Over the Top
Who gave Jonathan Van Ness permission to be the radiant human he is today? No one, honey.The truth is, it hasn't always been gorgeous for this beacon of positivity and joy.Before he stole our hearts as the grooming and self-care expert on Netflix's hit show Queer Eye, Jonathan was growing up in a small Midwestern town that didn't understand why he was so…over the top. From choreographed carpet figure skating routines to the unavoidable fact that he was Just. So. Gay., Jonathan was an easy target and endured years of judgement, ridicule and trauma—yet none of it crushed his uniquely effervescent spirit.Over the Top uncovers the pain and passion it took to end up becoming the model of self-love and acceptance that Jonathan is today. In this revelatory, raw, and rambunctious memoir, Jonathan shares never-before-told secrets and reveals sides of himself that the public has never seen. JVN fans may think they know the man behind the stiletto heels, the crop tops, and the iconic sayings, but there's much more to him than meets the Queer Eye.You'll laugh, you'll cry, and you'll come away knowing that no matter how broken or lost you may be, you're a Kelly Clarkson song, you're strong, and you've got this.

Over the Top Details

TitleOver the Top
Author
LanguageEnglish
ReleaseSep 24th, 2019
PublisherHarperAudio
ISBN-139780062906403
Rating
GenreNonfiction, Autobiography, Memoir, Audiobook, LGBT

Over the Top Review

  • Ivy
    January 1, 1970
    I've always been conflicted in my feelings with Johnathan Van Ness. Is it because even though I am a queer person, I've still been raised in a society meant to shame flamboyancy as weakness, a thought pattern evident in queer circles as well? I mean, yeah, probably. But I've pushed through that, and now admire Johnathan's unabashed expression of self, which is something we could all learn from. He's not just there to make you giggle when he flips his hair, Karen the Middle-Aged Mom Who Drinks Wi I've always been conflicted in my feelings with Johnathan Van Ness. Is it because even though I am a queer person, I've still been raised in a society meant to shame flamboyancy as weakness, a thought pattern evident in queer circles as well? I mean, yeah, probably. But I've pushed through that, and now admire Johnathan's unabashed expression of self, which is something we could all learn from. He's not just there to make you giggle when he flips his hair, Karen the Middle-Aged Mom Who Drinks Wine and Watches Queer Eye After Her Kids Go to Bed But Still Votes Republican!
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  • Karin-Isabella O'Connor
    January 1, 1970
    Fabulous book. Honest, raw, funny and heartbreaking. This won't be the last time I read this book. I feel the need to watch the Queer Eye series from the beginning again now. Jonathan Van Ness is such a Beautiful Soul.
  • Caidyn (SEMI-HIATUS; BW Reviews; he/him/his)
    January 1, 1970
    CW: sexual abuse, drug use, eating disorders, toxic relationships, sex addiction, cancer, death of a loved one, homophobia, bullying, and HIVToday, I took the day off my practicum because I needed a mental health day. So, I decided to pick up some library books that I need to read. This was one of them. I sat there and read it in a few hours. One sitting. Just read it straight through.This is amazing.It's a deep and heartfelt look at Jonathan Van Ness. Not all of it is pretty, but he brings his CW: sexual abuse, drug use, eating disorders, toxic relationships, sex addiction, cancer, death of a loved one, homophobia, bullying, and HIVToday, I took the day off my practicum because I needed a mental health day. So, I decided to pick up some library books that I need to read. This was one of them. I sat there and read it in a few hours. One sitting. Just read it straight through.This is amazing.It's a deep and heartfelt look at Jonathan Van Ness. Not all of it is pretty, but he brings his humor and optimism to the page even as he's writing about the hard things that he's gone through in his life. All of those harsh things brought him to where he is today. Queer Eye is just a footnote in his story. He talks about what he did before that, good and bad. Queer Eye is just the last chapter that the book deals with.I loved how honestly he talked about his experiences. As I said, they aren't pretty. They're a lot of the typical stuff that you hear about with queer stories. I also love that he acknowledges that to have good, happy queer stories that we have to confront the ugly things that are past and current actualities to be able to have those good ones.It was just a great book. I didn't expect to read it as quickly as I did, but that's what happened because it was so good. Highly recommend this one if you're going to read a celebrity memoir!
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  • Emily
    January 1, 1970
    Jonathan Van Ness has written the best of the Queer Eye books and it is SO GOOD 🙌 He’s the only one of the four who have books out now who didn’t use a ghost writer. I felt Karamo and Tan’s books were sanitized and felt fake, but Jonathan’s is overflowing with realness.He speaks frankly about some seriously hard shit in his life, including being sexually assaulted as a child, bullying, dropping out of college, working as an escort, developing a sexual compulsivity, getting addicted to meth, losi Jonathan Van Ness has written the best of the Queer Eye books and it is SO GOOD 🙌 He’s the only one of the four who have books out now who didn’t use a ghost writer. I felt Karamo and Tan’s books were sanitized and felt fake, but Jonathan’s is overflowing with realness.He speaks frankly about some seriously hard shit in his life, including being sexually assaulted as a child, bullying, dropping out of college, working as an escort, developing a sexual compulsivity, getting addicted to meth, losing his stepdad, and receiving an HIV positive diagnosis. He is 32 years old and has lived so much life.His honesty and frankness was refreshing. I loved all the connections he made to therapy and what he’s learned about himself. This book shines and is full of so much amazing advice without coming across as preachy. Plus, Jonathan includes his sixth grade report on the Bill Clinton sex scandal, and it’s super entertaining.Read this book, listen to his podcast, and respect this wonderful human 👏👏👏
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  • Jessica Jeffers
    January 1, 1970
    I do not read a lot of celebrity memoirs, but this one is a must for anyone who is a Queer Eye fan or, really, anyone who has gone through a trauma. The self-help aspects of this book are infused with actual therapeutic principles not just buzzwords and "cheer up" nonsense -- he actually brings up a lot of the stuff that I've talked about with my own therapist as I've been working to process my own long-simmering trauma. Plus, he reads the audiobook himself and that is delightful. Not only does I do not read a lot of celebrity memoirs, but this one is a must for anyone who is a Queer Eye fan or, really, anyone who has gone through a trauma. The self-help aspects of this book are infused with actual therapeutic principles not just buzzwords and "cheer up" nonsense -- he actually brings up a lot of the stuff that I've talked about with my own therapist as I've been working to process my own long-simmering trauma. Plus, he reads the audiobook himself and that is delightful. Not only does he use the goofy language Queer Eye fans will be familiar with ("strugs to func"), but you can also tell that he is choking up a bit when he discusses the difficult stuff and that infuses the audiobook with so much emotion that I was in tears for much of it.
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  • Kristin Garrett
    January 1, 1970
    The answer to your question, JVN, is yes. I do still love you, on a deeper level. I’m happy about that.I honestly shouldn’t be reviewing this, as I rarely enjoy non-fiction so this book wasn’t my jam from the start. But JVN is so I gave it a shot. My only issue is there were points that felt... rambling. And it read a bit like stream of consciousness than really well organized thought. I listened to the audiobook, and if my attention drifted for a second I’d come back to a completely different s The answer to your question, JVN, is yes. I do still love you, on a deeper level. I’m happy about that.I honestly shouldn’t be reviewing this, as I rarely enjoy non-fiction so this book wasn’t my jam from the start. But JVN is so I gave it a shot. My only issue is there were points that felt... rambling. And it read a bit like stream of consciousness than really well organized thought. I listened to the audiobook, and if my attention drifted for a second I’d come back to a completely different subject. And I ended up having to skip over the Bill Clinton essay...But, as he says, the rambling “talk your ear off” side of him is part of him, and he aspires to be authentically him so what would the book be without reflecting that side as well?
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  • Brooke Averick
    January 1, 1970
    If you love JVN as much as I do, you can’t go wrong with this book. We learn about the many “parts” of Jonathan/Jack throughout this memoir. There’s the part of him that we all know and love: the boisterous, quick witted, and bold JVN that graces our TV and computer screens. We also get a glimpse into the parts of JVN that have previously been hidden from the public: the “psychotically depressed” part with a sex and drug addiction. JVN touches on serious and important topics such as mental healt If you love JVN as much as I do, you can’t go wrong with this book. We learn about the many “parts” of Jonathan/Jack throughout this memoir. There’s the part of him that we all know and love: the boisterous, quick witted, and bold JVN that graces our TV and computer screens. We also get a glimpse into the parts of JVN that have previously been hidden from the public: the “psychotically depressed” part with a sex and drug addiction. JVN touches on serious and important topics such as mental health, HIV/AIDS, homophobia, and addiction. It’s hard to believe that the positive and bubbly JVN we see on Queer Eye has struggled and continues to struggle with these dark issues, but it is these parts that make him who we see today. As much as I liked this book, I think it is niche content. I’m not sure that this book will hold as much value to someone who wasn’t already a JVN fan or someone who hasn’t endured these specific struggles as it did for me.
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  • Sofia Wren
    January 1, 1970
    As a human I want to give this book five stars, as a writer I give it four.Once I got past the first chapter where there was so much about gymnastics and figure skating that it felt like I was reading a book in a foreign language, I got really into it. I was scared by that beginning and I think it may put off another reader who isn't a total JVN fan, hence the four stars, but I'm really glad I read it.The book has a fresh feel. I just read it, starting on the day it released and ate it up in two As a human I want to give this book five stars, as a writer I give it four.Once I got past the first chapter where there was so much about gymnastics and figure skating that it felt like I was reading a book in a foreign language, I got really into it. I was scared by that beginning and I think it may put off another reader who isn't a total JVN fan, hence the four stars, but I'm really glad I read it.The book has a fresh feel. I just read it, starting on the day it released and ate it up in two days. Once I got through the first chapter or so, which gave me a little pause, then I just couldn't stop.FYI I'm not a huge JVN fan--or I wasn't! I have barely watched any Queer Eye, but reading this book has made me a super fan. I am so moved by the message of this book as well as Queer Eye, which is about being real, being a human being, and teaching people that we all deserve love.From the moment I opened the book JVN was discussing psychological theories about trauma and family systems--things I understand because I have been on my own trauma journey. That really impressed me. I appreciate the candid nature of his revelations.I think if he had spent a little more time on the memoir, he could have maybe had it be a little richer and more impactful. But it did have a very polished feel. To me it was almost too polished, not that he didn't share plenty of raw details, but there is a layer to the story I feel like is missing but it's hard to describe what it is.I'm the kind of person who has been working on a story about my own life for many years now. I'm rounding a bend around which it is coming to completion after many years of contemplation. I was using JVN as inspiration to study how other people are writing memoir. I think the book is perfect for JVN. I think it expresses his voice clearly, is engaging, and has made me a super fan. I reserve 5 stars for super literature and amazingly crafted works of art that have probably taken people many years to write. So I struggled on how to rate this book....if I could I would do 4.5 just because...it makes me happy.
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  • Alexa Ferro
    January 1, 1970
    At the beginning of the book JVN asks, "if you knew all of my parts, would you still love me?". I honestly laughed out loud and cried multiple times reading about JVN's struggles towards self-love and acceptance that feels somewhat all too familiar yet much more drastic than you could have ever expected from someone who is perceived as a beacon of positivity. By the end of the book, I found that I did love JVN just the same, regardless of the mistakes he's made along the way but the love has shi At the beginning of the book JVN asks, "if you knew all of my parts, would you still love me?". I honestly laughed out loud and cried multiple times reading about JVN's struggles towards self-love and acceptance that feels somewhat all too familiar yet much more drastic than you could have ever expected from someone who is perceived as a beacon of positivity. By the end of the book, I found that I did love JVN just the same, regardless of the mistakes he's made along the way but the love has shifted from more than just your lovable and favorite character from Gay of Thrones or Queer Eye to more of a love, repsect and admiration of another human being who goes the struggles just like any of us who FOUGHT to be the person he is today. This book goes to show that the struggle is indeed all too real and just because you think you know or may assume, you (in actuality) really have no idea. MUCH respect to JVN for all that he's been through, I can't even imagine. The topics covered range from being a survivor of sexual abuse to recovering from addiction. Warning that sensitive material is covered in this book (that I was frankly not super prepared for). Overall, the skating references were....a lot (lol) but I LOVED the use us Russian names in place of people's real names, that made me giggle a lot, and I do HIGHLY recommend the audiobook version. If you aren't listening to the audiobook version of "Over The Top" are you even getting the full experience hunty?! Overall 5/5.
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  • Julianne
    January 1, 1970
    I LOVED this book!! JVN is such an inspiration and hearing his story made me love him even more. It was so raw and real and I feel so grateful that he shared his life story with us. The writing is funny and deep at the same time; a glorious combination. He writes lines such as “put my soul into a food processor” and then later says “I was worth saving all along”. I was seriously crying in my car. He calls himself a “perfectly imperfect mess” which is something I can definitely relate to. My favo I LOVED this book!! JVN is such an inspiration and hearing his story made me love him even more. It was so raw and real and I feel so grateful that he shared his life story with us. The writing is funny and deep at the same time; a glorious combination. He writes lines such as “put my soul into a food processor” and then later says “I was worth saving all along”. I was seriously crying in my car. He calls himself a “perfectly imperfect mess” which is something I can definitely relate to. My favorite line ever is “you are never too broken to heal”. I actually thought this was going to be light and fluffy; it turned out to be anything but. However, I’m happy that it was so raw because that’s how life is too. I’m so inspired by this story. Thank you, Jonathan for writing this and sharing your story! It has helped more than you know.
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  • Ashley Lynne
    January 1, 1970
    Jonathan is serving us Angel On Earth realness in this touching memoir. Discussing his downward spirals, family tragedies, and personal defeats gave me so much more love and respect for him, and I didn’t think that was possible. He was so open and honest and held nothing back and did a top notch job of making his reader feel a closer and more personal bond with him. His life experience has had a lot of lows and dark spots and doubts and the fact that he is the fun and bubbly and caring person th Jonathan is serving us Angel On Earth realness in this touching memoir. Discussing his downward spirals, family tragedies, and personal defeats gave me so much more love and respect for him, and I didn’t think that was possible. He was so open and honest and held nothing back and did a top notch job of making his reader feel a closer and more personal bond with him. His life experience has had a lot of lows and dark spots and doubts and the fact that he is the fun and bubbly and caring person that we all know and love is an absolute miracle. We are lucky to have him.Also, one thing that’s apparent in this book is that Jonathan makes a comeback harder than Miss Britney Spears. 🙌I listened to the audiobook. I just felt like it was the only way to go. If you’re at all a JVN fan then you can probably agree with me that reading this in his voice is just the best! 😍
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  • Stephanie Hiddleston
    January 1, 1970
    This queen is from now on my absolute role model as I am deeply impressed how a person could have gone through all the versions of hell he went through and still got himself out of it, learning to love himself and the world so fiercely. I wish to be as Jonathan and love myself as much as he would love me.If we all could be a bit more like Jonathan, the world would a better place.I devoured this book in two days, as it is enticingly written and doesn't spare us anything - and in the end that's wh This queen is from now on my absolute role model as I am deeply impressed how a person could have gone through all the versions of hell he went through and still got himself out of it, learning to love himself and the world so fiercely. I wish to be as Jonathan and love myself as much as he would love me.If we all could be a bit more like Jonathan, the world would a better place.I devoured this book in two days, as it is enticingly written and doesn't spare us anything - and in the end that's why it's so interesting and also important.I bow to the queen.
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  • Patricia
    January 1, 1970
    Devoured this
  • Brianna | RainyDaysAndStormyNights
    January 1, 1970
    A beautifully raw and honest story.
  • JoScho
    January 1, 1970
    If you love QE and JVN then this book is a must. I did it in audio because of course I wanted to hear it in his voice. While there are many funny parts, there are so many honest, vulnerable, and open parts that make me love him even more. Loved it so much.
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  • Csimplot Simplot
    January 1, 1970
    Excellent book!!!
  • Kristin C.
    January 1, 1970
    YAaas!!!I loved Jonathan Van Ness the instant I saw him on Queer Eye. (The other four are just as fabulous, but this is not their book.) it is easy to be drawn to such personality, wondering how one body could possibly contain it all that energy and positivity. I became a fan of the show, a follower on social media, podcast listener—all things JVN. Beyond his public presentation, I had “gotten curious” about his life behind, before the spotlight. I wanted this book before I even knew there was a YAaas!!!I loved Jonathan Van Ness the instant I saw him on Queer Eye. (The other four are just as fabulous, but this is not their book.) it is easy to be drawn to such personality, wondering how one body could possibly contain it all that energy and positivity. I became a fan of the show, a follower on social media, podcast listener—all things JVN. Beyond his public presentation, I had “gotten curious” about his life behind, before the spotlight. I wanted this book before I even knew there was a book, and I’ve been awaiting for September 24 ever since. (Jonathan, you did not disappoint. And I want to tell you I still love you. Not only do I still love you, I love you more.)I read OVER THE TOP: A RAW JOURNEY TO SELF-LOVE in one sitting. As I read, I could hear the words in his voice, and I’m not sure whether to attribute that to the strength of his personality or to the writing. Why choose? It’s both. I can’t progress without comment on the courage it took to write this. It’s difficult for us to make ourselves vulnerable even to our loved ones, those with whom we are forming new relationships or already have relationships. I can’t imagine having that courage to throw yourself out there to the multitudes. That is heroic. Such heroism will change, uplift and save lives. Told basically in chronological order, OVER THE TOP begins with “baby Jack” in Quincy, Illinois, and ends with the author ON top. The author does not over-sentimentalize the heartbreaks and horrors along the way. He lets the words do the work for him, and work they do. I was moved to tears and laughing out loud again in minutes. It’s hard for me to write this as I am a prejudiced no-holds-barred cheerleader for the author and I find myself addressing the wonder of what is branded JVN. Bestselling author can be added to his accolades. IT’S A FUCKING GOOD BOOK. And the writing reflects that wonder of a person with candid, never-wavering brutal honesty. There is no shock factor. No heart-plucking. No demonization. It is neither pedantic or pejorative, and it could be, if it wasn’t written by such an open, ballsy, gutsy, loving, witty, imaginative, determined, loyal, garrulous, courageous QUEEN. However, any life lessons to be extracted are not at all exclusive to the LGBTQ+ community. I’ve written this immediately after reading. Perhaps I should have reflected longer when I might be more objective instead of spilling profuse praise. Whatever. OVER THE TOP ranks 5+ stars.
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  • Pam Faste aka Peejakers
    January 1, 1970
    JVN tells his story in a rambling, sometimes slightly uneven way, but I not only really enjoyed this, I got a lot out of it on a personal level, in a serious kind of way. He is, of course, OTT AF in all the ways, what else? And irrepressibly loquacious, endearingly goofy, often hilarious, gloriously queer and nonbinary, and just, in every other way, unapologetically his own beautiful self.  And I appreciate the way he doesn't present a curated version of himself here, "the sweetheart of Queereye JVN tells his story in a rambling, sometimes slightly uneven way, but I not only really enjoyed this, I got a lot out of it on a personal level, in a serious kind of way. He is, of course, OTT AF in all the ways, what else? And irrepressibly loquacious, endearingly goofy, often hilarious, gloriously queer and nonbinary, and just, in every other way, unapologetically his own beautiful self.  And I appreciate the way he doesn't present a curated version of himself here, "the sweetheart of Queereye", but reveals himself very much "warts and all", i.e., as a human being with weaknesses & flaws, who has had dark times, who lives with the effects of trauma and a chronic physical condition, who has made mistakes; as someone who has been and will continue to be a mess at times - as will we all. And that's not only brave. It makes it all the more powerful, his message of self-acceptance as embodied by this book. He really, really gets it about that.Lots of his story resonated, though my life on the face of it has been nothing like his. But that's kinda the thing with resonance, it's not the specific details that matter. I think this is my favorite quote: "I found a lot of my healing when I realized my suffering didn't undo my joy." That is, wow, yeah, such an important truth and one not easily arrived at. You can read or think and even believe words like that, and still not really get it. Until you do. And then it's life changing.The dedication of this book makes a perfect recc: "Imperfection is beautiful. To anyone who has ever felt broken beyond repair, this is for you. If you've ever been excluded or told you were not enough, know that you are enough, and beautifully complete."
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  • Madeline O'Rourke
    January 1, 1970
    Realistically, I never expected to dislike Over the Top. Only if it were truly that bad would have disliked content from someone I admire as much as Jonathan Van Ness. In a relatively small number of pages, Van Ness gets through a lot. Much of the book deals with pretty heavy topics and he does not mince words—he gets straight to the point, not skirting around topics that are painful or uncomfortable (and that's certainly a deliberate decision that reflects that we shouldn't be so weird about ta Realistically, I never expected to dislike Over the Top. Only if it were truly that bad would have disliked content from someone I admire as much as Jonathan Van Ness. In a relatively small number of pages, Van Ness gets through a lot. Much of the book deals with pretty heavy topics and he does not mince words—he gets straight to the point, not skirting around topics that are painful or uncomfortable (and that's certainly a deliberate decision that reflects that we shouldn't be so weird about talking about what's painful or uncomfortable). From sexual abuse to addiction, death and illness, and just trying to find a place in the world; it's heavy stuff, but Van Ness is clearly in a good place in his life to be talking about these things and that makes a world of a difference in how they're presented. I will say that I think reading Over the Top could be a struggle if you're not familiar with Van Ness or his speech patterns. The book reads exactly as he speaks and sometimes the sentences are clunky or don't really quite make sense. With Van Ness' voice in my head, it was more navigable, but I imagine it would be less enjoyable and more confusing without his voice there. So in that way, like a lot of celebrity memoirs, it's a great read for those who are already a fan of Van Ness. And though I didn't listen to the audiobook, I can confidently assume that it would be a delight to listen to.
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  • Courtney Savage
    January 1, 1970
    Absolutely incredible read. One of the most raw and authentic personal narratives I have ever read. I have always admired JVN, but knowing about all of the things he has struggled with and seeing him still be an icon for self-care and self-love gives me all the respect in the world for him. I enjoyed this book so much. It made me laugh, it almost made me cry several times, and through it all JVN writes a gripping narrative of his life and does so in hopes to educate others about difficult topics Absolutely incredible read. One of the most raw and authentic personal narratives I have ever read. I have always admired JVN, but knowing about all of the things he has struggled with and seeing him still be an icon for self-care and self-love gives me all the respect in the world for him. I enjoyed this book so much. It made me laugh, it almost made me cry several times, and through it all JVN writes a gripping narrative of his life and does so in hopes to educate others about difficult topics like abuse and HIV/AIDs. I learned a lot from this book and I am sure I will revisit it again in the future. Queer representation.
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  • Hope
    January 1, 1970
    This is the first of the fab five books I’ve read. I was truly moved by JVN’s authenticity, courage, and honesty shared throughout his book. Peeling back a layer into his life was something he didn’t have to do. I couldn’t help but copy down some of my favorite lines because of how I could relate or it was something worth taking note of. Overall, I appreciated how Jonathan shows how we can take a perception of someone and assume their story based on that. What we need to do is remain open and un This is the first of the fab five books I’ve read. I was truly moved by JVN’s authenticity, courage, and honesty shared throughout his book. Peeling back a layer into his life was something he didn’t have to do. I couldn’t help but copy down some of my favorite lines because of how I could relate or it was something worth taking note of. Overall, I appreciated how Jonathan shows how we can take a perception of someone and assume their story based on that. What we need to do is remain open and understand people definitely have more to them than what they initially share.
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  • Jessica
    January 1, 1970
    The New York Times profile of JVN/this book really covered it all. There's more detail, of course, but the profile follows the book beat by beat, so you aren't going to be surprised. I recommend the audio, which Jonathan reads himself.
  • Jay Caughren
    January 1, 1970
    Really enjoyed the store of JVN’s life. I never expected it to have so many turns, twists, shocks and more - with this book, the quote the middle is messy comes to mind. More than that though, I love that the author shares his story, how it happened, and how he has come to love the person the experiences created. Highly recommend!
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  • Jennifer Girard
    January 1, 1970
    I love Queer Eye so much ! Jonathan is my little ray of sunshine in the show and let me tell you how surprised I was while listening to this book ! I can't believe everything he went through ! I love him even more now after learning all that ! If you are a fan of the show please listen to the audiobook !
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  • Courtney Pate
    January 1, 1970
    I am so in love with JVN. I learned so much about him, and myself, throughout this book. He’s funny, serious, and has gone through way more than anyone would think. I love how insightful he is. He talks about loving all of your parts and it really resonated with me. It’s something I seriously need to work on, but he definitely gives you the tools to get you started!
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  • Bailee Barfield
    January 1, 1970
    I loved JVN before downloading this book, but after getting through I have a newfound respect for this person who is a beacon of positivity and joy for so many but has struggled through the worst of the worst to get there. Don’t read, definitely listen to JVN’s narration (if for nothing else than to hear him talking about eating Poptarts as a kid) - it’s so worth it 😊❤ I loved JVN before downloading this book, but after getting through I have a newfound respect for this person who is a beacon of positivity and joy for so many but has struggled through the worst of the worst to get there. Don’t read, definitely listen to JVN’s narration (if for nothing else than to hear him talking about eating Poptarts as a kid) - it’s so worth it 😊❤️
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  • Allysson Murphy-Floyd
    January 1, 1970
    I cried so many times.As JVN goes through his childhood into his twenties, being so painfully vulnerable, I ran through so many emotions. From joy, to horror, to sadness, to relief, to happiness. Not necessarily in that order. So clearly written in his voice, his vulnerability in this book is astounding.
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  • Kimberly Russell
    January 1, 1970
    I thought I knew JVN but it turns out I know absolutely nothing. While he is a bright, joyous ray of light he's struggled with some really dark things; and it makes his bubbly personality all the more impressive and loveable. I can't campaign enough for this to be listed to on audio, it's a must.
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  • Rachel Bass
    January 1, 1970
    I love JVN, but respect Jonathan Van Ness so much more after reading such a raw, gutsy, and hilarious tell all. He is the real deal, and encourages us all - despite the demons of our past and the disparaging inner critics of our present, that we are 100% enough, exactly as we are. Yassss, queen!
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  • Dany
    January 1, 1970
    Jonathan Van Ness has been one of my favorite celebrities since he jumped into fame with Queer Eye. He is honest, scandalous and hilarious... and this book gave me that.I heard the Audible edition and for me listening to him telling those stories was the cherry on top.
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