In Conclusion, Don't Worry About It
Advice for graduates and reflections on staying true to yourself from the beloved Gilmore Girls actress and New York Times bestselling author of the memoir Talking as Fast as I Can and the novel Someday, Someday, Maybe.  “If you’re kicking yourself for not having accomplished all you should have by now, don’t worry about it. Even without any ‘big’ accomplishments yet to your name, you are enough.”   In this expansion of the 2017 commencement speech she gave at her hometown Langley High, Lauren Graham, the beloved star of Gilmore Girls and Parenthood, reflects on growing up, pursuing your dreams, and living in the here and now. “Whatever path you choose, whatever career you decide to go after, the important thing is that you keep finding joy in what you’re doing, especially when the joy isn’t finding you.” In her hilarious, relatable voice, Graham reminds us to be curious and compassionate, no matter where life takes us or what we’ve yet to achieve. Grounded and inspiring—and illustrated throughout with drawings by Graham herself—here is a comforting road map to a happy life.  “I’ve had ups and downs. I’ve had successes and senior slumps. I’ve been the girl who has the lead, and the one who wished she had the bigger part. The truth? They don’t feel that different from each other.”

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TitleIn Conclusion, Don't Worry About It
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ReleaseApr 3rd, 2018
PublisherBallantine Books
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GenreNonfiction, Audiobook, Self Help, Writing, Essays

In Conclusion, Don't Worry About It Review

  • Lola
    January 1, 1970
    Everything Lauren Graham says in this short book is worth pondering. Dear reader, you have no idea how much your opinion affects me. If I don’t get a positive enough response on a review, I’m going to immediately assume that I said something weird that people can’t understand or connect with.Lauren Graham says not to worry too much, and that’s easier said than done, but it’s also very true. The moment I stop caring about likes and comments, I’m going to be twice the reviewer that I am today. At Everything Lauren Graham says in this short book is worth pondering. Dear reader, you have no idea how much your opinion affects me. If I don’t get a positive enough response on a review, I’m going to immediately assume that I said something weird that people can’t understand or connect with.Lauren Graham says not to worry too much, and that’s easier said than done, but it’s also very true. The moment I stop caring about likes and comments, I’m going to be twice the reviewer that I am today. At the same time, I can’t not care about your responses, because you, the reader, matter to me, and I don’t want to forget you completely.Another intelligent thing that Ms. Graham says is to make The Most of what you have so, basically, to live in the moment. It’s great if you want to become a movie star or a CEO, but it’s also great if you’re not there yet. Wherever you are on your path, don’t forget that what matters most is not what you have or how famous you are, but what is deep inside of you.I agree with that completely. I have big dreams that often appear too big even for someone like me who is willing to take leaps of faith and shoot for the stars. I’m not even close to where I want to be, but I’m getting there, and even if there are things I want to do today that I’m unable to, I never forget that I will only achieve my goals if I remain the honest person that I am today.Just a few hours ago, I went to the mall to buy a monthly bus pass, and after that I went to Walmart to treat myself to some cheap chocolate (YUM!). When I got in line to pay for the stuff, there was a girl in front of me. She tried paying for the two pairs of shoes she picked, but her card was declined. Eventually, she removed one pair, and used her card. It was fine, but she still had about twenty dollars left to give the cashier. She only had fifteen dollars in her hands. I wasn’t annoyed. ‘‘It happens,’’ I told the girl. I was in no hurry whatsoever. But I stepped in. I told her and the cashier that I’d pay the difference. Who cares, it’s just a few dollars, but you should have seen the girl’s face. It’s like I just saved her life or something. Then she admitted she needed the shoes for work the next day. I didn’t know, I only stepped in because it seemed like the right thing to do. She had no idea how to thank me, so I became a bit uncomfortable. And what does Lola do when she gets uncomfortable? She hugs people. Yes, we hugged, and the cashier was like, ‘‘Awww,’’ and then, when I paid my cheap chocolate, she said, ‘‘That was really nice what you did there.’’Anyway, all that to say that I am okay with being at the point in my life where I am now, because it’s these little moments of human interaction that make me happy and remind me that we were put into this world to, yes, work hard and get results, but also to be kind to each other and hug random people. Ha. Ha. Ha.Lovely speech Lauren Graham wrote. Well-written and engaging. She mostly talks in a general way, using only a few developed examples in total, the other ones being quite brief, which is why I can’t give it more. Most of what she says has already been said before, just a tiny bit differently. Regardless, it is motivational, and so, recommended.Blog | Youtube | Twitter | Instagram | Google+ | Bloglovin’
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  • Cyndi
    January 1, 1970
    This is a very sweet inspirational work Lauren Graham wrote and delivered at her old high school. Its really good and has some wonderful advice.
  • Karina Read
    January 1, 1970
    I love Lauren Graham, just thought i’d preface with that. I enjoyed this and it has inspired me a little, but I think it perhaps focussed too much on acting rather than being whatever you want to be. I’d have liked to have her insights on battling the lows to get to the highs etc...
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  • Brooke — brooklynnnnereads
    January 1, 1970
    I love Lauren Graham. I love her acting, I love her personality, I love her writing, I love her fiction, and I love her nonfiction. I loved this speech.But.....unless you are getting this as a gift, I can not reasonably recommend anyone to go out and buy this. Ask for it as a gift, read it from the library, or wait until it's discounted. $30 for a book that is less than a hundred pages just does not seem worth it to me. With that disclaimer aside though, I really did like the content of this spe I love Lauren Graham. I love her acting, I love her personality, I love her writing, I love her fiction, and I love her nonfiction. I loved this speech.But.....unless you are getting this as a gift, I can not reasonably recommend anyone to go out and buy this. Ask for it as a gift, read it from the library, or wait until it's discounted. $30 for a book that is less than a hundred pages just does not seem worth it to me. With that disclaimer aside though, I really did like the content of this speech. It's inspirational, it's motivational, and it's relatable. The writing is unique to Lauren Graham's personality and does include her humour that she is so known for. This book has such a positive message in the sense that it encourages everybody to live their best life now---in the present. Yes, work for those dreams. But also, do not solely worry about that future and embrace the present. I wish that this book was longer and that this speech was just a part of it. However, I will happily sit here and wish for more from Lauren Graham in the future.
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  • Ryan Buckby
    January 1, 1970
    If you’re kicking yourself for not having accomplished all you should have by now, don’t worry about it. Even without any ‘big’ accomplishments yet to your name, you are enough. I have said this in the past and will now say it in this review i love Lauren Graham as someone who watched Gilmore girls growing up and also starting parenthood recently, i don't thinks it's possible for me to love everything she comes out with because its just good. This is a short book about the commencement speech If you’re kicking yourself for not having accomplished all you should have by now, don’t worry about it. Even without any ‘big’ accomplishments yet to your name, you are enough. I have said this in the past and will now say it in this review i love Lauren Graham as someone who watched Gilmore girls growing up and also starting parenthood recently, i don't thinks it's possible for me to love everything she comes out with because its just good. This is a short book about the commencement speech Lauren made at her old high school back in 2017 and in it she talks about life and what happens after graduation. I can relate to this so much because when you graduate from high school your in that immediate stage of trying to decide wether or not you want to continue your study and go to university or start working and yes its very stressful time in your life. I do agree we don't have everything figured out at the age of 17 and no one as a clue what they think there going to be in the future and its the period in a persons life where there figuring stuff out and seeing who they want to become. I myself have been like this for the past couple of years and i graduated high school six years ago and it is hard because society wants you to figure out what your doing straight away even when you don't know what you want.The message that i think i will take away from this is that it doesn't matter what you choose to do after high school and if you want to go to university then go and if you want to work and figure out things thats fine because a lot of people don't figure things out to later on and Lauren made me feel like things will work out and things will figure themselves out when there ready. This speech is something i needed to hear and i think i will come back to it when i feel like i need it and i'm glad i have it when i do.
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  • Kelli
    January 1, 1970
    I grabbed this “book” (at the library, thank God!!) thinking it might make a good graduation gift, but I think I’ll stick with my standard Buddhist Boot Camp. This is really an article with a few doodles thrown in packaged as a book. I read it in ten minutes and I was trying hard to love it. I really love Lauren Graham. I’m a Gilmore Girls superfan (NOT the reboot!) and I loved Parenthood. I want her to be my best friend, but I can’t in good faith recommend this article masquerading as a book. I grabbed this “book” (at the library, thank God!!) thinking it might make a good graduation gift, but I think I’ll stick with my standard Buddhist Boot Camp. This is really an article with a few doodles thrown in packaged as a book. I read it in ten minutes and I was trying hard to love it. I really love Lauren Graham. I’m a Gilmore Girls superfan (NOT the reboot!) and I loved Parenthood. I want her to be my best friend, but I can’t in good faith recommend this article masquerading as a book. I’m sure it was a positive experience for the students at graduation. I’d have left it at that. 2.5 stars
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  • Julie Ehlers
    January 1, 1970
    Well, I mean, it's a tiny book with wide margins and large type. You shouldn't pay for it unless you're giving it as a gift to a new graduate (make sure you enclose a check too!). This is based on a commencement speech originally given at Lauren's former high school, so it's not as sophisticated as a speech that might be given at a college graduation, as in similar books by the likes of George Saunders and David Foster Wallace. But it has Lauren's breezy, likable tone, and it's full of sentiment Well, I mean, it's a tiny book with wide margins and large type. You shouldn't pay for it unless you're giving it as a gift to a new graduate (make sure you enclose a check too!). This is based on a commencement speech originally given at Lauren's former high school, so it's not as sophisticated as a speech that might be given at a college graduation, as in similar books by the likes of George Saunders and David Foster Wallace. But it has Lauren's breezy, likable tone, and it's full of sentiments we can all stand to be reminded of occasionally. Again, don't pay for In Conclusion, Don't Worry About It unless you're a Lauren Graham superfan, but if you can get it from the library and keep your expectations in check, it's worth reading.
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  • Brandi
    January 1, 1970
    I knew it was a short read but I didn’t realize it was under 50 pages. I genuinely liked everything about it and I’m always fascinated by Lauren Graham & her life. I rated it a 3 because it was a little more superficial/didn’t have as much substance as I anticipated. I thought there would be a tad more “advice.” I tend to be a sucker for inspiring books so I usually feel more after reading these types of books. But I did enjoy everything about it! I think part of it is my fault for going in I knew it was a short read but I didn’t realize it was under 50 pages. I genuinely liked everything about it and I’m always fascinated by Lauren Graham & her life. I rated it a 3 because it was a little more superficial/didn’t have as much substance as I anticipated. I thought there would be a tad more “advice.” I tend to be a sucker for inspiring books so I usually feel more after reading these types of books. But I did enjoy everything about it! I think part of it is my fault for going in thinking it was something that it was not.
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  • ellie
    January 1, 1970
    It’s the way time moves differently when you’re caught up in the simple joy of being yourself. It’s what can happen when you make the decision to let go of criticism and worry and fear.And that’s where The Best really lives.This had good intentions, but it just felt a little bit repetitive, and I feel like, since I was reading this, the words didn't have as much impact. Hearing someone tell you, "Don't worry so much. You have so much ahead of you." is so much better than reading those words, bec It’s the way time moves differently when you’re caught up in the simple joy of being yourself. It’s what can happen when you make the decision to let go of criticism and worry and fear.And that’s where The Best really lives.This had good intentions, but it just felt a little bit repetitive, and I feel like, since I was reading this, the words didn't have as much impact. Hearing someone tell you, "Don't worry so much. You have so much ahead of you." is so much better than reading those words, because your brain discards them so easily. I wish I had heard this in an audiobook, because the words just fell kind of flat in book form. As in, they're just like helpful tips you scroll past on a positivity tumblr or something. It just could've been so much better so easily (I didn't even exhale loudly at the jokes, which we all know is the bare minimum to a book that is supposed to be somewhat funny.) In one word, this book is: forgettable.Let joy be the thing that drives you, and I bet you’ll get there faster. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Those mistakes are as valuable as the triumphs. If you free yourself from having to be “right,” you’ll open so many doors.
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  • Laurence R.
    January 1, 1970
    I just love Lauren Graham! I wish this book were longer though, because the audiobook was incredibly short.
  • Jess | thegreeneyedreader
    January 1, 1970
    4/5 Stars ⭐⭐⭐⭐. This is a slightly extended version of a graduation speech #LaurenGraham gave to her alma mater. I enjoyed her thoughts on success and happiness. I’ve read her other books and this one didn’t disappoint. The only reason it didn’t get 5/5 is because it didn’t feel long enough. I wish she would have made this book into a memoir, using her speech as a theme. Nevertheless, I liked this book in spite of its brevity. #jpbookreview #bookreview #litsy #litsypost #getlitsy #gilmoregirls # 4/5 Stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️. This is a slightly extended version of a graduation speech #LaurenGraham gave to her alma mater. I enjoyed her thoughts on success and happiness. I’ve read her other books and this one didn’t disappoint. The only reason it didn’t get 5/5 is because it didn’t feel long enough. I wish she would have made this book into a memoir, using her speech as a theme. Nevertheless, I liked this book in spite of its brevity. #jpbookreview #bookreview #litsy #litsypost #getlitsy #gilmoregirls #inconclusiondontworryaboutit
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  • Amelia
    January 1, 1970
    I love Lauren Graham and this advice spoke to me cause I'm feeling about like I'm just waiting to succeed, instead of looking for happiness and wholeness in the little things. I just wish it had been longer!
  • Aubrey Joy
    January 1, 1970
    This was just a quick audiobook listen whilst getting ready in the morning, but I thought it was very inspiring and well spoken.I started watching Gilmore Girls with my mom, and we really enjoyed the episodes we watched. I think Lauren Graham is inspiring and beautiful and an amazing actress, so it was nice to get a little behind-the-scenes look at her life. This makes me want to listen to Talking as Fast As I Can also by Lauren Graham.I think it’s always so important to realize how lucky you ar This was just a quick audiobook listen whilst getting ready in the morning, but I thought it was very inspiring and well spoken.I started watching Gilmore Girls with my mom, and we really enjoyed the episodes we watched. I think Lauren Graham is inspiring and beautiful and an amazing actress, so it was nice to get a little behind-the-scenes look at her life. This makes me want to listen to Talking as Fast As I Can also by Lauren Graham.I think it’s always so important to realize how lucky you are and live in the moment more than you normally would. I fall victim to only thinking about the future and worrying WAY too much, so it was nice to have someone successful just tell you to chill out and have fun. As long as you put in the work, you’ll get there.This applies to dance for me, because I definitely get into my own head and worry about pleasing other people pretty much all the time, but I need to let myself be happy when I’m dancing. I just need to relax, and not worry about it.I think if you’re looking for something inspiring to get ready to, this would be perfect for you.https://pointextaken.com/2018/10/08/r...Aubrey Joy
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  • Caitlin Allen
    January 1, 1970
    This is a cute, short book reminding those in a place of change to not worry about what’s to come.
  • Hope (HopelessBookAddict)
    January 1, 1970
    OMG why do all her books make me cry! She said all the things I needed to hear right now! Thanks Lauren!
  • Ellie
    January 1, 1970
    A short, feel-good manual on how not to worry and enjoy life more. It seems to be aimed at teens. I enjoyed Graham's sharing of personal experiences very much. A quick, fun read that left me feeling pretty positive.
  • Carlos
    January 1, 1970
    Book: 3.5/5Audiobook: 5/5
  • Susie
    January 1, 1970
    Can you tell I'm trying to catch up on my Goodreads goal? This was fine. I may be a bit too far out of the phase of life for this particular speech, BUT Lauren Graham is fun and I like her. <3
  • Sara
    January 1, 1970
    Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. - Salvador DaliOh damn.... this woman just made me cry!!!"You are enough, just as you are." I loooove Lauren Graham and have all intensions to listen/ read her autobiography, but I decided to start with this audiobook because it was just 30 minutes long and I had heard that it was great. Well, clearly it was. Her voice just brings me comfort and her sense of humor is just perfect. She makes me feel like I am talking to an old friend or my mother Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. - Salvador DaliOh damn.... this woman just made me cry!!!"You are enough, just as you are." I loooove Lauren Graham and have all intensions to listen/ read her autobiography, but I decided to start with this audiobook because it was just 30 minutes long and I had heard that it was great. Well, clearly it was. Her voice just brings me comfort and her sense of humor is just perfect. She makes me feel like I am talking to an old friend or my mother. It just feels so right."In conclusion, don't worry about it. You already have the most and you're already one of the best."
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  • Carrie Templeton
    January 1, 1970
    Short, sweet, and a great reminder to get out of your own head so you can get shit done.
  • Cathleen
    January 1, 1970
    Fluffy, but fine.
  • Mary Sisney
    January 1, 1970
    I was looking for a short, breezy book to read after plowing through another depressing "Trump is ruining the world" narrative. I liked Graham in "Gilmore Girls" and enjoyed one of her earlier books. This one was certainly breezy, but it was too short for the price. I'm not cheap, so I usually don't even notice how much a book costs, but when I opened this one and saw that it included some not very impressive drawings and realized that there were probably not many more words in it than in two of I was looking for a short, breezy book to read after plowing through another depressing "Trump is ruining the world" narrative. I liked Graham in "Gilmore Girls" and enjoyed one of her earlier books. This one was certainly breezy, but it was too short for the price. I'm not cheap, so I usually don't even notice how much a book costs, but when I opened this one and saw that it included some not very impressive drawings and realized that there were probably not many more words in it than in two of my longer Goodreads blogs, I checked the price. I wonder what Lauren's Gilmore Girl character would say about paying $15 for a book with so few words and such amateurish sketches. This "girl" says, "Give me more words for my $15, Ms. Lauren."
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  • Christy
    January 1, 1970
    So, I'll be graduating with my Master's in a little over a month. I no longer have a permanent job, I completely disliked the field I thought I would enter (on top of not being certified), have zero clue what to do next, and generally feel "behind" in every single point in my life.This hit home because I'm feeling that "senior slump." In the past I've pretty much always been on top: Good grades, involved in a bunch of activities, snagging jobs with little effort, blah blah blah. And now my life So, I'll be graduating with my Master's in a little over a month. I no longer have a permanent job, I completely disliked the field I thought I would enter (on top of not being certified), have zero clue what to do next, and generally feel "behind" in every single point in my life.This hit home because I'm feeling that "senior slump." In the past I've pretty much always been on top: Good grades, involved in a bunch of activities, snagging jobs with little effort, blah blah blah. And now my life is literally the shrugging girl emoji. So this was a good pick-me-up. I'm turning 24 in under an hour and a half so maybe I don't believe it all yet, but I'll get there.
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  • Sonya
    January 1, 1970
    I love Lorelai Gilmore. And I loved reading Graham's Talking As Fast As I Can last year. But this barely-blogpost / chapter just doesn't cut it for me. The advice boils down to "don't worry about it, things will work out fine. Be grateful for what you have and dance like nobody's watching." It's facile and reductive. Even, or *particularly* for a high school commencement address. Can you imagine, for example, reading this as a graduate of Stoneman Douglas High? The world just isn't this cute and I love Lorelai Gilmore. And I loved reading Graham's Talking As Fast As I Can last year. But this barely-blogpost / chapter just doesn't cut it for me. The advice boils down to "don't worry about it, things will work out fine. Be grateful for what you have and dance like nobody's watching." It's facile and reductive. Even, or *particularly* for a high school commencement address. Can you imagine, for example, reading this as a graduate of Stoneman Douglas High? The world just isn't this cute and easy and lipglossy, and frankly I'm goddamn irritated the more I think about it. In conclusion, do better, Lauren Graham.
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  • Emily
    January 1, 1970
    I’m a big fan of Gilmore Girls, so I thought a book by one of the actresses would probably be fun. This book is based on a graduation speech Graham gave at her old high school. It’s nice, fluffy advice, suitable for a graduation speech. It’s not especially deep, but it’s her experience, and something many will be able to relate to.
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  • Katie Peach
    January 1, 1970
    I've been really struggling with finding joy in my first job after grad school, so this book is exactly what I needed at this point in my life. It's a great reminder that it's okay to make mistakes and that while your first job might not be your dream job, you'll get there.
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  • Jamie
    January 1, 1970
    Cute little motivational short from Queen Lorelei Gilmore - this is a commencement speech she gave at her HS alma mater in 2017 and I enjoyed listening to her advice.
  • Brandon Buechley
    January 1, 1970
    This book seems to define my 2017. I'm sure a lot of people can relate and enjoy the message.
  • Cailin (Rose Petal Pages)
    January 1, 1970
    *3.5 This was quick, enjoyable, inspirational and made me feel nice inside :)
  • Author Annabelle Leigha
    January 1, 1970
    Very eloquent! And just what I needed to hear right now!
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