Unfu*k Yourself
Have you ever felt like a hamster on a wheel, furiously churning your way through life but somehow going nowhere? It seems like there’s a barrage of information surrounding us in our everyday lives with the keys to this thing or that thing, be it wealth, success, happiness or purpose. The truth is, most of it fails to capture what it truly takes to overcome our greatest barrier to a greater life…ourselves. What if everything you ever wanted resided in you like a well of potential, waiting to be expressed? Unfu*k Yourself is the handbook for the resigned and defeated, a manifesto for real life change and unleashing your own greatness.

Unfu*k Yourself Details

TitleUnfu*k Yourself
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LanguageEnglish
ReleaseOct 22nd, 2016
Rating
GenreSelf Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Audiobook

Unfu*k Yourself Review

  • Skyler Autumn
    January 1, 1970
    3.5 Stars Should I read into the fact my mom gifted me with this book? Gary John Bishop embraces his Scottish decent in his no nonsense, get your shit together diatribe in the astutely titled self help book UnF*ck Yourself. The book is broken into seven personal assertions that are labelled and then thoroughly broken down and explained in repetitive detail.I am willingI am wired to winI got thisI embrace uncertaintyI am not my thoughts: I am what I doI am relentlessI expect nothing and accept 3.5 Stars Should I read into the fact my mom gifted me with this book? Gary John Bishop embraces his Scottish decent in his no nonsense, get your shit together diatribe in the astutely titled self help book UnF*ck Yourself. The book is broken into seven personal assertions that are labelled and then thoroughly broken down and explained in repetitive detail.I am willingI am wired to winI got thisI embrace uncertaintyI am not my thoughts: I am what I doI am relentlessI expect nothing and accept everythingLike most self help books Gary John Bishop isn't reinventing the wheel but to me most self help books aren't informing you of anything you didn't already know, they are simply reminding you with gusto and enthusiasm that you are responsible for your own life. No one is going to help you get that better job, lose the weight, get your soul mate that is always in the end going to come down to you. It is all stuff we as human's are aware of at the bottom of our excuse ridden hearts, but sometimes you need that little reminder that it's time to make some actual change.The chapter that most resonated with me was, I am not my thoughts: I am what I do. This chapter plays against the running theme in most self help books these days where you are told to put out positive energy and you will be rewarded with positivity, make that dream board and the universe will provide you with your dreams. This book takes that hippie dippie nonsense and puts it plainly thought without action does jack shit for your life. Although being a positive person might be a nice comfort at the end of the day if you're ultimate goal is to marry your dream guy but spend your days in bed watching Netflix don't expect those thoughts to snuggle you at night. Some of the most successful people in the world have depression, anxiety, and addiction they are far from the epitome of happiness because at the end of the days it's going to be that day-to-day grind that will ultimately change your life and not that happy thought you put out into the universe once in a blue moon. You can't wait for mental contentment to help you get in the mood to go to the gym, it's those that go when they are sick, sad or lazy that will have your dream body. So stop just thinking and start actually doing.All and all I enjoyed this read it is short and definitely not sweet but I think we are babied and coddled too much and it's nice to have a realist come in, give you a mental slap and say get your shit together!
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  • Emma Sea
    January 1, 1970
    Quite liked this. Straight talking, no bullshit, easy language, and a fast read. Bishop details seven "personal assertions" to live your life by:I am willingI am wired to winI got thisI embrace uncertaintyI am not my thoughts: I am what I doI am relentlessI expect nothing and accept everythingLaying it out like this make it sound like it's new-agey affirmation, staring into the mirror and repeating "I got this," but it really isn't. Rather it's Bishop telling you to pull your fucking finger out Quite liked this. Straight talking, no bullshit, easy language, and a fast read. Bishop details seven "personal assertions" to live your life by:I am willingI am wired to winI got thisI embrace uncertaintyI am not my thoughts: I am what I doI am relentlessI expect nothing and accept everythingLaying it out like this make it sound like it's new-agey affirmation, staring into the mirror and repeating "I got this," but it really isn't. Rather it's Bishop telling you to pull your fucking finger out and DO THE THING. Of all the assertions, the most important is I am not my thoughts: I am what I do. Bishop insists we act, even if/when we don't feel like it. If we don't act, then we need to face the fact we're not willing. I like this approach, but I can see it would be alienating for some people. So, say, for example, you have executive function disorders, Bishop would say being willing means learning and practicing strategies to overcome or work with these. You don't get to say "I want to but I can't." You brain might be telling you you can't, but your brain's thoughts are not you. Hence this book would slot in well with a meditation practice. You will know if you find this approach helpful or annoying.
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  • ScienceOfSuccess
    January 1, 1970
    Gary's book is short and simple. If you are looking for a change in your life, you will love it!Check my animated review here: >> bit.ly/UnfkYourself <<
  • Fernando Gros
    January 1, 1970
    Despite an eye-catching title and the promise of edgy, life-changing advice, this little self-help book really doesn't deliver. Recycled ideas we've heard before, like imagine the life you want the set steps to get there, or lower your expectations to live happily in the moment aren't even the worst of it. This book assumes the reader is wealthy and has total agency in their life. If you are disabled, ill, or have experienced abuse, or institutional marginalisation this book has nothing for you. Despite an eye-catching title and the promise of edgy, life-changing advice, this little self-help book really doesn't deliver. Recycled ideas we've heard before, like imagine the life you want the set steps to get there, or lower your expectations to live happily in the moment aren't even the worst of it. This book assumes the reader is wealthy and has total agency in their life. If you are disabled, ill, or have experienced abuse, or institutional marginalisation this book has nothing for you. And, if you can't remember the time you landed your dream job, or had a family holiday in the Caribbean, then you will probably read the examples and wonder, what am I doing here?
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  • Cindy
    January 1, 1970
    I quite like this book. It's a different approach and a kick in the butt to get you out of a rut. One of the most important bits to take away is that we are not our thoughts but we are what we do. Bishop insists that we need to act, even if we don't feel like it. When we choose not to act, we need to face the fact that we're not willing. Inaction is, in effect, action and can be debilitating and have a domino effect. If you just want a hug and to be told nothing is your fault, well, this probabl I quite like this book. It's a different approach and a kick in the butt to get you out of a rut. One of the most important bits to take away is that we are not our thoughts but we are what we do. Bishop insists that we need to act, even if we don't feel like it. When we choose not to act, we need to face the fact that we're not willing. Inaction is, in effect, action and can be debilitating and have a domino effect. If you just want a hug and to be told nothing is your fault, well, this probably isn't for you. If you want to put your big girl or boy pants on and get on with it and make things happen, then this is a good place to start. Would also be a good gift for a friend or family member who might need a not so subtle kick in the arse. Yep. Definitely recommend.
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  • Michael
    January 1, 1970
    I listened to this on Audible, where Gary John Bishop's Scottish accent adds priceless enthusiasm and flavor to the material.The material for that matter, is nothing new, just basic self-empowerment tenants. But something about having basic tenants spoken to you in an aggressive Scottish accent is inspiring.It's not a life changing book, but at under 3.5 hours as an audiobook, it did help me change my attitude in a few distinct instances throughout the day. And I can attribute some good days to I listened to this on Audible, where Gary John Bishop's Scottish accent adds priceless enthusiasm and flavor to the material.The material for that matter, is nothing new, just basic self-empowerment tenants. But something about having basic tenants spoken to you in an aggressive Scottish accent is inspiring.It's not a life changing book, but at under 3.5 hours as an audiobook, it did help me change my attitude in a few distinct instances throughout the day. And I can attribute some good days to the good attitude that this book gave me, so I'd say it's worthwhile.
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  • Krista Danis
    January 1, 1970
    I think Bishop is going for the direct, "tough love" type approach with this book, which presumes that the reader is perpetually miserable, lazy, fat, and unsatisfied. These assumptions restrict his meandering diatribe to exactly that which he claims to loathe--a basic mantra-driven self-help trope that lazily posits, "Just do it!," as its main thesis. If that commanding cheer was enough to rip people from the grips of paralyzing fear (of change, unpredictability, the unknown, or even basic disc I think Bishop is going for the direct, "tough love" type approach with this book, which presumes that the reader is perpetually miserable, lazy, fat, and unsatisfied. These assumptions restrict his meandering diatribe to exactly that which he claims to loathe--a basic mantra-driven self-help trope that lazily posits, "Just do it!," as its main thesis. If that commanding cheer was enough to rip people from the grips of paralyzing fear (of change, unpredictability, the unknown, or even basic discomfort), than the first hundreds of books published just like this would have completely erased the market for books just like this. In short, Bishop offers nothing psychologically, philosophically, or socially insightful to the conversation around why we often do things that are self-destructive and misaligned with our ultimate goals. There is potential here, though, as an introductory self-help text if you have literally never read one before.
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  • Ashley
    January 1, 1970
    As a psychologist I often like to read self-help books my clients might read or my students might encounter. Sometimes I use them to drive home points or offer them as resources. I like to see what is out there. This book is actually pretty good at illustrating basic Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and REBT principles. For that, I would have given it a solid 4 stars! I think it drives home the very very very basics of CBT in a "average citizen" sort of way. However, if you have ANY exposure to ther As a psychologist I often like to read self-help books my clients might read or my students might encounter. Sometimes I use them to drive home points or offer them as resources. I like to see what is out there. This book is actually pretty good at illustrating basic Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and REBT principles. For that, I would have given it a solid 4 stars! I think it drives home the very very very basics of CBT in a "average citizen" sort of way. However, if you have ANY exposure to therapy or CBT or self help then this book is probably nothing new. Additionally, it really doesn't offer any actionable steps or advice on what to do. It tended to be very general. Minus a few stars for that--I could see that being VERY frustrating for people. All in all, it is an excellent first step for many but it is going to be repetitive for those who are at least a little experienced in this genre.
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  • TheGeekyBlogger
    January 1, 1970
    Read for Review (Edelweiss)Overall Rating: 3.75Quick Thoughts: While there wasn't anything new in this book, I did like the presentation. This was about self-talk. How to do it, what we are doing wrong, and how you get in your own way. He reminds you to talk in present tense (future tense gives you a way out) and make sure to be kind/inspiring to yourself. He also talks about the self-talk we do about others and that impacts us. He was right on about that! What and how we think of others impacts Read for Review (Edelweiss)Overall Rating: 3.75Quick Thoughts: While there wasn't anything new in this book, I did like the presentation. This was about self-talk. How to do it, what we are doing wrong, and how you get in your own way. He reminds you to talk in present tense (future tense gives you a way out) and make sure to be kind/inspiring to yourself. He also talks about the self-talk we do about others and that impacts us. He was right on about that! What and how we think of others impacts our attitudes. Overall this is one of the better self-talk books out there and I recommend it!Part of my Read It, Rate It, File It, DONE! Reviews
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  • Neffertiti Lee
    January 1, 1970
    Read it with book club. It was a basic self-help book. The message was straightforward and did not have any deep or meaningful insights. While it was warm and fuzzy it did not provide any life or mind altering ideas that were impactful. I was not excited to finish it at all.
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  • Liza Fireman
    January 1, 1970
    I'm not a huge fan of self help kind of books, and most of the time also not a fan of books where the author seems to be shouting at the readers. This book really annoyed me at the beginning, but then it got to me. And I think that was something that I needed a reminder of lately.The book consists of short chapters, the names speak for themselves. “I am willing”, “I am wired to win”, “I got this”, “I embrace the uncertainty” , “I am not my thoughts; I am what I do” , “I am relentless”, “I expect I'm not a huge fan of self help kind of books, and most of the time also not a fan of books where the author seems to be shouting at the readers. This book really annoyed me at the beginning, but then it got to me. And I think that was something that I needed a reminder of lately.The book consists of short chapters, the names speak for themselves. “I am willing”, “I am wired to win”, “I got this”, “I embrace the uncertainty” , “I am not my thoughts; I am what I do” , “I am relentless”, “I expect nothing and accept everything”. Gary reminds us to stop when we are on the hamster's wheel. And not to talk badly about ourselves. To stop the self-defeating monolog.Have you ever felt like a hamster on a wheel, furiously churning your way through life but somehow going nowhere? All the while you’re caught in a loop of constant internal chatter and judgement that never stops, a little voice telling you that you’re lazy or stupid or not good enough. You won’t even notice the degree to which you believe it or are drained by it, you’ll just be spending your day working to overcome the stresses and strains, trying to live your life and at various points facing the resignation that if you can’t get your ass off this damned wheel maybe you are never going to get to where you want in life – maybe that happiness you’re after or that weight you want to lose or that career or relationship you crave will remain just out of reach. These pages are dedicated to those that experience that self-defeating monolog. We do talk to ourselves, most of our conversations are with ourselves.Now I am not a huge fan of the think positive mantra, even though I am a huge fan of thinking positive, I don't think that telling people that again and again is actually going to help. But I do agree here with Gary about a few things. The first, is that it is important to not disempower yourself even on the small things: You see, it’s not always dramatic self-talk, sometimes it’s subtle but equally disempowering. If you’re working on something, you might think, “This is so hard. What if I don’t finish in time?”The second, which is well known, is that if we give up or not quite sure that we have a chance, we will probably not succeed. If you’re sometimes talking about how “unfair” life is, you’ll start to act according to that view, perceiving slights where none exist or, as studies have shown, putting less effort into your work because you’ve already determined it won’t accomplish anything. The unfair view will quickly become your reality. That is also true for our teachers, I hope that everyone is aware of the "gifted" fourth graders experiment, and how they were more successful when their teachers were told that they were gifted, even though they were struggling students.The third was declaring unwillingness, which is not different than declaring willingness. Maybe you are in fact, unwilling. In many cases, that may actually be the best answer you can give. Sometimes declaring your unwillingness can be just as powerful as declaring willingness. Are you willing to live with a body that’sAnd the thing I liked the most was changing the "I will" to "I am" when we want to do something.Assertive self-talk is when you stake a claim for this moment of time, right here and now. When you start to talk in terms of “I am…” or “I embrace…” or “I accept…” or “I assert…”, all of which are powerful and commanding uses of language rather than the narrative of “I will…” or “I’m going to…” The physiological and psychological impact of using in-the-moment, assertive language is not only powerful, it has a very real in-the-moment effect.So take charge of your life. “Stop blaming luck. Stop blaming other people. Stop pointing to outside influences or circumstances.” Take a step back and look at the bigger picture, zoom out and see more clearly. Face your problems as they come, one by one.We are more resilient than we sometimes think or feel:Your boat hasn’t and won’t sink so easily. There may be some waves, you might go through some storms, and you’ll probably end up seasick from time to time, but your journey across that ocean we call life will continue. But just like a captain facing a major squall, you can’t just let yourself be tossed about. You have to step up and steer your life back in the direction you want it to go. So your journey wasn’t as smooth as you wanted it to be. Does that mean you’re just going to let yourself get blown off course? I didn’t think so. And you definitely shouldn’t let what happens in one area of life affect your outlook on the whole. You just can’t afford to allow your struggles at work make you miserable at home or let your relationship troubles affect your mood at the office.Before your new adventure or resolution read this book quickly. Embrace uncertainty because this is where new happens. Remember that every successful person that you know doubted themselves and their path, they just didn't let uncertainty stop them, and the inner voice to scare them. They did it anyway, and we should do it anyway too. Almost 4 stars.
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  • Jerrie (redwritinghood)
    January 1, 1970
    There is nothing here that is new, but it’s laid out in a very clear way and with an engaging, no nonsense style. If you’ve ever done yoga or meditation, you will probably already know that everyone has negative thoughts and those thoughts are meaningless. Action in spite of negative thought leads to real gains and improvements. That is the gist of this book - if you want to accomplish something, ignore your monkey-mind and just do it.
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  • Natalie Park
    January 1, 1970
    The perfect book at the perfect time!
  • Rodney C.
    January 1, 1970
    Bishop offers nothing new in this book. I'd heard all of it before. Maybe it's the fact that mine was the audio book and he's Scottish. Maybe it's the title. Maybe it's his use of expletives within the book. Not sure. But it gave me just the kick in the groin I needed to put common personal development themes in play... to act. So the sub-title is really on point.Bishop also presents "detachment from outcome" more succinctly than anyone I've read thus far. I had understood it, but found it diffi Bishop offers nothing new in this book. I'd heard all of it before. Maybe it's the fact that mine was the audio book and he's Scottish. Maybe it's the title. Maybe it's his use of expletives within the book. Not sure. But it gave me just the kick in the groin I needed to put common personal development themes in play... to act. So the sub-title is really on point.Bishop also presents "detachment from outcome" more succinctly than anyone I've read thus far. I had understood it, but found it difficult to put into practice in the way it had been presented to me before. By pointing out the difference between formulated goals, and the path to them in the real world, it all came together in a more practical way.Can't say whether or not the dead-tree version would have impacted me this way, but I'd highly recommend this book on anyone's commute. I'm probably going to be revisiting it many more times.
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  • Joseph
    January 1, 1970
    This was a pretty good book designed to teach how to get out of the particular ruts we put ourselves in by telling ourselves we're not good enough or our problems are too large, etc. Practical for sure, and good to put this on paper and read it sometimes. I think this was a self-published book, and had a few grammatical and typographical errors that were a nuisance but shouldn't distract from the overall message. Fast read, worth checking out.
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  • Renata Broock
    January 1, 1970
    um livro inteiro só de coisas que a gente sabe (igual todos de auto ajuda) só que com palavrão na capa. dar uma folheada e ler os negritos já tá bom.
  • Mykolas
    January 1, 1970
    I'm not a huge fan of self help books, simply because I've got a pretty good life going that I'm happy about, but more importantly I don't believe there is a book that will change your life for the better, it's actually entirely up to you.But I've recently read "Vertical Mind" (random pick as it's pretty much the only book on audible about improving climbing performance) and realized that there are areas to improve and that I do have some problems to solve not only in climbing, but also in my li I'm not a huge fan of self help books, simply because I've got a pretty good life going that I'm happy about, but more importantly I don't believe there is a book that will change your life for the better, it's actually entirely up to you.But I've recently read "Vertical Mind" (random pick as it's pretty much the only book on audible about improving climbing performance) and realized that there are areas to improve and that I do have some problems to solve not only in climbing, but also in my life. So I've picked the first book on the topic and it happens to be "Unfuck Yourself".Nothing groundbreaking here, but it did some thought provoking for me. Perhaps I did get too comfortable in my life, to the point of anxiety to lose that comfort. I am struggling to save money to buy myself new apartment, and even to keep my apartment as clean as I would like it to be.However in terms of learning something new there isn't much, most of the stuff was obvious even if I haven't read any self help books up until now. But the narration is phenomenal. It will get you hyped and it will make you reflect on your life, take a good look at where you're are, especially if you're like me: average person who got too comfortable and sucked in into a daily routine. No, it did not convince me to drastically change my life (after all, I am rather happy with how it goes), but there are certainly small things that need improvement and I'm glad this book brought my attention to it and motivation to do something about it.
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  • Dave B.
    January 1, 1970
    A fun short read with easy points to follow which can improve your personal life view (sense of self-worth). This was a perfect example of how simplicity, clarity, and concise writing provide the best form of communications. The author gets to the point: To improve your life, you need to change your thinking, take action and stick with your actions (new habits). The author writes this in a very straightforward fashion. I felt like I was sitting in front of my rough and tough uncle while he told A fun short read with easy points to follow which can improve your personal life view (sense of self-worth). This was a perfect example of how simplicity, clarity, and concise writing provide the best form of communications. The author gets to the point: To improve your life, you need to change your thinking, take action and stick with your actions (new habits). The author writes this in a very straightforward fashion. I felt like I was sitting in front of my rough and tough uncle while he told me to stand up straight and get my Sh*&T together. “Son, the world ain’t going to give you no breaks, you’ve got to get out there and take what you need. Believe in yourself and never give up on your dreams! Now take this beer and move out of the way you’re blocking the game!” This book is a part of a collection of ‘backlash’ books that came out in 2017 which oppose the 80-90’s self-help attitude of; excessive tolerance for mediocrity and excessive reward for simply showing up. For that reason, this has become one my favorite books in self-help. I will keep this on my shelf at my desk. Every so often I need to be reminded that I can screw up, to fix it I need to find the problem and fix it. Oh yes, I am no worse off than anyone out here, a new car or cellphone won’t fix that but hard work just might make me a little happier in my life. Five stars great read for me. This book has to sit right next to “The subtle are of not giving a F*ck” with these two books on your shelf you might remember your life is not that bad and you actually have to work hard to get what you want.
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  • Matt
    January 1, 1970
    It's hard to leave a negative review of this book without falling into one of the many traps we find ourselves falling into as human beings or, as the author puts it, the ways we fu*k ourselves. Fortunately, I don't have to. As a tool for turning one's life around, it could possibly be the most effective book of all time in this regard. Such a statement perplexes me then as to why some people would leave negative reviews such as, "there's nothing new here" or "there's no new information" or "it' It's hard to leave a negative review of this book without falling into one of the many traps we find ourselves falling into as human beings or, as the author puts it, the ways we fu*k ourselves. Fortunately, I don't have to. As a tool for turning one's life around, it could possibly be the most effective book of all time in this regard. Such a statement perplexes me then as to why some people would leave negative reviews such as, "there's nothing new here" or "there's no new information" or "it's too simplistic" etc. But frankly, they're missing the entire point of the book and that is to break down the barriers of those who would not usually consider personal-development books with brute force, the kind of advice you would usually get from a fervent family member. This is the book for people who have a cynical view of the personal-development industry — a cynicism that needs to be rooted out if you are to achieve anything in your life. So if you're somebody who has read a whole bunch of these books as if it's a sport, then perhaps you've fallen into the trap of being overly analytical and figuring things out in your mind rather than reaching out to people who could help you. And I say this because it would be absolutely tragic for someone who genuinely needs help, who genuinely wants to improve their situation, to have their cynicism validated and compounded by some of the negative and unhelpful reviews I've read here. I can't highly recommend this book enough and if you're the slightest bit motivated to improve your life then look no further.
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  • Faye Arcand
    January 1, 1970
    This book is well written and easy to read. It's also the kick in the ass that I needed. For the most part there is nothing really shocking or extraordinary that the author says in regards to human behavior that I either hadn't heard, studied, or knew before. The thing is that I still found myself with my bright yellow high-lighter marking passages for future reference.I think that's why I loved this book so much--it's a reminder of all the crap that we allow into our heads to clog it up and wei This book is well written and easy to read. It's also the kick in the ass that I needed. For the most part there is nothing really shocking or extraordinary that the author says in regards to human behavior that I either hadn't heard, studied, or knew before. The thing is that I still found myself with my bright yellow high-lighter marking passages for future reference.I think that's why I loved this book so much--it's a reminder of all the crap that we allow into our heads to clog it up and weigh us down. We all see the cutesy daily affirmations on social media that remind us to look on the bright side of life or to hold our head high--fake it til you make it sort of stuff--and this book is the same thing with the hope that you're going to spend more time and not just scroll right on by.The author writes: "These pages will require you to think--to cognitively connect your language and your feelings in a real and conscious way with your everyday."I believe that I'll be flipping through this book on a regular basis just as a reminder to stop and think. Oh, and if you're wondering...It didn't unfu*k me, but gave me a push in the right direction. Sometimes that's all we need.
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  • Spencer Borup
    January 1, 1970
    **EDIT** I'm bumping this down from two stars to one, because a paragraph that infuriated me just popped back into my head: toward the end, the author, Gary John Bishop, actually says that medication isn't helpful and is just a crutch, and that if you're depressed then you need to just "get off your ass." That's incredibly harmful advice, and at no point does he give that "I'm not a medical professional" spiel. Fuck that. **EDIT**Meh. If you picked this book based on its title, look elsewhere at **EDIT** I'm bumping this down from two stars to one, because a paragraph that infuriated me just popped back into my head: toward the end, the author, Gary John Bishop, actually says that medication isn't helpful and is just a crutch, and that if you're depressed then you need to just "get off your ass." That's incredibly harmful advice, and at no point does he give that "I'm not a medical professional" spiel. Fuck that. **EDIT**Meh. If you picked this book based on its title, look elsewhere at other irreverent titles like The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.This book doesn't offer up much new information—though I did love the ideas of neuroplasticity and cognitive restructuring—and seemed to contradict itself quite a bit. The first half: words and what you tell yourself are crucially important; the second half: what you think doesn't matter, just do! The first half: this may be the best self-help book you ever pick up; the second half: self-help books are bullshit!If you do read this, I suggest staying away from the audiobook. The last half hour is the author basically screaming at you in an incredibly annoying whine.
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  • Brittany
    January 1, 1970
    Not as "offensive" as it tries to make itself out to be. Some good advice but there's a lot of fluff. A lot of the book could be cut and the points would still make sense.Some takeaways I appreciated:- You could change your life overnight if you gave up the notion that other peoples' opinions matter. Be willing to be judged by others and not let it get to you. - No one can read your mind. Say what's on it. Share your plans and ideas. That thing that's pissing you off might not be on their radar. Not as "offensive" as it tries to make itself out to be. Some good advice but there's a lot of fluff. A lot of the book could be cut and the points would still make sense.Some takeaways I appreciated:- You could change your life overnight if you gave up the notion that other peoples' opinions matter. Be willing to be judged by others and not let it get to you. - No one can read your mind. Say what's on it. Share your plans and ideas. That thing that's pissing you off might not be on their radar. They could be completely oblivious. - You are not your thoughts; you are, and are defined by, what do you.- Cognitive restructuring- We create our own reality with our minds. Don't let outside events have so much power. - You have the life you are willing to put up with. - Uncertainty is where things happen; it's your personal pathway to growth. - Even when you don't see anything happening, it is. Even when you're not quite hitting the mark, you're making progress.- If you're getting brought down by something not meeting your expectations, try to accept things as they are and deal with them rather than wasting energy lamenting your unmet
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  • Anna Cargill
    January 1, 1970
    I can't say enough good things about this book. I first listened to the audio book read by the author in his lovely Scottish accent and had to get the book because I wanted to take notes and be able to reference certain concepts. It is a very quick read, filled with truth without about being too harsh or too flowery. I normally don't buy self-help books as I never refer back to them (even though I probably should) but there are some simple gems in here that have really opened my eyes to things. I can't say enough good things about this book. I first listened to the audio book read by the author in his lovely Scottish accent and had to get the book because I wanted to take notes and be able to reference certain concepts. It is a very quick read, filled with truth without about being too harsh or too flowery. I normally don't buy self-help books as I never refer back to them (even though I probably should) but there are some simple gems in here that have really opened my eyes to things. Important to note: there is surprisingly little cursing despite the title, which I appreciated. Tried reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and I just couldn't - author way, way overused the word to the point that it lost it's meaning. Any cursing, in my opinion, was done so in an impactful and deliberate way so it holds its weight. It was funny, insightful, eye-opening, offered grace, gave practical ways of changing today and not once you have your stuff together. Highly recommend!!
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  • Nancy
    January 1, 1970
    If you're ready to take responsibility for where you are in life, this book could help you get focused. Really spoke to me. If you are sensitive to someone telling you to stop feeling sorry for yourself and take control of your life, don't bother reading this. But if you're ready to be serious and get past your (likely bad) attitude, this book may speak to you too. I found this read quick, easy, entertaining and the kick in the pants I needed. Thanks.
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  • Marvin Franke
    January 1, 1970
    You've heard all these ideas before in different forms. That is possibly true for the majority of the books that promise to improve your life. However, from time to time there is a book that strikes exactly the right tone, finds exactly the right words for you, so it has a real impact on your way of thinking. This book did this for me. I loved its no-bullshit approach, and I can recommend it to anyone who likes a mental slap in the face.
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  • Mehrsa
    January 1, 1970
    Anyone who follows my reviews (all three of you) know that I have a weak spot for dumb self-help books and I have to read one like every month. This one was a good one. It's short, helpful, and a nice reminder to get your expectations in check. Nothing revelatory here, but it's an easy read and I think he's basically right and the advice is sound.
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  • Dustan Woodhouse
    January 1, 1970
    A short simple burst of kick in the aaa common sense. Not technical. Not hard to grasp. And the audio version can comfortably be played at 2.5X. At that speed it’s less than a couple episodes of whatever your watching on Netflix these days. Do yourself a favour and have a listen.
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  • Kelli Koehler
    January 1, 1970
    "Because when you’re trekking through the jungle, you don’t know if you’re three days from civilization or thirty minutes. All you can do is walk. The only way out is forward."
  • Hailey
    January 1, 1970
    There’s nothing quite like having a Scotsman call you out on your BS for 3.5 hours. Everyone should listen to the audiobook version of this book in order to get the full effect, Scottish accent and all. This book gave me ZERO warm fuzzies. I DID NOT feel good after reading this book. (Especially after the tongue lashing at the end!) I gave this book 5 stars because, unlike other books out there chirping about positivity and your value as a special snowflake in this world, this is the first self There’s nothing quite like having a Scotsman call you out on your BS for 3.5 hours. Everyone should listen to the audiobook version of this book in order to get the full effect, Scottish accent and all. This book gave me ZERO warm fuzzies. I DID NOT feel good after reading this book. (Especially after the tongue lashing at the end!) I gave this book 5 stars because, unlike other books out there chirping about positivity and your value as a special snowflake in this world, this is the first self help book to make me actually ACT to change my life. It made me uncomfortable as hell, but I think that’s the point. If you are looking for the cozy coddled feeling you get after looking at a “Hang In There!” kitty cat poster, this book is not for you. As a self help book junkie, I was initially skeptical about how little he values positive thinking, but I get it. Bottom line here: If you want to change your life, CHANGE YOUR ACTIONS. Stop waiting for the perfect time or mindset and just do it.
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  • Jill
    January 1, 1970
    1 StarWhat I liked... the title, cover and quotes scattered throughout the book.What I didn’t like... absolutely everything else. There was no new information in this book that I haven’t read in a self-help/inspirational book before. I think I actually felt worse after reading this. I really wanted to like this book, but I just didn’t. Would not recommend :(
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