I Miss You When I Blink
“I've spent my adult life prowling bookshelves for the modern-day reincarnation of my favorite authors—Nora Ephron, Erma Bombeck, Jean Kerr, and Laurie Colwin—all rolled into one...Good news: I have finally found their successor.” —Elisabeth Egan, The Washington PostAcclaimed essayist and bookseller Mary Laura Philpott presents a charmingly relatable and wise memoir-in-essays about what happened after she checked off all the boxes on her successful life’s to-do list and realized she might need to reinvent the list—and herself. Mary Laura Philpott thought she’d cracked the code: Always be right, and you’ll always be happy. But once she’d completed her life’s to-do list (job, spouse, house, babies—check!), she found that instead of feeling content and successful, she felt anxious. Lost. Stuck in a daily grind of overflowing calendars, grueling small talk, and sprawling traffic. She’d done everything “right,” but she felt all wrong. What’s the worse failure, she wondered: smiling and staying the course, or blowing it all up and running away? And are those the only options?In this memoir-in-essays full of spot-on observations about home, work, and creative life, Philpott takes on the conflicting pressures of modern adulthood with wit and heart. She offers up her own stories to show that identity crises don’t happen just once or only at midlife; reassures us that small, recurring personal re-inventions are both normal and necessary; and advises that if you’re going to faint, you should get low to the ground first. Most of all, Philpott shows that when you stop feeling satisfied with your life, you don’t have to burn it all down and set off on a transcontinental hike (unless you want to, of course). You can call upon your many selves to figure out who you are, who you’re not, and where you belong. Who among us isn’t trying to do that?Like a pep talk from a sister, I Miss You When I Blink is the funny, poignant, and deeply affecting book you’ll want to share with all your friends, as you learn what Philpott has figured out along the way: that multiple things can be true of us at once—and that sometimes doing things wrong is the way to do life right.

I Miss You When I Blink Details

TitleI Miss You When I Blink
Author
LanguageEnglish
ReleaseApr 2nd, 2019
PublisherAtria Books
ISBN-139781982102807
Rating
GenreNonfiction, Writing, Essays, Autobiography, Memoir

I Miss You When I Blink Review

  • Elyse Walters
    January 1, 1970
    Audiobook.. narrated by the author. Mary Laura Philpott is so enjoyable!!.....wise, savvy, smart, funny! “What happens when you check off off the boxes on your to-do list and realize you might need to reinvent the list—and yourself?”Maybe.....that’s why most of us never complete our to-do lists....we’re afraid to reinvent ourselves. Ha!Very satisfying Audiobook.....looking at life in CHUNKS!!!! “I Miss You When I Blink”..is marvelous!!!!
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  • Tyler Goodson
    January 1, 1970
    This book will make you feel better. Mary Laura is open and honest about personal anxiety, family life, professional complacency, and, of course, the existential damage wreaked by Atlanta traffic. She makes you feel less alone, and encouraged, and confident. It's like hanging out with your best friend, your life coach, and your favorite writer all at once. I Miss You When I Blink is an impossibly perfect reading experience.
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  • Skyler Autumn
    January 1, 1970
    2 Stars Ummmm, this was not great and I'm a little surprised by that. This book is quite hyped up and being compared to a personal favourite read of mine The Rules Don't Apply by Ariel Levy so I did go into this book expecting a lot more substance than was actually delivered. I Miss You When I Blink was slated as a collection of personal essays that address feelings of depression, anxiety and inadequacy amidst having what most (everyone honestly) would classify as a very successful, loving and 2 Stars Ummmm, this was not great and I'm a little surprised by that. This book is quite hyped up and being compared to a personal favourite read of mine The Rules Don't Apply by Ariel Levy so I did go into this book expecting a lot more substance than was actually delivered. I Miss You When I Blink was slated as a collection of personal essays that address feelings of depression, anxiety and inadequacy amidst having what most (everyone honestly) would classify as a very successful, loving and well-rounded life. Now I'm not on the bandwagon of most people that are rolling their eyes at what they classify as "white privilege problems." Honestly I don't care where you're at in life everyone is entitled to their feelings and if you're writing about your life that's just the beach you're coming from. So for me the subject matter wasn't the issue it was the way it was delivered. This book was suppose to be about the author going through a hard time in her life yet at no point did any of these essays dive deep enough to capture that. They were less about life stories and more about personal mantras or letters of appreciation to type-a personalities which just came across like one of those therapy exercises where you have to write an imaginary letter to someone or something of significance. Which I assume is quite therapeutic to write but it is quite dull to read. It just felt like the whole time I was trying to understand why she was sad, and if she even was that sad, and wait is it cause we all die in the end? When a book is this generic and surface it just doesn't impact you, and honestly I'd give it an hour before I'm no longer am able to recap what I just read to anyone. Bit bummed I thought this book was going to be really great.
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  • Janelle • She Reads with Cats
    January 1, 1970
    Thank you so much Atria Books for my free copy! I MISS YOU WHEN I BLINK is a personal, witty, and heartfelt collection of essays where every sentence is pure gold. Philpott writes beautifully and with such authenticity I felt like I was getting to know a friend. Like everyone, there are milestones in my life that I want to go back and revisit but the moments are gone and memories are all that is left. “You can stand by your past decisions even if they took you to a present where you don’t belong Thank you so much Atria Books for my free copy! I MISS YOU WHEN I BLINK is a personal, witty, and heartfelt collection of essays where every sentence is pure gold. Philpott writes beautifully and with such authenticity I felt like I was getting to know a friend. Like everyone, there are milestones in my life that I want to go back and revisit but the moments are gone and memories are all that is left. “You can stand by your past decisions even if they took you to a present where you don’t belong anymore.”This memoir style essay collection especially spoke to me regarding living up to self-proclaimed expectations and the worry that comes with that. Philpott touches on identity, anxiety, family, career, and failure, all in a very insightful, relatable, and intelligent way. I laughed out loud, and at moments felt very sad, but I enjoyed every minute of it. Her message of it’s alright not to be perfect is encouraging and hopeful. This was the perfect book for me to read right now - pure perfection.
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  • lit.erary.britt
    January 1, 1970
    Smart, witty personal essays are some of my favorite reading. Philpott reminds us that being an adult, even one who seemingly has everything, is hard and periodically sucks. Sometimes we have to step back and assess ourselves; tweak a few things or make drastic changes. As someone who has moved a lot, I understand that urge (though, like Philpott, I currently reside in the Nashville area and quite like it). I enjoyed these stories, but feel like they scratch the surface. I’d read the hell out of Smart, witty personal essays are some of my favorite reading. Philpott reminds us that being an adult, even one who seemingly has everything, is hard and periodically sucks. Sometimes we have to step back and assess ourselves; tweak a few things or make drastic changes. As someone who has moved a lot, I understand that urge (though, like Philpott, I currently reside in the Nashville area and quite like it). I enjoyed these stories, but feel like they scratch the surface. I’d read the hell out of a full-on memoir.Thank you to NetGalley and Atria Books for the opportunity to read and review this collection!
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  • Jessica Jeffers
    January 1, 1970
    Believe the hype on this one; it's flippin' brilliant. More to come.
  • Kristy K
    January 1, 1970
    3.5 StarsI’m learning that I really like memoirs in essay form, or maybe just essays in general. Philpott fills hers with relatable anecdotes and a great mixture of humor and authenticity. I received an advanced copy through Netgalley in return for an honest review.
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  • Renee (itsbooktalk.com)
    January 1, 1970
    4.5 rounded up “I know already how much I miss things that happened in the past- how they’re right there behind my eyelids but also gone forever. “This quote and so many others in @marylauraphilpott ‘s new memoir really spoke to me. As a mom to one son already in college and the next (and last) son heading there in the fall, I often wish I could go back in time, just for a day and revisit them when they were young children. Those moments are right there in my memory, but as Mary said...gone fore 4.5 rounded up “I know already how much I miss things that happened in the past- how they’re right there behind my eyelids but also gone forever. “This quote and so many others in @marylauraphilpott ‘s new memoir really spoke to me. As a mom to one son already in college and the next (and last) son heading there in the fall, I often wish I could go back in time, just for a day and revisit them when they were young children. Those moments are right there in my memory, but as Mary said...gone forever. I don’t want to give the impression this was at all a sad book, in fact, it was just the opposite. I laughed at so many of Mary’s accurate observations and I related to just about everything in this book! I finally had to give up highlighting quotes on my kindle since there was so much I wanted to remember and will just wait until the book is released so I can buy my own copy:) Written in a conversational style, this funny, insightful, and poignant memoir reads like an evening of wine and honest conversation with your closest friend! I loved it!
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  • Brittany | thebookishfiiasco
    January 1, 1970
    (@atriabooks #partner).this was one of the most pleasant, funny, real, honest, and friendly reads i’ve ever read. every time i had this book with me and read a few of the stories, i felt like i was with a friend. that’s some pretty stellar writing, if you ask me. each story encapsulated a bit of wisdom, a bit of humor, and a lot of realness, which is pretty much all i’m ever looking for. i think it’s that authenticity that made this book the great experience that it was for me. i felt like i wal (@atriabooks #partner).this was one of the most pleasant, funny, real, honest, and friendly reads i’ve ever read. every time i had this book with me and read a few of the stories, i felt like i was with a friend. that’s some pretty stellar writing, if you ask me. each story encapsulated a bit of wisdom, a bit of humor, and a lot of realness, which is pretty much all i’m ever looking for. i think it’s that authenticity that made this book the great experience that it was for me. i felt like i walked away from this having learned information i want to remember in my own life, while i had moments of laughter, moments of sad, and overall didn’t want it to end. highly recommend you read this, especially if you’re looking for some direct, feel good realness..5/5 ✨
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  • Kelsey (Kelseylovesbooks)
    January 1, 1970
    I Miss You When I Blink spoke to a spiritual level within me. At times, it was like Mary was looking into my soul and saying “As a type-A person who likes control, I know you need to hear this.” And within the essay titled “A Letter to the Type a Person in Distress”, that is literally what she was doing. I felt seen by this book, I laughed during this book, and I gained permission I didn’t know I needed from this book.Several essays are about Mary’s life with children, and while I do not have ch I Miss You When I Blink spoke to a spiritual level within me. At times, it was like Mary was looking into my soul and saying “As a type-A person who likes control, I know you need to hear this.” And within the essay titled “A Letter to the Type a Person in Distress”, that is literally what she was doing. I felt seen by this book, I laughed during this book, and I gained permission I didn’t know I needed from this book.Several essays are about Mary’s life with children, and while I do not have children, I still found the essays humorous and knew that if I did/do have children, this is likely exactly how I will be as a parent. I could have read twenty more essays by her, and I hope that in the future she publishes another set of essays, because I would definitely read it. I received an ARC of this book via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
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  • Melanie Hilliard
    January 1, 1970
    3.5 stars with the caveat that if you’re a certain class of white woman on the far side of 40, this might hit a little too close to home. Also, full disclosure: I won this in a Goodreads give away!Charming. Thought-provoking. And infuriating in the all the ways today’s upper middle-class white women can be. Or maybe I just related to Philpott’s essays more than I’d care to admit. I imagine if I had children, this book would describe my adult experiences to a tee.For all the overachievers in the 3.5 stars with the caveat that if you’re a certain class of white woman on the far side of 40, this might hit a little too close to home. Also, full disclosure: I won this in a Goodreads give away!Charming. Thought-provoking. And infuriating in the all the ways today’s upper middle-class white women can be. Or maybe I just related to Philpott’s essays more than I’d care to admit. I imagine if I had children, this book would describe my adult experiences to a tee.For all the overachievers in the group, you’ve been there. Checking off the boxes, moving from one accomplishment to another. Always top of the class. Always. But suddenly you find yourself an adult, no more boxes to check off, lost. And your mind starts to wander, seeking that time machine. Where’s that Melanie who stayed in Chicago after college to work on the Jenny Jones Show? Where’s that Melanie who took the job as a brand manager for Charles David shoes? See the thing is, I want to know. I want to know in my very bones where these “other Melanies” are playing out their lives, only I cannot. There is no choose your own adventure where you can skip to the ending, just this one life you’re living. For the friends who are younger than I am, you may already have glimpsed this, but Philpott’s essays are a great reminder: it goes so fast. So fast! You will wake up to realize you’re closer to 50 than 25 and can’t imagine where all that sand slipped through your fingers. It gets worse and it gets better. And now for the infuriating part, and kudos to Philpott for tackling it head on: I feel like such an ungrateful bitch. I am well educated, financially secure, have access to healthcare, and here I am whining about my lack of accomplishments. Privilege can smack you in the face, too. But does it? Worth discussing. PS I’ve totally journaled episodes of the Young & the Restless during school break in elementary and junior high. Hey, we grew up before the inter webs, what do you expect!?
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  • Jaclyn Crupi
    January 1, 1970
    Smart and funny essays. ‘Good Job’ hit particularly close to home. I do prefer essays from minority voices and this is definitely from a wealthy, privileged white woman but her voice is authentic and her experiences her own.
  • Andrea (Born and Read in Chicago)
    January 1, 1970
    This collection of essays was super high on my to-be-read list. Two of my favorite books of 2018 could be described similarly (Heating & Cooling and Tell Me More). And on paper, this practically shouts YOU ARE THE TARGET AUDIENCE. I was born a year before the author and have checked all those boxes and, yes, can sometimes be type-A and a little anxious. Plus she works at Parnassus! It's blurbed by Ann Patchett! Although, while relatable in many ways, it didn't engage me like I hoped it would This collection of essays was super high on my to-be-read list. Two of my favorite books of 2018 could be described similarly (Heating & Cooling and Tell Me More). And on paper, this practically shouts YOU ARE THE TARGET AUDIENCE. I was born a year before the author and have checked all those boxes and, yes, can sometimes be type-A and a little anxious. Plus she works at Parnassus! It's blurbed by Ann Patchett! Although, while relatable in many ways, it didn't engage me like I hoped it would.This is most likely boils down to a case of "it's not you, it's me" as I'm rather finicky about my nonfiction. If I'm going to read a memoir, I think it needs to be about someone already interesting I want to learn more about (Busy Philips), a fascinating subject I want to learn more about (any Bill Bryson book, Lab Girl) or really emotionally vulnerable, which I'd argue all of the examples I mentioned fit that bill. These essays, while revealing, felt like quick and fleeting anecdotes that were heavy on her personal philosophy and light on her life experiences. I mean, I feel as if I know Kelly Corrigan's entire network of friends and family and want to hug them all. I can't even remember Philpott's husband's name. Perhaps I should have taken the 'essays' in lieu of 'memoir' in the title to heart. I got the impression that the main thrust of the book is that we all have our struggles and we are still valid in feeling our pain, even though it may seem less than others people's pain. This message seemed to repeat in a variety of humorous ways, especially her metaphors: from DVF dresses to buckets of crabs or chocolate chip cookies are utilized in unlikely ways. Though very true, I often thought that she was stating the obvious. I think that's why this collection will resonate for those looking for a laugh. Good humor usually employs empathy, the old "funny because it's true" and we all laugh because we can relate. Witty, for sure, but I didn't feel moved or enlightened. The description also states 'you don't have to set of on a transcontinental hike' to feel satisfied with your life. Yet, essentially, she does run away and has the privilege to do so. Philpott absolutely calls out her privilege, at least, dedicating an entire chapter to the subject. But I am not sure she gets the extent of it, if she doesn't consider being able to flee her life (even if it's for a short time because of a house sitting gig) an enormous privilege that ends up affording her great opportunities. If you're a fan of humorously written essays about the everyday struggles of a white, middle aged mom balancing career and family, this would certainly fit the bill. I'd say it's a good read alike to Anna Quindlen's Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake. Definitely well written, just not to my taste.Many thanks to Atria Books and NetGalley for the complimentary advance digital copy in exchange for my honest review!For more reviews and bookish musings visit http://www.bornandreadinchicago.com/
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  • Megan C.
    January 1, 1970
    4.5. I'm not a huge nonfiction reader, but this collection of essays hit me in the feelings and the funny bone. Mary Laura is so real and relatable - she mad me feel SEEN. Highly recommended!
  • Janet
    January 1, 1970
    This book kept me company during two bouts of insomnia, and I'm forever grateful to Mary Laura for that. I messaged the author on Instagram to say this: "I was up from 2:30 until 6 finishing your book. I love it so. I am encouraged to polish many essays/stories I've written myself but never shared with the world. Thank you! I am dying to take you to coffee to list all the ways you are my secret twin and how a few of your essays were paralleling my life in real time." I adore Mary Laura, and I un This book kept me company during two bouts of insomnia, and I'm forever grateful to Mary Laura for that. I messaged the author on Instagram to say this: "I was up from 2:30 until 6 finishing your book. I love it so. I am encouraged to polish many essays/stories I've written myself but never shared with the world. Thank you! I am dying to take you to coffee to list all the ways you are my secret twin and how a few of your essays were paralleling my life in real time." I adore Mary Laura, and I underlined and hugged this book so much that I will keep it forever. Want to read my copy? Too bad, so sad. You'll have to buy yourself one from Avid (available for preorder now). :)
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  • Deb Coco
    January 1, 1970
    I grabbed this book after 3 friends AND one of my daughters told me I had to read it ASAP. And I'm happy to report that clearly, they all know me well because I loved it. Essays aren't usually my cup of tea, but I connected with the authors story on SO many levels it was crazy. Type A? Check. Post-It note abuser? Check. Obsessed with the safety of my children? Check. Love animals so much it hurts? Check. And on and on and on. Mary Laura Philpott articulated so well what it feels like to be a wom I grabbed this book after 3 friends AND one of my daughters told me I had to read it ASAP. And I'm happy to report that clearly, they all know me well because I loved it. Essays aren't usually my cup of tea, but I connected with the authors story on SO many levels it was crazy. Type A? Check. Post-It note abuser? Check. Obsessed with the safety of my children? Check. Love animals so much it hurts? Check. And on and on and on. Mary Laura Philpott articulated so well what it feels like to be a woman at different stages of life, and validated that often we question our choices and fall into depressions that are hard to explain or get out of. I just kept thinking, "YES!" She gets me. I tore through this, one minute hysterically laughing, and the next nodding in recognition. Highly recommend.
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  • Jaclyn (sixminutesforme)
    January 1, 1970
    This was a fun and light read, but not one that will leave any lasting impression on me 🤷🏻♀ This was a fun and light read, but not one that will leave any lasting impression on me 🤷🏻‍♀️
  • Ashlee Long
    January 1, 1970
    DNF. Okay, so some of these essays may have made me giggle, but, ultimately, what’s the purpose of this? This is going to sound harsh, but it’s clear that some people get to publish a book just because they have money. This book is an affluent white lady’s blog in print. I want a book to do more for me than this...I want a bit more substance, even if we’re simply talking essays.
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  • Nancy Kho
    January 1, 1970
    I received an ARC of this book and tore through it in <2 days. Some memoirs are great because they show us experiences most of us will never have; this one was great because it puts the experiences so many of us have had into context, with empathy and humor. The writing is sharp and funny, but what makes this memoir-in-essays collection special is the humanity, humility, and hope on every page.
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  • Andrienne
    January 1, 1970
    Perfect for Type A personalities or who want to understand them. These essays are about a woman who has everything -children, spouse, work and dares to ask for more. Self-effacing, the author speaks her mind but takes care not to offend. She doesn’t like small talk or doing status quo stuff, but she always follows up with something articulate and reasonable. Some parts really made me guffaw. However, I really loved her letter to a type A person in distress the most. She really got it for those w Perfect for Type A personalities or who want to understand them. These essays are about a woman who has everything -children, spouse, work and dares to ask for more. Self-effacing, the author speaks her mind but takes care not to offend. She doesn’t like small talk or doing status quo stuff, but she always follows up with something articulate and reasonable. Some parts really made me guffaw. However, I really loved her letter to a type A person in distress the most. She really got it for those who need the reassurance-nothing over-the-top or transparently contrived. I can’t wait to recommend this to folks who are restless about midlife and think, “Is this it?”Thank you to the publisher for access to the review copy.
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  • Sandi
    January 1, 1970
    I want to be friends with this author...and ditch my current home for a job at Parnassus in Nashville! 😍
  • Rebekah Patin
    January 1, 1970
    “I Miss You When I Blink” by Mary Laura Philpott. I was fortunate to win this book in a giveaway and was able to read it before it publication date of 4/2. I want to put this book on every woman’s radar. It is a collection of essays in memoir style telling very honest and heartfelt stories from the authors life. The writing is hilarious and moving. I would find myself laughing til I cried through some of the essays and deeply touched by others. Some of the essays were like a window into my inner “I Miss You When I Blink” by Mary Laura Philpott. I was fortunate to win this book in a giveaway and was able to read it before it publication date of 4/2. I want to put this book on every woman’s radar. It is a collection of essays in memoir style telling very honest and heartfelt stories from the authors life. The writing is hilarious and moving. I would find myself laughing til I cried through some of the essays and deeply touched by others. Some of the essays were like a window into my inner thoughts and all of them made me want to march myself up to Mary Laura and tell her that she has to be my BFF. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️“...life will surprise you. You’ll hit dead ends & detours. There will be times when you can’t fathom what comes next. When that happens, remember yourself as you are right now. Remember yourself as you were when you were even younger. Who were you when you weren’t wondering who you were.”
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  • Kaitlyn Vella
    January 1, 1970
    Wow.This is one of those books that I know is going to stick with me for the rest of my life. Mary Laura Philpott's words have already changed my life in ways that I truly never thought possible. I can't thank her enough for writing something so brilliant and letting us into her inner thoughts and into her life. I never write in books. It's just something I never found myself able to do. Instead? I'd write on post-its and stick them on the pages I wanted to go back to. I found myself writing in Wow.This is one of those books that I know is going to stick with me for the rest of my life. Mary Laura Philpott's words have already changed my life in ways that I truly never thought possible. I can't thank her enough for writing something so brilliant and letting us into her inner thoughts and into her life. I never write in books. It's just something I never found myself able to do. Instead? I'd write on post-its and stick them on the pages I wanted to go back to. I found myself writing in this one, though. I underlined sentences and starred passages and for the first time ever, it felt right. I saw myself more in this book than I thought I would (from the fainting spells, to feeling stuck, to wanting the approval of others, etc.) and I know that the sentences/passages/paragraphs I underlined and starred are ones that I'm going to be coming back to forever.These essays made me laugh, these essays made me cry, and most importantly these essays made me realize that I'm not alone (in my thoughts, in my actions, in the world). I can't wait until the world gets to devour I Miss You When I Blink and I can't wait to keep falling in love with Mary Laura Philpott's words.
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  • Heather Fineisen
    January 1, 1970
    There are some really strong essays here including the title, which I love. Children, insecurities, deprecating insights into the Author's world. A tribute to Nora Ephron was memorable as we're other literary references. I will definitely be on the lookout for more from Philpott.Copy provided by the Publisher and NetGalley
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  • Amy
    January 1, 1970
    I loved I Miss You When I Blink! Each essay contains obervations that are spot on descriptions of experiences & feelings that I relate to or have at some point experienced as a Type A first born female. The author’s authenticity, honesty, & willingness to "go there" are what makes each essay so relatable. I’m looking forward to reading more by this author & am keeping my fingers crossed that she’ll be visiting a local bookstore or library as part of a book tour for this book.***Thank I loved I Miss You When I Blink! Each essay contains obervations that are spot on descriptions of experiences & feelings that I relate to or have at some point experienced as a Type A first born female. The author’s authenticity, honesty, & willingness to "go there" are what makes each essay so relatable. I’m looking forward to reading more by this author & am keeping my fingers crossed that she’ll be visiting a local bookstore or library as part of a book tour for this book.***Thank you Touchstone for providing an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
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  • Kim
    January 1, 1970
    I really loved this collection! They were the perfect length, as well as so smart and funny and charming. I think everyone can find something to relate to here. [ARC provided by Netgalley. All thoughts are my own.]
  • Theresa Smith
    January 1, 1970
    ‘I miss you when I blink. I have felt it so many times in my life, at points where I didn’t really know who I was anymore, where I felt that when I closed my eyes, I could feel myself gone.’I did not anticipate enjoying and being able to relate to this book quite as much as I did. A collection of memoir-in-essays, I Miss You When I Blink broke through my ‘I don’t like memoirs barrier’, but this is predominately on account of the essay style in which the book is written, and the subject matter th ‘I miss you when I blink. I have felt it so many times in my life, at points where I didn’t really know who I was anymore, where I felt that when I closed my eyes, I could feel myself gone.’I did not anticipate enjoying and being able to relate to this book quite as much as I did. A collection of memoir-in-essays, I Miss You When I Blink broke through my ‘I don’t like memoirs barrier’, but this is predominately on account of the essay style in which the book is written, and the subject matter that it’s focused on – so don’t go getting all excited, thinking I’m now a memoir fan. Just of this one! I loved Laura’s style, her wit and honesty, the way she tells a story with such inflection you can almost hear her voice and laughter, bubbling up off the page. I felt like she was a person I had so much in common with, and she made me think of things, about my own life, that are long overdue. I highly recommend this book to all women, particularly to those who may feel like they are running all over the place, chasing themselves into a corner they feel they can’t get out of. I’ll let this book speak for itself in terms of how excellent it is, by leaving you with some passages that really resonated with me.‘I don’t want people to feel I’m judging them. I don’t want to be perceived as hostile, although I know that I sometimes am. But I’m not hostile like a crazy person punching strangers on a subway platform. I’m just hostile like a crazy person who wants to gouge her eyes out when she sees grammatical errors on billboards. LOWEST PRICE’S – I can hardly stand it.’~~~‘I often thought, shit, what right do I have to feel this way? It’s so stupid. I told myself to get over it, because people were depending on me. So I decided to keep going and doing the things I signed up to do, because it’s wasteful and self-indulgent to feel bad when so much is really quite good. It’s ungrateful, and I was not going to be ungrateful.’~~~‘I was distracted by more than the frenetic schedules of our household. All the other people I’d been and not been in my life were beginning to fight for their share of my brain space and their chance at a breath of real-life air, too. There were far more than three people crowded into my head. I felt like a human traffic jam.’~~~‘I used to think that if only I could make everything perfect, then I could relax and have fun. If I could just eliminate all mistakes, my life would settle into place – click! – and my mind would rest. If I’m being truthful, I have to acknowledge that on some unchangeable, deep-down level, there’s still a part of me that thinks that.’~~~‘But if you’re going to take just one thing from this story, let it be something much more important:You can always start over.’Thanks is extended to Murdoch Books for providing me with a copy of I Miss You When I Blink for review.
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  • Sarah at Sarah's Book Shelves
    January 1, 1970
    Thanks to Atria Books and Edelweiss for an advanced copy of this book.I’ve been on a kick with “women who get women” memoirs over the past few years (i.e. maybe because I’m in the marriage / kids and “who am I through all that” stage?) and Mary Laura Philpott is an excellent addition to my club of go-to authors (also including Anna Quindlen and Kelly Corrigan). Philpott writes about this unsettling stage of life with openness, humor, and relatability. She’s got spunk and she’s someone I could im Thanks to Atria Books and Edelweiss for an advanced copy of this book.I’ve been on a kick with “women who get women” memoirs over the past few years (i.e. maybe because I’m in the marriage / kids and “who am I through all that” stage?) and Mary Laura Philpott is an excellent addition to my club of go-to authors (also including Anna Quindlen and Kelly Corrigan). Philpott writes about this unsettling stage of life with openness, humor, and relatability. She’s got spunk and she’s someone I could imagine grabbing a glass of wine with. She’s a Type A personality who got satisfaction from achieving each “success” rung on a clearly defined ladder (ex: grades in her youth, job promotions post college)…when adult life hit and there was no clearly defined success ladder, she struggled with feeling satisfied. I can totally relate to her in this respect (I also relate to her dislike of habitual lateness!) and it’s one of the reasons I started the blog and the podcast. She nails very specific experiences…handling your children’s holiday gift lists, volunteering at your children’s school and/or on charity boards, and motherhood in general. If you enjoy “maintaining your identity through marriage and motherhood” books, I Miss You When I Blink should be next on your list! And, it would be an excellent book club pick. PS – Philpott works at Parnassus Bookstore in Nashville (author Ann Patchettt is co-owner!) and is a hilarious follow on Instagram!Visit https://www.sarahsbookshelves.com for more reviews.
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  • Rachel | mrs.bennett.reads
    January 1, 1970
    NB: thank you to Netgalley and Atria Books for providing me a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. Have you ever read a book and thought...HOW did this person see directly into my soul? Did I actually write this book and not even know it? Reading I Miss You When I Blink was that sort of experience. Philpott is open about the struggles and triumphs she has experienced in her life. I appreciated that she maintained perspective about her privileged and blessed life situation wh NB: thank you to Netgalley and Atria Books for providing me a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. Have you ever read a book and thought...HOW did this person see directly into my soul? Did I actually write this book and not even know it? Reading I Miss You When I Blink was that sort of experience. Philpott is open about the struggles and triumphs she has experienced in her life. I appreciated that she maintained perspective about her privileged and blessed life situation while acknowledging that even in lives that look easy and lucky from the outside, there can still be challenges, crises, and emotional distress. "Even when we know how much worse it could be, everyday pains are still pains" She speaks clearly about how years of putting pressure on herself to be perfect, to achieve, and to chase success, led her to a place in her life where she had everything she thought she wanted but was horribly depressed and uncertain of anything, to the point where she considered leaving her loving family. While I have never experienced that level of breakdown, as a fellow Type A perfectionist, I understand all too well how the pressure can be crippling, and I appreciated her candid approach. This makes it sound like a book about depression - while she does not hold anything back regarding her struggles, this book is deeply funny. I laughed out loud continuously as she irreverently covered her life with a husband, children, changing careers, and most especially the inner world of a Type A perfectionist - "It’s awfully existential and weird to feel that if you get the punctuation wrong in a tweet, the world is a purposeless void."I think this book is a great read for everyone but especially: women in their 30s who are juggling family and career, and people who identify as Type A, enneagram 1, call it what you will - we're (in Mary Laura's words) "addicted to getting things right".
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  • Genevieve Trono
    January 1, 1970
    I Miss You When I Blink is a collection of memoir-style essays. Like with any collection of short stories or essays, I connected with some more than others. I found Philpott's writing witty and approachable and she had so many accurate descriptions of life as a middle-aged white mother who is balancing career, family and the forever pull of wondering if what we have done with our time has been worthwhile. There is a great balance of humor and I appreciated that she was able to acknowledge her pr I Miss You When I Blink is a collection of memoir-style essays. Like with any collection of short stories or essays, I connected with some more than others. I found Philpott's writing witty and approachable and she had so many accurate descriptions of life as a middle-aged white mother who is balancing career, family and the forever pull of wondering if what we have done with our time has been worthwhile. There is a great balance of humor and I appreciated that she was able to acknowledge her privilege while also talking about some of her own struggles in life. I found reading this book to be a similar experience to an evening catching up with old friends. If you like memoirs and short stories, this might be the right fit for you too. Thank you to NetGalley and Atria Books for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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