Motherland
"I'm reading this book right now and loving it!"--Cheryl Strayed, #1 New York Times bestselling author of WildHow can a mother and daughter who love (but don't always like) each other coexist without driving each other crazy? "A wry and moving meditation on aging and the different kinds of love between women."--O: The Oprah Magazine ("2019's Best LGBTQ Books")After surviving a traumatic childhood in nineteen-seventies New York and young adulthood living in the shadow of her flamboyant mother, Rita, a makeup-addicted former television singer, Elissa Altman has managed to build a very different life, settling in Connecticut with her wife of nearly twenty years. After much time, therapy, and wine, Elissa is at last in a healthy place, still orbiting around her mother but keeping far enough away to preserve the stable, independent world she has built as a writer and editor. Then Elissa is confronted with the unthinkable: Rita, whose days are spent as a fl�neur, traversing Manhattan from the Clinique counters at Bergdorf to Bloomingdale's and back again, suffers an incapacitating fall, leaving her completely dependent upon her daughter.Now Elissa is forced to finally confront their profound differences, Rita's yearning for beauty and glamour, her view of the world through her days in the spotlight, and the money that has mysteriously disappeared in the name of preserving youth. To sustain their fragile mother-daughter bond, Elissa must navigate the turbulent waters of their shared lives, the practical challenges of caregiving for someone who refuses to accept it, the tentacles of narcissism, and the mutual, frenetic obsession that has defined their relationship.Motherland is a story that touches every home and every life, mapping the ferocity of maternal love, moral obligation, the choices women make about motherhood, and the possibility of healing. Filled with tenderness, wry irreverence, and unforgettable characters, it is an exploration of what it means to escape from the shackles of the past only to have to face them all over again.Praise for Motherland"Rarely has a mother-daughter relationship been excavated with such honesty. Elissa Altman is a beautiful, big-hearted writer who mines her most central subject: her gorgeous, tempestuous, difficult mother, and the terrain of their shared life. The result is a testament to the power of love and family."--Dani Shapiro, author of Inheritance "Vibrating with emotion, this deeply honest account strikes a chord."--People

Motherland Details

TitleMotherland
Author
ReleaseAug 6th, 2019
PublisherBallantine Books
ISBN-139780399181580
Rating
GenreAutobiography, Memoir, Nonfiction, LGBT, Family

Motherland Review

  • Peter Zheutlin
    January 1, 1970
    Elissa Altman is the rare writer who seems to produce a gem with every sentence. Her prose is pitch-perfect and her eye for the telling detail is keen. Though her relationship with her narcissistic mother is difficult, and she's often on the receiving end of small, if not always intentional cruelties, her love and devotion to this vain and complex woman are heroic. Through it all Altman's wry humor and wit remain intact. This is a book of enormous heart and humanity. Quite simply, I loved it.
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  • Donna Hines
    January 1, 1970
    Can opposites attract? Can a narcissistic mother truly love? Can the narc daughter every truly be herself under the confines of this unsteady, turbulent, egotistical relationship?Can you truly have a maternal bond when the maternal aspect is missing?Having a mother of the same magnitude I can tell you the answer is NO!Narc mothers only truly love one person themselves.In fact both my narc parents are elderly and in need of assistance and as the days get longer it's more and more exhausting to pa Can opposites attract? Can a narcissistic mother truly love? Can the narc daughter every truly be herself under the confines of this unsteady, turbulent, egotistical relationship?Can you truly have a maternal bond when the maternal aspect is missing?Having a mother of the same magnitude I can tell you the answer is NO!Narc mothers only truly love one person themselves.In fact both my narc parents are elderly and in need of assistance and as the days get longer it's more and more exhausting to partake in their displeasures. It's become so unbearable that I've tried to completely separate from the family for my own sanity. Nothing you do will ever be good enough. You lose a sense of self when you are around this toxicity.A bottomless pit, full of emptiness, darkness, and smoke and mirrors will never be equivalent to love, value, empathy, compassion, and guidance.While one cannot in adulthood fully blame a parent for their mistakes one cannot fully ignore the lack thereof that should've been provided throughout childhood.I feel for the author but for me I couldn't connect on any emotional fulfilling level here.Thank you to Elissa, the publisher, Netgalley, and Amazon Kindle for this ARC in exchange for this honest review.
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  • Sara D
    January 1, 1970
    This memoir lays bare Elissa Altman's troubled relationship with her mother. I am from the upbringing that dictates "no one bad-mouths my mother but me", So you can listen to me complain about my mother as long as I want to rant, but you had better not chip in, because that's my mother! So, I find it difficult here to say anything about Altman's mother, but I don't have to, because I am the gentle listener to her incredibly well-written, well-articulated "rant" about her mother. But it is not a This memoir lays bare Elissa Altman's troubled relationship with her mother. I am from the upbringing that dictates "no one bad-mouths my mother but me", So you can listen to me complain about my mother as long as I want to rant, but you had better not chip in, because that's my mother! So, I find it difficult here to say anything about Altman's mother, but I don't have to, because I am the gentle listener to her incredibly well-written, well-articulated "rant" about her mother. But it is not a rant. It is a carefully documented and deeply analyzed, lovingly so, account of her life as her mother's daughter. I wholeheartedly recommend this memoir to readers of memoirs, to readers of exquisite prose, to readers seeking finely sculpted literary works. Thanks to Random House and netgalley for the arc of this book.
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  • Alice
    January 1, 1970
    Motherland is far more than just the memoir of a mother-daughter relationship. Elissa Altman’s complex story and oft-times obsessive connection to a sometimes-demonic narcissist of a mother is both an addiction in its own right; and a compulsively seductive story of passionate love, concealed rage, disappointment and a yearning for redemption. This spectacularly well written tale of profound connection is clearly a relationship that needed to be told and must be read.
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  • Lucy Burdette
    January 1, 1970
    Elissa Altman tells the astonishing and poignant story of her troubled relationship with a narcissistic mother. It's beautifully written--alternately funny and tragic. I loved it.
  • Alissa
    January 1, 1970
    Note: Thank you to NetGalley, from whom I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.Elissa Altman is a wonderful writer in the sense that with her words he enables the reader to fully picture the scenes, the people, the places about which she writes. In this case, I do feel like I know Elissa's parents, step-parents, Gaga (grandmother). I feel like I can picture both her mother's NYC apartment and Elissa's Connecticut cottage. There is no doubt, Elissa has a way with wor Note: Thank you to NetGalley, from whom I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.Elissa Altman is a wonderful writer in the sense that with her words he enables the reader to fully picture the scenes, the people, the places about which she writes. In this case, I do feel like I know Elissa's parents, step-parents, Gaga (grandmother). I feel like I can picture both her mother's NYC apartment and Elissa's Connecticut cottage. There is no doubt, Elissa has a way with words. However... this is the second book I have read by this author and just as with the first one, I am not sure I get the point of this book. I kept waiting for the "so what?" We all have crazy mothers. I am sure I am turning into a crazy mother. But with a memoir such as this, I would expect some type of redemption or resolution or meaning drawn from the stories but to me it felt more like a few hundred pages of complaining about a narcissistic mother, and then it ends, seemingly because the writer has gotten to present day so she stops. It feels a bit self-indulgent and since she doesn't share any good, redeeming, loving memory of her mother instead of eliciting my sympathy that she might be asking for through this book, she instead brings out feelings of frustration and annoyance. Elissa Altman is a talented writer and has a way with words - I just wish she used that talent and ability to produce books that are less for her own therapy and more for the entertainment of her readers.
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  • Kristina Elias
    January 1, 1970
    * I was provided with an advanced e-book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. "Give me your shorts. The pleated ones." "You hate pleats." "GIVE ME YOUR SHORTS OR I WILL KILL MYSELF."I felt badly about giving MOTHERLAND 2.5 stars. Clearly, Elissa Altman's story was a difficult one to tell, but the way she wrote it undercut her sad and dramatic story. Altman's story is about her mother and her obsession with her own beauty. Beginning at a young age, Elissa was molded into the mirror ima * I was provided with an advanced e-book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. "Give me your shorts. The pleated ones." "You hate pleats." "GIVE ME YOUR SHORTS OR I WILL KILL MYSELF."I felt badly about giving MOTHERLAND 2.5 stars. Clearly, Elissa Altman's story was a difficult one to tell, but the way she wrote it undercut her sad and dramatic story. Altman's story is about her mother and her obsession with her own beauty. Beginning at a young age, Elissa was molded into the mirror image of her mother by her mother. Although she preferred pants and T-shirts, her mother would force her into Red Red Red lipstick and luxury furs. As she grew older, Altman wished to separate herself from her mother, but isn't sure how. Though an established writer, Altman seems to love her metaphors. While reading MOTHERLAND, I noticed how many she used in one sentance. It was like she was trying to draw too many similarites to make people relate to her tale. In some instances, it was effective; in others, it was downright annoying. Two or three metaphors to describe a single moment? It doesn't read well and doesn't keep the reader interested. The author's writing was also very 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨. Some parts were incredibly detailed where it should've been vague; others were too vague where they should've have been intricately written. I didn't feel as though Altman's heart was in the novel, as if it was just a memoir she had been forced to write.Another negative: I didn't feel anything. I kept looking for something that made me feel, but I couldn't find anything. For most of the book, I was bored, as it seemed repetitive and haphazard to a point. But still, I didn't feel anything. That was a big factor in my rating of MOTHERLAND. MOTHERLAND's story, though, was well crafted. The points at which Altman showcases her mother's obsession with her own beauty are well-placed and carefully written. There wasn't anything bad about it: in fact, her mother's story and her own are equally fascinating in their own respects, although they are both sad. A second positive point: I was able to easily invision the people whom Elissa wrote about. I did feel like I knew her parents and Gaga, Susan and others. Her character descriptions were excellent and well-crafted. All in all, I wouldn't have disliked MOTHERLAND if the emotion had been there and the words had flowed better. I couldn't feel Altman - her heart, her soul. I felt like this was forced out of the author, rather than something truly written by herself rather than for herself.
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  • kglibrarian
    January 1, 1970
    After hearing Elissa Altman being interviewed by Zibby Owens for her podcast Mom's Don't Have Time to Read Books (I highly recommend it if you like books), I was compelled to read Motherland to find out more about this fascinating author.In this honest, poetic memoir, Altman catalogues her dysfunctional relationship with her mother, who was semi-famous earlier in her life. Singing on TV shows and in popular New York City clubs, Rita made it clear to her daughter throughout her life that appearan After hearing Elissa Altman being interviewed by Zibby Owens for her podcast Mom's Don't Have Time to Read Books (I highly recommend it if you like books), I was compelled to read Motherland to find out more about this fascinating author.In this honest, poetic memoir, Altman catalogues her dysfunctional relationship with her mother, who was semi-famous earlier in her life. Singing on TV shows and in popular New York City clubs, Rita made it clear to her daughter throughout her life that appearances mattered more than feelings and personal growth. With a timeline that skips around from her early life in Forest Hills, Queens to her present home in Connecticut, where she lives with her wife of 20 years, Elissa uses personal anecdotes to highlight her mother's narcissistic personality and how it damaged her and all of her relationships. Though Elissa's relationship with her father is a healthier one, she loses him too early and as an only child, is burdened with taking care of her mother as she ages. One of my favorite aspects of this memoir is its setting in New York City and its surrounding areas. She writes with such clarity about all the details that make up a New York scene, and has the ability to paint a vivid picture of each encounter she has with her mother and other family members. Although I enjoyed reading this book, I was also left with a sense of sadness because of how much hurt and abuse Elissa had to endure. I found it extremely frustrating that she did not set more boundaries for her mother, whose behavior induces guilt and shame in Elissa. At the same time I admired how much she sacrificed for her mother; her loyalty and dedication is beyond what her mother deserved at times.
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  • Amanda
    January 1, 1970
    I was interested to read this book after hearing Altman speak about it on a podcast. What really piqued my curiosity was her description of her mother as a narcissist, but one who loved her.Having a mother with similar issues, my experience has been that you can never make them happy, nothing is ever enough, and they aren't really capable of genuine love or care, so I wondered what made Altman think this.She's certainly a good writer, but I found much of the narrative repetitive, a little rambli I was interested to read this book after hearing Altman speak about it on a podcast. What really piqued my curiosity was her description of her mother as a narcissist, but one who loved her.Having a mother with similar issues, my experience has been that you can never make them happy, nothing is ever enough, and they aren't really capable of genuine love or care, so I wondered what made Altman think this.She's certainly a good writer, but I found much of the narrative repetitive, a little rambling and quite melodramatic in parts - especially with her repeated claims that continuing to live with her mother, when she was a younger woman, would kill her. If she could tell that the relationship was harmful to that extent why continue the closeness and why is she still letting her mother press all her buttons.It was a little tiresome watching Altman obsessively allow herself to be repeatedly reeled in on her mother's line, and there was more than a hint of self-pity. Which I get - god knows, I really do - but at some point you have to step up and save yourself.Altman is a grown-up and strikes me as an intelligent woman, yet she seemed (and still seems) totally unable to extract herself from this co-dependent relationship and put a little emotional distance between herself and her mother, despite what must be years of therapy. She still seems to be seeking something that she will never get from the relationship - and surely her therapist has told her this. Her wife must be a saint.And three memoirs is probably too many - far too much navel gazing.
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  • KMcd
    January 1, 1970
    I won this as a free giveaway in exchange for an honest review through good reads, compliments of the publisher. This was my first read from Elissa Altman and it surely will not be my last. The quality of her writing is astounding. I was initially outraged and furious while reading, but quickly realized that in actuality, this books is heartbreaking. I feel many reviews may reflect the subject matter and the readers’ personal feelings of Altman’s mother, which would be unfair. My star rating is I won this as a free giveaway in exchange for an honest review through good reads, compliments of the publisher. This was my first read from Elissa Altman and it surely will not be my last. The quality of her writing is astounding. I was initially outraged and furious while reading, but quickly realized that in actuality, this books is heartbreaking. I feel many reviews may reflect the subject matter and the readers’ personal feelings of Altman’s mother, which would be unfair. My star rating is a representation of her work as a storyteller and not my personal gain from the book; though I do unsterstand how some struggled with what to take away from it. I’m not certain there is anything specifically to take away, as it reads more of a therapeutic but not self pitying work. I found myself constantly mourning for Altman as the child of a narcissist, forever having love that would never be returned, as well as her mother, a woman forever grasping at love that was only vain and never true, completely blind to the unconditional love that was forever in front of her; being given without restraint or barter.
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  • Katie Devine
    January 1, 1970
    Elissa Altman's gorgeous new memoir, Motherland (her third) was the exact blend of poetry and love story I very much needed this week. “My mother is beauty and she is music, and I love her to my bones. If she is broken, we are both broken. If she is whole, we are whole.”This most primal of relationships, the most fierce and complex and formative and damaging and abiding, is mined through Altman's most intimate memories and rendered through a poet’s precise and evocative language. At times I stop Elissa Altman's gorgeous new memoir, Motherland (her third) was the exact blend of poetry and love story I very much needed this week. “My mother is beauty and she is music, and I love her to my bones. If she is broken, we are both broken. If she is whole, we are whole.”This most primal of relationships, the most fierce and complex and formative and damaging and abiding, is mined through Altman's most intimate memories and rendered through a poet’s precise and evocative language. At times I stopped to read the words out loud to hear them echo beyond my head. This love exists alongside the fury and pain—is, in fact, composed of the fury and pain—and alongside Altman's deeply cherished marital love. But love it is, and the reader is thrust into the hot center of it. Brimming with palpable longing (for both the mother and baby she needs and is never able to have), lush, serene moments with Altman's wife and the gorgeously detailed landscapes of Altman's history (Queens, Manhattan, Connecticut, Maine) Motherland is a must-read this summer.
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  • Stacie Saurer
    January 1, 1970
    **I received a Kindle version of this book as a Goodreads giveaway.**As someone with her own complicated mother-daughter relationship, this book hit home. I look at others with these magical, my-mom-is-my-best-friend experiences and can't help but feel like something is missing in my own life. Like Altman, I could never completely cut the cord and will always find my mother's life intertwined with my own. Altman's descriptions of her mom sometimes made me laugh out loud while other times cringe **I received a Kindle version of this book as a Goodreads giveaway.**As someone with her own complicated mother-daughter relationship, this book hit home. I look at others with these magical, my-mom-is-my-best-friend experiences and can't help but feel like something is missing in my own life. Like Altman, I could never completely cut the cord and will always find my mother's life intertwined with my own. Altman's descriptions of her mom sometimes made me laugh out loud while other times cringe with empathy. I loved that her story wasn't told in a linear fashion, but instead jumped from adult to childhood to college and back, as if the book was a collection of her own therapy sessions.It's been a long time since I've read something that felt so honest and unembellished. Altman held nothing back in this memoir and the result is an absolutely wonderful read.
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  • Terry
    January 1, 1970
    WHEW!!!!! WOW - So this book takes you through the trials and tribulations of a mother-daughter relationship that may indeed sound familiar to some! A bit heart wrenching at times, and riddled with an unbridled honesty about this relationship; a relationship, that is for most of us daughters, dysfunctional. We yearn for a love from our mothers that is unconditional, though the majority do not understand that concept. Many mothers have bear their children to fill their own void, to make them feel WHEW!!!!! WOW - So this book takes you through the trials and tribulations of a mother-daughter relationship that may indeed sound familiar to some! A bit heart wrenching at times, and riddled with an unbridled honesty about this relationship; a relationship, that is for most of us daughters, dysfunctional. We yearn for a love from our mothers that is unconditional, though the majority do not understand that concept. Many mothers have bear their children to fill their own void, to make them feel better based on what this child does or does not do. Motherland truly stands out - it is honest, raw and a bit unnerving. Yet in every chapter their is a lesson - when you read between the lines - lessons are created.I could not put this book down!
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  • Julie
    January 1, 1970
    Thank you to the publisher who provided me with a free digital copy of MOTHERLAND won through a Goodreads giveaway. Altman’s prose is beautiful, and I thoroughly enjoyed reading her words. Even more impressive is the characterization of her mother that creates a larger-than-life, memorable picture of a complex woman. I applaud Altman’s bravery in so openly analyzing her fraught relationship with her mother and the intimacies of her own inner life. A good memoir requires unabashed honesty, and Al Thank you to the publisher who provided me with a free digital copy of MOTHERLAND won through a Goodreads giveaway. Altman’s prose is beautiful, and I thoroughly enjoyed reading her words. Even more impressive is the characterization of her mother that creates a larger-than-life, memorable picture of a complex woman. I applaud Altman’s bravery in so openly analyzing her fraught relationship with her mother and the intimacies of her own inner life. A good memoir requires unabashed honesty, and Altman delivers. For memoir fans, this is a worthwhile read that considers most obviously the mother-daughter relationship and, more subtly, the effects of time and aging on all of our relationships.
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  • Lisa Cobb Sabatini
    January 1, 1970
    I won a copy of Motherland: A Memoir of Love, Loathing, and Longing by Elissa Altman from Goodreads.Blessed AND cursed are the tires that bind a daughter to her mother, and in her book, Motherland: A Memoir of Love, Loathing, and Longing, author Elissa Altman explores the often contradictory feelings of her relationship with her own mother. Drawing in the reader immediately and never letting go, the writer shared her story with a narrative that is engaging, funny, heartbreaking, hopeful, and hon I won a copy of Motherland: A Memoir of Love, Loathing, and Longing by Elissa Altman from Goodreads.Blessed AND cursed are the tires that bind a daughter to her mother, and in her book, Motherland: A Memoir of Love, Loathing, and Longing, author Elissa Altman explores the often contradictory feelings of her relationship with her own mother. Drawing in the reader immediately and never letting go, the writer shared her story with a narrative that is engaging, funny, heartbreaking, hopeful, and honest. I couldn't put down this memoir, not keep myself from wanting a good outcome for both daughter and mother.
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  • deborah schiff
    January 1, 1970
    For anyone who was moved by Educated, this soonto be released memoir is a must read. It exploresthe power that love bestows, as well as the powerlessness that same love can create. Theintensity of the struggle for independence, to createa life that belongs to oneself, will leave you withan emotional workout and will provide a great opportunity for some introspection. Anyone who isan only child, a daughter, a mother or is caring for an aging parent should read this and then thankMs. Altman for sh For anyone who was moved by Educated, this soonto be released memoir is a must read. It exploresthe power that love bestows, as well as the powerlessness that same love can create. Theintensity of the struggle for independence, to createa life that belongs to oneself, will leave you withan emotional workout and will provide a great opportunity for some introspection. Anyone who isan only child, a daughter, a mother or is caring for an aging parent should read this and then thankMs. Altman for sharing her journey with us.
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  • Licia Morelli
    January 1, 1970
    Elissa Altman delivers once again. From start to finish, Motherland allows us a peek inside the inner workings of a complicated and heart tugging mother/daughter relationship. Altman's voice transports us into an immediate understanding of her world, both inner and outer, and the emotions that run as a through line between her and her mother. Through humor, wit, grit, grace and pure will, Altman shows us how to navigate towards clarity within ones self. It's a book that will grab hold of your he Elissa Altman delivers once again. From start to finish, Motherland allows us a peek inside the inner workings of a complicated and heart tugging mother/daughter relationship. Altman's voice transports us into an immediate understanding of her world, both inner and outer, and the emotions that run as a through line between her and her mother. Through humor, wit, grit, grace and pure will, Altman shows us how to navigate towards clarity within ones self. It's a book that will grab hold of your heart as you move through the pages and you won't want to put it down...not for one second.
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  • Linda
    January 1, 1970
    Not a particularly interesting or well written book. The author seems to ramble on with stories that are not interesting and repetitive. This memoir is mainly about a dysfunctional mother daughter relationship with undertones of anger. Many times in the book she repeats the same stories over and over such as the mother buying red lipstick or her obsession with make up. There certainly is not a lot of subject matter in this book to write a complete memoir. Save your self the trouble and look else Not a particularly interesting or well written book. The author seems to ramble on with stories that are not interesting and repetitive. This memoir is mainly about a dysfunctional mother daughter relationship with undertones of anger. Many times in the book she repeats the same stories over and over such as the mother buying red lipstick or her obsession with make up. There certainly is not a lot of subject matter in this book to write a complete memoir. Save your self the trouble and look elsewhere for another book.
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  • Meredith Maran
    January 1, 1970
    Motherland: no matter where you go, there it is. I have my own motherhood problems, giving and receiving ends, but even if I'd never been born or given birth I would have loved loved loved this beautifully written, hilarious, evocative, addictive, brilliant, wonderful book. Whether you have a mother or are a mother or none of the above, you'll come away from MOTHERLAND with a smile on your face, thinking new, important thoughts.
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  • Penny
    January 1, 1970
    Thank you Goodreads for the win! Motherland is more than a memoir of a mother and daughter relationship. Elissa Altman is a great writer. You clearly picture the people, scenes, and the places she writes about. I'm sure this was a very difficult story for her to tell. Her mother was an obsessive and narcissistic personality. I felt much sadness for the hurt and abuse Elissa endured. Her loyalty and love goes far beyond what her mother deserves.
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  • Nicole Gulotta
    January 1, 1970
    Altman’s had a fractured relationship with her narcissistic mother since the day she was born, but when her mother took a fall and needed medical attention, Altman became her caretaker and proceeded to excavate memories that were long buried. This memoir is a poignant look at the complicated love and loathing between mothers and daughters and asks fundamental questions about family, moral responsibility, acceptance, and forgiveness.
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  • Donna Jones
    January 1, 1970
    Well-written memoir focused on the relationship of a mother who depended on her beauty and brief stardom she experienced before motherhood for her self-esteem (fighting always to show her long-dead parents that their telling her of she was homely as a child was proved wrong), her difficulty in seeing that her daughter was not a replica of herself, and the difficulties that created in the mother-daughter relationship.
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  • Laurie Lichtenstein
    January 1, 1970
    A mother daughter memoir, beautifully written that explores a very complicated relationship. What I find particularly interesting was that the story is still being written, as Elissa has not yet come to terms with her fierce loyalty to her very complex difficult mother. I definitely wanted to know more-- about her relationship with her father and her partner, whom she loves and must be a saint to put up with her mother in law!
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  • Judy Gelman
    January 1, 1970
    I adored Altman's Poor Man's Feast and Treyf, and eagerly anticipated Motherland, the story of her relationship with her beautiful, complicated mother. Altman is settled in life when her mother has an accident and becomes dependent, and the two navigate new terrain. This is a compassionate, engaging, beautifully written memoir. Altman’s honesty, humor, insight have stayed with me since I put the down (after reading in one sitting). A must read.
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  • Emily
    January 1, 1970
    I received this book from Goodreads in exchange for a review. I was pleasantly surprised by this book. I was expecting another boring memoir that read like straight non-fiction. This book read more like a story and it made it flow so much more easily. The relationship between the mother and daughter was not easy for me to relate to my own life, but because of how it was written, it made me love them.
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  • Leigh
    January 1, 1970
    I wanted this author to end the horrible cycle of abuse and alcoholism that radiated with hurt and self flagellation on every page. A very talented author who left us readers with a terse, ineffective ending. While understandable, this book felt more like a project of vengeance for a cruel upbringing, rather than a tale of personal exploration. I wished the best for everyone and hoped that they would find their way to successful therapy sooner rather than later.
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  • Joyce
    January 1, 1970
    I am thoroughly enjoying the narrative prose. I feel that I am living the memoir and am fascinated by the story. Everyone who has a mother, and watched their mother age will be drawn to this book. The story jumps back and forth in the life of the author in an engaging way. All the characters are so beautifully described that you feel you know them too. I recommend this book highly.Well, I did finish this wonderful love story and highly recommend it. No matter your age, or relationship with your I am thoroughly enjoying the narrative prose. I feel that I am living the memoir and am fascinated by the story. Everyone who has a mother, and watched their mother age will be drawn to this book. The story jumps back and forth in the life of the author in an engaging way. All the characters are so beautifully described that you feel you know them too. I recommend this book highly.Well, I did finish this wonderful love story and highly recommend it. No matter your age, or relationship with your own parents this memoir will connect with you and touch your soul.
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  • Deanna
    January 1, 1970
    I thought it was a very good book..well written. I read it in one day. I cannot really relate to it as my mother was wonderful and all 5 of her children always treated her with much respect and love. Too bad all families aren’t like that. The mother and daughter in the book really did love each other even though it was a difficult relationship. Anyway...a very good book!
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  • Janilyn Kocher
    January 1, 1970
    Motherland is a rather sad story of the author's realtionship with her mother. The mother is very self-absorbed and demanding. The author is expected to cater to her every whim and assume responsibility for her after she is unable to care for herself. I found the ending to be unresolved, there is no hint how the relationship ends. Thanks to NetGalley for the early read.
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  • Chris
    January 1, 1970
    A must read!I flew through this book in less than two days absorbing every word, at times feeling like I had written them myself. Elissa Altman’s unique voice carries the story to a satisfying end. Anyone who has ever had a complicated relationship with their mother should read this book.
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