Unwifeable
From the popular, “candid and bold, tender and tough” (Cheryl Strayed) dating columnist for New York magazine and the New York Post comes a whirlwind and “gutsy” (Courtney Love) memoir recounting countless failed romances and blackout nights, told with Mandy Stadtmiller’s unflinching candor and brilliant wit.My story is not unique. Single girl comes to New York; New York eats her alive. But what does stand out is my discovery that you can essentially live a life that appears to be a textbook manual for everything one can do wrong to find love—and still find Mr. Right.Mandy Stadtmiller came to Manhattan in 2005, newly divorced, thirty years old, with a job at the New York Post, ready to conquer the city and the industry in one fell swoop. Like a “real-life Carrie Bradshaw” (so called by Jenny McCarthy), she proceeded to chronicle her fearless attempts for nearly a decade in the Post, New York magazine, and xoJane.But underneath the glitz and glamour of her new life, there is a darker side threatening to surface. She goes through countless failed high-profile hookups in the New York comedy and writing scene. There are soon too many nights she can't remember, and the blind spots start to add up. She begins to realize that falling in love won't fix her—she needs to fix herself first.Unwifeable is a New York fairytale brought to life—Sex and the City on acid. With hysterical insight, unabashed sexuality, and unprecedented levels of raw, honest pain, Unwifeable is a “blisteringly candid” (Sarah Hepola, New York Times bestselling author of Blackout) book that you can’t help but respond and relate to—perfect for fans of Amy Schumer and Chelsea Handler.

Unwifeable Details

TitleUnwifeable
Author
ReleaseApr 3rd, 2018
PublisherGallery Books
ISBN-139781501174032
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Unwifeable Review

  • Sasha
    January 1, 1970
    I loved this book. So honest and raw and beautiful. It made me want to spend even more time hearing Mandy muse on life. The writing is gorgeous, too. Just a complete winner. Don't miss it.
  • Vanessa Botelho
    January 1, 1970
    This is the most Raw and honest Memoir I have ever read. This book took so much courage and strength to write and I applaud the author for being so honest. I found this to be a very relatable book to many women and the struggles we go through in our lives. This book gives women hope for a better tomorrow. Once I picked up this book and started reading I was super interested and felt a connection with the author even though we have never met. I felt like most women reading this book will feel the This is the most Raw and honest Memoir I have ever read. This book took so much courage and strength to write and I applaud the author for being so honest. I found this to be a very relatable book to many women and the struggles we go through in our lives. This book gives women hope for a better tomorrow. Once I picked up this book and started reading I was super interested and felt a connection with the author even though we have never met. I felt like most women reading this book will feel the same, feel a connection with Mandy because we have all at some point fought a losing battle or are still fighting these battles and this book just gives us hope. At certain points during reading I felt so much for Mandy and her struggles. This is a book I will be recommending to a few of my girlfriends. Thank you so much for this honest and true memoir Mandy Stadtmiller.
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  • Up All Night With Books
    January 1, 1970
    ***ARC provided for honest review***I’m rarely at a loss for words, but I find it difficult to put into words how I feel about Mandy Stadtmiller’s memoir, Unwifeable. At first blush (or second or third), this feels like a tawdry tell-all. Mandy does not mince words or descriptions of her life in NYC following her divorce.Parts of Unwifeable are so in your face that I felt like a voyeur reading it. Like it was a car crash or a train wreck, but I just couldn’t look away. Other parts are so poignan ***ARC provided for honest review***I’m rarely at a loss for words, but I find it difficult to put into words how I feel about Mandy Stadtmiller’s memoir, Unwifeable. At first blush (or second or third), this feels like a tawdry tell-all. Mandy does not mince words or descriptions of her life in NYC following her divorce.Parts of Unwifeable are so in your face that I felt like a voyeur reading it. Like it was a car crash or a train wreck, but I just couldn’t look away. Other parts are so poignant and sad that I wish I was her friend and I could just wrap her in a big hug and tell her I was sorry she was going through this.Mandy Stadtmiller is a talented writer and comedienne and I’m happy I pushed through the uncomfortable bits. If we are all honest with ourselves, we have done things we are not proud of, but we don’t regret them because they bring us to where we are today. Mandy’s Unwifeable follows the trajectory of her discovery of this. She lived her life as if she had no fear, accepting every dare, every challenge, being “in your face” fearless, but was in fact just as insecure and unsure as the rest of us. She just acted it out in such a unabashed way.This book is brazen. It is in your face. It is unapologetic. Just like her life. And, yet, it is heartfelt and hopeful. Just like her life.I highly recommend Unwifeable, but be warned. It may make you feel uncomfortable, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. 4.5 Stars
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  • Lisa
    January 1, 1970
    "I am unloveable, I am unwifeable. I am a failure. I am not worth it." Wow - when I came across this passage in the book I was stunned because of the raw authenticity of it and also because I could 100% relate to the author. This is a memoir that will touch your life because it is REAL and profound and very very funny in parts. I could not put this book down once I started reading it. I so appreciate the author sharing her life with her readers especially with the details that she shares. While "I am unloveable, I am unwifeable. I am a failure. I am not worth it." Wow - when I came across this passage in the book I was stunned because of the raw authenticity of it and also because I could 100% relate to the author. This is a memoir that will touch your life because it is REAL and profound and very very funny in parts. I could not put this book down once I started reading it. I so appreciate the author sharing her life with her readers especially with the details that she shares. While this is a memoir and not technically a self-help book, I think the book will help people because it gives voice to things that we all think and feel but maybe don't have the courage to face head on. I appreciated hearing everything the author did in her life to seek change and I love the Free Therapy this book affords me! This is a must read!I was given a free copy of this book to read from Net Galley in exchange for an honest review.
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  • Jen Ryland
    January 1, 1970
    I remember reading Mandy Stadtmiller's pieces in the NY Post around 10 years ago so I really was excited to try this but the first couple chapters just weren't grabbing me. I may try this again though - just read her Wikipedia bio and there's got to be some interesting stuff in here!!Read more of my reviews on JenRyland.com! Check out my Bookstagram! Or check out my Jen In Ten reviews on Youtube - get the lowdown on current books in 10-30 seconds!Thanks to the publisher for providing an advance I remember reading Mandy Stadtmiller's pieces in the NY Post around 10 years ago so I really was excited to try this but the first couple chapters just weren't grabbing me. I may try this again though - just read her Wikipedia bio and there's got to be some interesting stuff in here!!Read more of my reviews on JenRyland.com! Check out my Bookstagram! Or check out my Jen In Ten reviews on Youtube - get the lowdown on current books in 10-30 seconds!Thanks to the publisher for providing an advance copy for review!
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  • Debbie Pell Dunning
    January 1, 1970
    This book knocked the wind out of me -- Mandy's story combined with her self-awareness and ability to touch the reader's emotional nerves make hers such a fresh and refreshing voice. Her soul-baring confessions made me remember choices and feelings of my own that I've never been brave enough to put into words. This has got to be one of the hottest books of the year -- I think that every woman should read it. Her life experiences are unique and universal at the same time. At times you wonder how This book knocked the wind out of me -- Mandy's story combined with her self-awareness and ability to touch the reader's emotional nerves make hers such a fresh and refreshing voice. Her soul-baring confessions made me remember choices and feelings of my own that I've never been brave enough to put into words. This has got to be one of the hottest books of the year -- I think that every woman should read it. Her life experiences are unique and universal at the same time. At times you wonder how she survived such a fast life in Manhattan media and society while encumbered by such powerful self-destructive impulses. The title tells you how hard she judged herself, the way we all do at times. But spoiler alert, there's a very happy ending, this is a true love story -- it made me cry real tears, and I wanted more. Gonna buy the audio book because this is worth revisiting more than once.
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  • Janilyn Kocher
    January 1, 1970
    Unwifeable is a narrative of a woman hell bent on self destruction. She drank herself into stupors, had raunchy sexual escapades, and doped up on drugs and then wrote all about it for the NY Post. It's also sad that Stadtmiller valued herself so little that she imbibed in the dissolute rituals. In the end, she turns it around and finds her salvation, in more ways than one.
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  • Rebecca
    January 1, 1970
    A big thank you to Simon & Schuster Canada for sending along a review copy of this book. Fans of Cheryl Strayed and Stephanie Klein will enjoy this raw memoir that touches on everything from alcoholism and binge eating to sexual addiction. I wasn't familiar with the author and so when I glanced at the pink cover and title (I completely missed the cigarette on the cover), I expected some saccharine, cringey chick lit romance thing. Instead, I was surprised at how relatable and honest Stadtmi A big thank you to Simon & Schuster Canada for sending along a review copy of this book. Fans of Cheryl Strayed and Stephanie Klein will enjoy this raw memoir that touches on everything from alcoholism and binge eating to sexual addiction. I wasn't familiar with the author and so when I glanced at the pink cover and title (I completely missed the cigarette on the cover), I expected some saccharine, cringey chick lit romance thing. Instead, I was surprised at how relatable and honest Stadtmiller's writing is, especially when describing her journey with various self-destructive behaviours and undeserved self-loathing all the way to self-acceptance. I'm so glad that she actually goes into detail about some very personal roadblocks and all of the ups and downs (especially the downs) rather than sugarcoating the outcome as some writers might have done. A quick, witty and touching read.
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  • JP
    January 1, 1970
    There were times when I was reading this book that I was thinking about this review score. Had I rated it at various times throughout my read it would have been a 2 star, a 5 star, a 3 star. Finally I landed on this 4 star review. The prose at times is 2 star. The content however is 5 star all the way. This is one of the most salacious and honest memoirs I have ever read. Tragic, gripping, and at times horrific. There is brutal honesty and reflection in here, and therein lies the best Auto-Bio's There were times when I was reading this book that I was thinking about this review score. Had I rated it at various times throughout my read it would have been a 2 star, a 5 star, a 3 star. Finally I landed on this 4 star review. The prose at times is 2 star. The content however is 5 star all the way. This is one of the most salacious and honest memoirs I have ever read. Tragic, gripping, and at times horrific. There is brutal honesty and reflection in here, and therein lies the best Auto-Bio's. Unabashed honesty. There is a hopeful message which I did not see coming until the very end, and that is why this book is getting a four star review. Thank you for Sharing Mandy.
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  • Kayo
    January 1, 1970
    Funny but a bit cringe-worthy. Sometimes a bit hard to read, knowing she allowed certain things to happen. Overall good.
  • wellreadtraveler
    January 1, 1970
    I’m not usually one to pick up memoirs, and I have to admit I didn’t know who Mandy Stadmiller was intially so I Googled her before I started the book. I love comedy, so I watched a few of her stand up tapes. She was really funny so I was looking forward to that crossing over into her book. I found myself laughing, being mortified on her behalf, and I felt like a cheerleader with each new relationship, hoping this one would be “the one”. This book isn’t for the faint of heart, Mandy spills the b I’m not usually one to pick up memoirs, and I have to admit I didn’t know who Mandy Stadmiller was intially so I Googled her before I started the book. I love comedy, so I watched a few of her stand up tapes. She was really funny so I was looking forward to that crossing over into her book. I found myself laughing, being mortified on her behalf, and I felt like a cheerleader with each new relationship, hoping this one would be “the one”. This book isn’t for the faint of heart, Mandy spills the beans, and at times it gets pretty dirty. I loved that she put her story out there and really doesn’t care what people think. Being single in New York isn’t easy, especially when your 6’2” in a city full of single women who are just as successful. Mandy feels she is not worthy of love and after many failed relationships feels she is “unwifeable”. I felt so many times that she was using sex to fill a void, to make her feel even temporarily special. Mandy talks about her childhood, her parents, and how they essentially shaped her image of herself. A lot of the book was like watching TMZ, lots of really good celebrity gossip! My advice is even if you’re like me and don’t know who Mandy Standmiller is, pick up the book anyways. This is the most honest and open book about a girl who just wants to find someone, and prove that in the end she really isn’t “unwifeable”.
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  • Derek Milman
    January 1, 1970
    An absolute un-put-down-able, laugh-out-loud, dizzying, breathtaking masterpiece. Stadtmiller's voice is as sharp and gleaming as a surgical scalpel. The memoir is fearless, taking on some tough subjects, tackling some difficult questions, and never afraid to show its dark side. A soon-to-be modern dating & romance classic! Not to be missed.
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  • Jessica Sorentino
    January 1, 1970
    Listen, if you like to laugh with someone as they comically share their life with you, Unwifeable is your next book. I was at first drawn to Mandy's memoir because of it's cover, but quickly became immersed in the pages as she described her young divorce, late-20's move to NYC, working in the media, scandals of dating, living publicly and financial disregard. I was so reminded of Cat Marnell's memoir from last year (which you know I loved), and found Mandy's hold-nothing-back, ruthless account o Listen, if you like to laugh with someone as they comically share their life with you, Unwifeable is your next book. I was at first drawn to Mandy's memoir because of it's cover, but quickly became immersed in the pages as she described her young divorce, late-20's move to NYC, working in the media, scandals of dating, living publicly and financial disregard. I was so reminded of Cat Marnell's memoir from last year (which you know I loved), and found Mandy's hold-nothing-back, ruthless account of her life one I am happy to have read. Totally recommend this book as your next upbeat nonfiction, New Yorkers (and beyond).
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  • Roxy
    January 1, 1970
    There were some cringeworthy moments that made me think we she did the things she did. She clearly didn't like it, but she did it anyway.For a journalist, the memoir read like it was written by a high-schooler.
  • Kim
    January 1, 1970
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  • Zibbernaut
    January 1, 1970
    I got sent an ARC of this by Goodreads because I won a giveaway, so I was thrilled to read the free book. The version I had included a few spelling mistakes, but overall I don't think the book will change much from the version I read. This book is raw, as many other people have said already, and honestly I was surprised the depths that the story devolved into. But at the same time, I wasn't startled by it. Mandy tells the story in a way that eases you into even the most depraved moments. She's a I got sent an ARC of this by Goodreads because I won a giveaway, so I was thrilled to read the free book. The version I had included a few spelling mistakes, but overall I don't think the book will change much from the version I read. This book is raw, as many other people have said already, and honestly I was surprised the depths that the story devolved into. But at the same time, I wasn't startled by it. Mandy tells the story in a way that eases you into even the most depraved moments. She's an incredibly good storyteller, and I'm definitely glad I read the book even though I had never heard of her before. The journey she describes is deep and honest. We follow her through the worst parts of her life, and we look into her childhood to get insight into why she turned out the way she did. We watch her grow into a woman who is not perfect, but is on the road to recovery . I think this novel will have a strong impact on any who read it. My only critique would be that she name drops a lot, which is I suppose what she's trained for in her line of work, but I was a bit exasperated by some of it if the person mentioned didn't even speak to her or affect anything. This was the first novel I've ever annotated, so I wrote my reactions and thoughts in the margins. I think in this case it added to the experience, and I'm hoping it will add to whoever's experience I give the book to later.
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  • Stella
    January 1, 1970
    I need to preface this review with the caveat that I am not a Mandy Stadtmiller fan. I never have been. Her column in the Post was a hate read for me for many years. I also saw her standup a few times and did not find her funny in the least. Her writing on xojane was avoided. I found her crass and just plain unlikeable. THAT BEING SAID....Unwifeable is a very open and honest memoir about her life and struggles with self acceptance. YES, there are tales of sex. YES, there are drunken antics that I need to preface this review with the caveat that I am not a Mandy Stadtmiller fan. I never have been. Her column in the Post was a hate read for me for many years. I also saw her standup a few times and did not find her funny in the least. Her writing on xojane was avoided. I found her crass and just plain unlikeable. THAT BEING SAID....Unwifeable is a very open and honest memoir about her life and struggles with self acceptance. YES, there are tales of sex. YES, there are drunken antics that are just downright stupid. YES, the names being dropped make you reevaluate your feelings towards certain people. But with all of that, there is redemption, there is change. Mandy is honest about her sobriety and addictions. She was a good time party girl, struggling with the pressures and pain that she inflicted onto herself. New York will chew you up and spit you out. It happened to me. It happened to Mandy. And...we both have picked up those pieces and fought back. This is a redemption story that is still very much being worked on. Mandy Stadtmiller is a talented writer, when she's being honest with her readers and herself. Thanks to NetGalley, the publisher and Mandy Stadtmiller for the opportunity to read and review this book.
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  • Jessica Delfino
    January 1, 1970
    I love everything that Mandy writes because her heart is a faucet left on and what comes out is a pure, cold, fresh drink when your mouth is full of sand. She gets into the cracks of your spirit and sits there and you find yourself thinking her words days, weeks, months, years later. She is one of those writers who changes you--you don't see the world the same anymore after reading what she wrote. Unwifeable hit me the same way other things I've read by her have, but maybe a little bit harder, b I love everything that Mandy writes because her heart is a faucet left on and what comes out is a pure, cold, fresh drink when your mouth is full of sand. She gets into the cracks of your spirit and sits there and you find yourself thinking her words days, weeks, months, years later. She is one of those writers who changes you--you don't see the world the same anymore after reading what she wrote. Unwifeable hit me the same way other things I've read by her have, but maybe a little bit harder, because I could relate to her stories and her heartbreak and her joy so hard, and I really want her to win in these chapters, even more than in some of her other stories where her floundering was more fitting. Unlike some dumb characters in movies or TV shows or other books that you don't care about, you want to root for Mandy, and you are compelled to. Her vulnerability is too sweet and honest and aching for you not to. And she's funny! This book is a must read for anyone who's ever gone up one side of love and down the other, loitered on the edges or only watched from afar. It's really for any human with a soul.
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  • Morgan Schulman
    January 1, 1970
    I was given in advanced readers copy in exchange for an honest review. I had requested this book because I loved XO Jane to death and because Cat Marnell's memoir was entertaining as hell. Unfortunately, this book is luridd without being entertaining , and just feels like I read somebody's AA 4th step or sat in on somebody's therapy session . I felt uncomfortable, not enlightened . Not sure what she was trying to achieve, but I don't think she achieved it
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