them too.Chelsea Handler isn't doing that. She, like many of us, see the issues of the world and want to do something, but feels powerless. So in this book, Chelsea starts by working on the only person she has direct control over: herself.I've read a few of her books before and loved both her E! & Netflix shows, but this book feels like a new era for Chelsea Handler. She starts by acknowledging her privilege as a white woman in America. She feels spoiled and selfish for living in luxury and wants to fix those parts of her. No, most of us aren't multi-millionaires living in Hollywood, but there's elements that a lot of people can relate to in wondering what it's all for.A majority of her personal growth is in therapy. We're related the sessions she has with her therapist, Dan, and get to witness a part of her that wasn't visible to even those closest to her. Learning more about her family dynamics, the loss of her brother, then mother, explains a lot about the Chelsea Handler of today. There's a lot of useful revelations that struck a chord with me as well. I found myself getting emotional with her at times.Chelsea has always been sharp. She's known in part for being crass and crude, but is also really smart and an excellent writer. The best part of her is put on display, and that's her incredible level of self-awareness. She's not condescending in her experiences, and there's still plenty of levity and funny moments. The chapters featuring her dogs are classic Chelsea. I feel like almost anyone who reads this would get something positive out of it.
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  • Kelly 💜☕️
    January 1, 1970
    LOVED this audiobook!I was super excited when my library hold came up the day after it was released. Chelsea narrated her own book and it was extremely well done. She alternates between serious and funny topics. Much of the book was Chelsea recounting her own therapy sessions to get over her brother’s death when she was young and more recently, both of her parents have passed. She isn’t an emotional person, but this therapist had her finally processing her feelings and it was sad to hear her cho LOVED this audiobook!I was super excited when my library hold came up the day after it was released. Chelsea narrated her own book and it was extremely well done. She alternates between serious and funny topics. Much of the book was Chelsea recounting her own therapy sessions to get over her brother’s death when she was young and more recently, both of her parents have passed. She isn’t an emotional person, but this therapist had her finally processing her feelings and it was sad to hear her choked up a bit on the audio. It was fun to hear about her many experiences with marijuana, CBD, pills and other drugs. She loves dogs and has some very funny stories about them too. Chelsea got very politically involved after the 2016 election so there are many anti-Trump statements. This was such a quick listen but so well done. For something similar, check out Whitney Cummings’ book “I’m Fine and Other Lies”. Thanks to San Diego County Library for the digital audio version via Libby app. [Audio: 5 hours, 25 minutes]
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  • b talbot
    January 1, 1970
    amazingly and brutally truthful. essentially, this book is a journey of the past two years of handler’s life in therapy and i could not put it down. she writes here in such a lucid manner her experience with dealing with deaths both recent and in her past, how she developed coping mechanisms that defined how she related to people, reacted to situations, how she wanted/wants to change her behavior and how she does so.this book is also funny, very funny. i laughed out loud a few times while readin amazingly and brutally truthful. essentially, this book is a journey of the past two years of handler’s life in therapy and i could not put it down. she writes here in such a lucid manner her experience with dealing with deaths both recent and in her past, how she developed coping mechanisms that defined how she related to people, reacted to situations, how she wanted/wants to change her behavior and how she does so.this book is also funny, very funny. i laughed out loud a few times while reading. i also teared up a few as well.i think this book is good even if you have never read handler’s previous books or are unfamiliar with her in general. however, if you are familiar with her and have read her previous books, this book will be hard to stop reading. incredibly honest and engaging. great book.
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  • Megan (Sheffield)
    January 1, 1970
    Another audiobook, which Is a must for me with comedians because I find myself laughing out loud at times. This was a bit more serious for her, which I appreciated. She lets you in on her journey, with humor, and I found certain chapters very relatable which is probably why I liked this so much. I still think you have to appreciate Chelsea’s style of humor to enjoy this one, which I do, but it’s not for everyone.
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  • Joseph
    January 1, 1970
    Probably one of the easiest book I have ever read. It was good. Insightful. Loved the dialogue between Chelsea and her therapist. I shared a lot of feelings and views that she has so a lot of relatable content. This is the only book I have read of Chelsea’s. I probably won’t go back and read others just because I like the life she’s living now and will only move forward with her. Can’t wait for more to come.
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  • Brittany
    January 1, 1970
    I recently listened to a podcast interview with Chelsea Handler and one of the topics that was discussed at length was how often women like Handler (outspoken, brash, confident) are viewed as unlikable and why that is. I can definitely admit to feeling like she would be a very intimidating presence, but after reading this I feel like this is an entirely different person. She's very vulnerable and honest in this book about her past and shortcomings. It was refreshing and definitely worth a read i I recently listened to a podcast interview with Chelsea Handler and one of the topics that was discussed at length was how often women like Handler (outspoken, brash, confident) are viewed as unlikable and why that is. I can definitely admit to feeling like she would be a very intimidating presence, but after reading this I feel like this is an entirely different person. She's very vulnerable and honest in this book about her past and shortcomings. It was refreshing and definitely worth a read if you're at all a fan or curious about what she stands for.
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  • Jenny Bunting
    January 1, 1970
    I've read pretty much all of Chelsea Handler's books and I've had varied responses to them. While I enjoyed the narrative surrounding her therapy sessions with her new therapist, Dan, and stories about her dogs and the deep dive into her family issues, I found this book heavily agenda-ed. I do appreciate how straight-forward it is about her agenda; she's not trying to be sneaky. Still, I really do not like to hear about Donald Trump more than I have to or accidentally do so this book got laborio I've read pretty much all of Chelsea Handler's books and I've had varied responses to them. While I enjoyed the narrative surrounding her therapy sessions with her new therapist, Dan, and stories about her dogs and the deep dive into her family issues, I found this book heavily agenda-ed. I do appreciate how straight-forward it is about her agenda; she's not trying to be sneaky. Still, I really do not like to hear about Donald Trump more than I have to or accidentally do so this book got laborious at points. Still, I enjoyed it. Somewhat.
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  • Theresa
    January 1, 1970
    I don't have words to tell you how great this book was, but I can tell you that you need to go read it yesterday. It was marvelous, fantastic, and extremely emotional. I've never seen this side of Chelsea before, but I'm so glad I have.
  • Adauto Castrejon
    January 1, 1970
    Chelsea spills her heart out in every page. I loved it. Regardless of her opinions, this book has a message everyone should contemplate. Please read this book.
  • Paul
    January 1, 1970
    An OK book, certainly not nearly as funny as her earlier ones. One of the best aspects of the book is that she goes to a therapist to figure herself out and finds that her impulsiveness and perpetual action is partly due to her older brother dying in a hiking accident. A diverting book and easy to read.
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  • Carly Bohach
    January 1, 1970
    I enjoyed this but didn't love it like I did her other books. I appreciated the more intimate look into her life and relationships however, I wished there was more of her sass. And, I could do without all the parts about her dogs....
  • Amanda Webb
    January 1, 1970
    🎧 I. Loved. This. Book. This is Chelsea Handler at her very best. I've read most of her previous books and absolutely loved those too...I mean who wouldn't? They were funny and crude and everything you come to expect from a true comedic memoir. But Chelsea has grown up and this book, which is a huge departure from her previous books, was honest, vulnerable, and real. She takes a hard look at her life and makes a very conscious choice to recognize and talk about the impact that privilege has play 🎧 I. Loved. This. Book. This is Chelsea Handler at her very best. I've read most of her previous books and absolutely loved those too...I mean who wouldn't? They were funny and crude and everything you come to expect from a true comedic memoir. But Chelsea has grown up and this book, which is a huge departure from her previous books, was honest, vulnerable, and real. She takes a hard look at her life and makes a very conscious choice to recognize and talk about the impact that privilege has played in her success. She has chosen to become involved in politics and use her success to raise awareness of critical issues going on in this country.I listened to the audio version, read by the author, and absolutely loved her narration of the book because you can hear the emotions coming through as she describes each of her experiences and how they have impacted who she is.I highly recommend this book to fans of Chelsea, those who love comedic memoirs, or anyone looking to just learn how to become more empathetic and potentially make the world a little bit better place.
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