Uninvited
The enemy wants us to feel rejected . . . left out, lonely, and less than. When we allow him to speak lies through our rejection, he pickpockets our purpose. Cripples our courage. Dismantles our dreams. And blinds us to the beauty of Christ’s powerful love.In Uninvited, Lysa shares her own deeply personal experiences with rejection—from the incredibly painful childhood abandonment by her father to the perceived judgment of the perfectly toned woman one elliptical over.With biblical depth, gut-honest vulnerability, and refreshing wit, Lysa helps readers:Release the desire to fall apart or control the actions of others by embracing God-honoring ways to process their hurt.Know exactly what to pray for the next ten days to steady their soul and restore their confidence.Overcome the two core fears that feed our insecurities by understanding the secret of belonging.Stop feeling left out and start believing that "set apart" does not mean "set aside."End the cycle of perceived rejection by refusing to turn a small incident into a full blown issue.

Uninvited Details

TitleUninvited
Author
LanguageEnglish
ReleaseAug 9th, 2016
PublisherThomas Nelson
ISBN-139781400205875
Rating
GenreChristian, Nonfiction, Religion, Faith, Self Help

Uninvited Review

  • Rachel B
    January 1, 1970
    This book was a little unfocused. It seemed to touch on every topic and yet not really say anything. To sum it up, "God loves you, so you should live your life feeling loved. If you don't feel loved, that's a problem. The solution? Know that God loves you." Which isn't wrong - it's just incredibly simplistic and not overly helpful.TerKeurst also took a few verses out of context and read into Bible stories a bit more than I believe is wise. There were a few good nuggets, but nothing that I haven' This book was a little unfocused. It seemed to touch on every topic and yet not really say anything. To sum it up, "God loves you, so you should live your life feeling loved. If you don't feel loved, that's a problem. The solution? Know that God loves you." Which isn't wrong - it's just incredibly simplistic and not overly helpful.TerKeurst also took a few verses out of context and read into Bible stories a bit more than I believe is wise. There were a few good nuggets, but nothing that I haven't seen elsewhere, so I wouldn't recommend slogging through this book to find them.I received this book from the publisher via NetGalley.
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  • Rosie
    January 1, 1970
    Oh my stars.I wish I could have had this book a couple years ago. It would have saved me so much hurt. But I didn't, and that's okay. God brought me through and helped me work through it. In her book, Mrs. TerKeurst walks through how to overcome the pain of past or present rejection, and how to in turn live loved. If you've ever tasted that bitter sting of being rejected, I strongly recommend you pick this book up. As she points out, not tending to these wounds just allow a seed of bitterness to Oh my stars.I wish I could have had this book a couple years ago. It would have saved me so much hurt. But I didn't, and that's okay. God brought me through and helped me work through it. In her book, Mrs. TerKeurst walks through how to overcome the pain of past or present rejection, and how to in turn live loved. If you've ever tasted that bitter sting of being rejected, I strongly recommend you pick this book up. As she points out, not tending to these wounds just allow a seed of bitterness to grow in your heart. You need to quit ignoring the problem and address it, and Mrs. TerKeurst helps you do just that.Now, this book will not replace going to a counselor if that is what you need. But it has helped me in so many ways. Mrs. TerKeurst writes in such a relatable fashion, she shares her heart and her struggles. She reminded me that I wasn't alone. And that I wasn't the only one who had ever felt this way. She was encouraging and uplifting. I thought I would have gotten this review up sooner, except I had to keep going back and re-read chapters. This isn't some casual afternoon read, this book provokes thought and requires time to soak it all in. I could barely make it through a couple chapters at a time. Normally, that would be a bad thing but not this time!I have faced a lot of rejection this year. Maybe now that the wounds have started to heal I'll write about it. But until then, I can't recommend this book enough. If you're hurting, at least use this book as a starting place. Spend time in the scriptures she lists, and definitely pray. God will work wonders on your heart through Mrs. TerKeurst, if you'll let Him. He did just that for me!Thank you, Lysa, for being bold enough to write this book. I can't thank you enough!I received this book from BookLook Bloggers in return for an honest review of my opinions, which I have done. Thanks!
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  • Callie
    January 1, 1970
    2/5 stars.So, I'm just going to go ahead and give you the bottom line right from the start - I was rather disappointed in this book.I read The Best Yes by Lysa Terkheurst a while ago, and I really found it helpful, so I thought I'd pick up her new book. I generally think that Terkheurst is a good writer, but this book really fell flat for me, I think for a few reasons.1. This was not a great time in my life to read this book. I was trying to remember my own past rejections as I read, and trying 2/5 stars.So, I'm just going to go ahead and give you the bottom line right from the start - I was rather disappointed in this book.I read The Best Yes by Lysa Terkheurst a while ago, and I really found it helpful, so I thought I'd pick up her new book. I generally think that Terkheurst is a good writer, but this book really fell flat for me, I think for a few reasons.1. This was not a great time in my life to read this book. I was trying to remember my own past rejections as I read, and trying to evaluate whether the book would have been helpful to me in those times when I was feeling rejected in the past, or when I face it again in the future...but I really didn't get much out of it. I can't tell if this is because the book really wasn't as helpful as it should have been, or if it was just that I am not currently feeling rejected which might make it hard to relate to what she was saying.2. The book didn't seem focused. I felt like she was trying to be too broad with the subject of this book. Feeling "unloved","less than", "left out", and "lonely" are pretty different problems in my opinion, each of which probably deserves it's own book. There are different types of rejection, and I felt like she lumped them all together and tried to address them all at once. I think we would have been better served as readers if she broke it down a little more clearly.I probably should have just known she was going to try to tackle all this from the subtitle of the book, but I went into this book thinking the topic was "rejection" because I heard Terkheurst speak about it before I picked it up. However, I kept losing track of what we were even talking about, and I had to remind myself that "Oh yeah, this book is about rejection". As a reader, I find it annoying when I keep having to remind myself what the author is talking about. It felt all-over-the-place to me, and I felt she was really stretching trying to make some of these topics fit under the umbrella of "rejection". It wasn't what I expected. 3. I was frustrated at how she used Scripture in some places in this book. To clarify, I did like a lot of the verses she included and thought they could be helpful, so I'm not picking on every Scripture use in this book. But there were a few places where I just thought "huh?". For instance, she has a chapter about abundance and scarcity - I've heard her speak on this before, and it is an interesting psychological concept, but she explained it poorly and over-spiritualized it. She included a quote that referenced the story of Joseph and the famine in the Bible - and the quote implied that there was abundance in all the world before this (not true - there were at least a couple famines before Joseph - Genesis 26:1), and then blamed all the scarcity in the land on Pharaoh, which isn't an accurate representation of what happened at all.In another chapter she writes about Jesus being tempted in the wilderness, but she talks about how Jesus was feeling rejected at this time - and I don't know where she is getting that. While I like the idea of applying Scripture when we are feeling rejected, it was a stretch to use that story to illustrate her point. The passage is talking about temptation, not rejection.Another example is when she is using the olive tree as an illustration in Chapter 15, talking about being "crushed" and how God can use that to bring about good in our lives - but then she includes 2 Corinthians 4:8 which says we are pressed, but not crushed. Following that is a confusing monologue about being crushed, but at the same time we're not crushed, and I honestly had no idea what she was trying to say anymore. The whole thing was self-contradictory.And somewhat related, she also used the words "revelation" and "divine insights" in a few places where she was really talking about her own insights, and I didn't like that. The Bible is our revelation from God and the only writing that is "divinely inspired".4. Too much "romantic" spiritual language. This is a personal pet peeve, but I get tired of the romantic analogies of our relationship with Jesus. Jesus is our God, not our boyfriend. To reduce our speech about him to romantic terms takes away some of the power of the fact that we are loved and valued by the Creator of the Universe.So, for something positive - Terkheurst's writing is engaging, which is always a plus, and her personal stories really add color to her topics. This book missed the mark for me, but I wouldn't say I didn't enjoy it at all. Overall, I know what she was trying to do in this book, but it felt like "too much bread, not enough butter" - ie. she was stretching too much out of her topic, and definitely stretching with some of her Scripture applications. Use discernment with her Scripture applications if you do read this one, but I don't know, I wouldn't say I recommend this book, and honestly, I don't know if I'll pick up another book by Terkheurst. She lost some of my trust with point #3.Note: I received a copy of this book for free in exchange for a review. This is my honest opinion.
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  • Donella
    January 1, 1970
    Just What I neededThis book touched me so personally that I am in tears. It was like the author was speaking directly to me.
  • Laura
    January 1, 1970
    If you have ever felt rejected, left out, cast aside or even simply feel unloved at times, this book will have something that will help you feel loved and will help your emotional pain heal as you learn to accept God's love for you and his forgiveness. This was an easy read and I loved how organized the book was. I would recommend buying the hardcopy because at the end of the book, Lysa listed all of the important bible verses that were used in each chapter and also made another section that lis If you have ever felt rejected, left out, cast aside or even simply feel unloved at times, this book will have something that will help you feel loved and will help your emotional pain heal as you learn to accept God's love for you and his forgiveness. This was an easy read and I loved how organized the book was. I would recommend buying the hardcopy because at the end of the book, Lysa listed all of the important bible verses that were used in each chapter and also made another section that listed the special quotes and thoughts that read like medicine to ones weary soul.
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  • Amber
    January 1, 1970
    This is one of those "highlight every other sentence and re-read every month" type books. I think everyone who has ever walked the earth has dealt with rejection in one form or another. Rejection can be devastating and crippling. It is so easy to be consumed by it, to allow it to change who we are and what we think about ourselves. I am a big fan of Lysa's but the way she walks through this book and how to process and grow from rejection is beautiful. I highly recommend this book for everyone.
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  • Nikki
    January 1, 1970
    This is not a Gospel driven book. Many Christian women authors today seem to want to use our depravity to make sure we know we're not alone and almost make us feel okay about our feelings, however ungodly they may be. This book is no exception to that. While there were a few chapters that spoke to me, by the end, I just wanted so badly for her to use my sinfulness, my depravity, my "lonely, left out feelings" to remind me of why I need Christ and drive me toward self-forgetfulness and gospel cen This is not a Gospel driven book. Many Christian women authors today seem to want to use our depravity to make sure we know we're not alone and almost make us feel okay about our feelings, however ungodly they may be. This book is no exception to that. While there were a few chapters that spoke to me, by the end, I just wanted so badly for her to use my sinfulness, my depravity, my "lonely, left out feelings" to remind me of why I need Christ and drive me toward self-forgetfulness and gospel centeredness. Instead, she tries to comfort the sinner in their sin, adding to the self-focus that's already rampant among Christian women in our present day.
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  • Crystalyn
    January 1, 1970
    I skipped many paragraphs. Her writing style doesn't captivate me and to be honest, her experience of being rejected didn't compare to the depths of what many of us experience. I appreciate the concept, though. But I was disappointed. This is the third book of hers that I have read and haven't been captivated. I think the cover art was pretty and the title and subject matter is what made we want to read it.
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  • Stephanie
    January 1, 1970
    My feelings about Uninvited can best be summed up with a dispassionate "meh, it was alright." Lysa TerKeurst's writing style didn't do much for me and the chapters felt a little disjointed and unfocused. I did like the overall message the book was trying to convey, but the way that message was flushed out was disappointing and, if I'm being totally honest, forgettable. This isn't a book that will stay with me or that I'll refer back to in years to come. Judging from the glowing reviews here on G My feelings about Uninvited can best be summed up with a dispassionate "meh, it was alright." Lysa TerKeurst's writing style didn't do much for me and the chapters felt a little disjointed and unfocused. I did like the overall message the book was trying to convey, but the way that message was flushed out was disappointing and, if I'm being totally honest, forgettable. This isn't a book that will stay with me or that I'll refer back to in years to come. Judging from the glowing reviews here on GoodReads, I'm obviously in the minority with my opinion and that's okay. Hopefully this book speaks to others more than it did to me.
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  • Jill
    January 1, 1970
    If you have ever felt rejected, I would recommend this book. I've been dealing with feeling left out, duped, and, well, uninvited lately. This book was a good reminder that a lot of the feelings we deal with right now are tied to things that happened in the past, and that God never rejects us. I plan on buying my own copy so I can highlight and mark it up good.
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  • Serethiel
    January 1, 1970
    4.5 starsTHIS BOOK, Y'ALL.Lysa TerKeurst delivers such a heartfelt address on rejection, chatting with the reader and sharing hilarious anecdotes as if she's basically your bestie. Uninvited delivers the eye-opening message that it's perfectly natural to feel the sharp ache of rejection... but also gently presents advice on how we can rest in God's eternal embrace throughout it. <3
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  • Kara Neal
    January 1, 1970
    Skip itThere were some good things in this book. There really were. But my overall takeaway is that this writer seems awfully petty and fixated on herself much of the time. Another sticking point for me is that she seems to believe God speaks to her personally. Scripture doesn't support that. Looking into her church, pastor, and theology, I'd suggest to proceed with discernment. Test the spirits.
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  • Kris
    January 1, 1970
    Rather fluffy and cliche in the beginning, but it did get better, as my friend said it would. I must admit that there are thought-provoking pieces of advice in here, despite the book's weak structure and lackluster writing style. I can see how it would be of great help to some. But it just didn't strike a chord with me. The whole thing was wrapped in too many layers of cheesiness.
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  • Lisa
    January 1, 1970
    I debated between giving this 2 or 3 stars. I was drawn in by the title and subject matter, but didn't feel the book delivered on its promises. I wasn't captivated by the writing and actually skimmed some parts. This was the first book I've read by this author. I was hoping for more- more depth, more personal stories, more connection... just more.
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  • Brandice
    January 1, 1970
    This book was great. I'd never heard of it but stumbled across it on display at the bookstore. Parts of it were incredibly relatable for me - some very familiar feelings and actions. It gave me a lot to think about.
  • Sylvia
    January 1, 1970
    Interesting, insightful and inspirational.
  • Melissa
    January 1, 1970
    Not gonna lie, the positive reviews had me thinking that this would be an excellent read. This is the first time I've ever read a Lysa Terkeurst book (likely the last time as well), and I just can't give it anything higher than two stars. I had many issues with this book, but I'll list only my main concerns: it's very jumpy, going from one topic to the next. Some of the examples are really hard to relate to (and at times, verge on the silly side). If you're dealing with decades of loneliness, et Not gonna lie, the positive reviews had me thinking that this would be an excellent read. This is the first time I've ever read a Lysa Terkeurst book (likely the last time as well), and I just can't give it anything higher than two stars. I had many issues with this book, but I'll list only my main concerns: it's very jumpy, going from one topic to the next. Some of the examples are really hard to relate to (and at times, verge on the silly side). If you're dealing with decades of loneliness, etc. you might not be able to relate to the author. So much time is given to insignificant things and silly jokes (thigh gaps and frizzy hair - deep sigh), but when the serious topics come up, they are given about a page and nothing more. This was distracting, and not in a good way. If you're someone looking for some serious solutions to bitterness and loneliness and rejection, I don't believe this is where you can get a good answer. In addition, the author's interpretation of a part in the Bible involving Abigail and King David was way off; this was really surprising. I still do not agree with how she interpreted that Scripture. Readers, don't readily believe everything an author writes. Seek the truth for yourself.I would call Uninvited a Christian junk food read. It's meant to make the reader feel good in the moment, but it doesn't give the reader what is needed for true healing to take place. So, that good feeling? Yeah, it'll fade. The answer to every issue in Uninvited: sin, emotion, failing, a bad attitude, bad behavior, etc. is consistently to live loved, for the Christian to remember that God loves them. I kept feeling like something was wrong in this book, and finally realized what it was. I could clearly pinpoint sins when the author wrote about them, but she didn't call them that most of the time and mentioned nothing about repentance. This was very strange to me. How can one struggling with jealousy from always being left out, or bitterness from years of bad treatment or perceived bad treatment, ever realize that the way to heal is to first admit that bitterness, jealousy, etc. are sins and seek God's forgiveness? It's impossible. You have to start with the whole truth to be healed. What did the live loved antidote seem like to me? It's like painting an area of rust and expecting the rust to go away or painting over rotted wood instead of replacing the wood. First, you take care of the real issue behind certain things (i.e. sin), and repent and live loved. There are more helpful books out there dealing with loneliness and how to cope with that and even overcome it, not to mention the Bible, which should be the first answer to everything anyway. I don't recommend this read. If you feel compelled to try it, check out a copy from your local library.
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  • Stephanie
    January 1, 1970
    I always enjoy Lysa's writing. It is so honest. This book did not disappoint.Lysa lets the reader look into her own insecurities to teach the reader lessons when we feel rejected. She gives lots of personal stories and plenty of scripture for the reader to hide in her heart. "Live from the abundant pace that you are loved, and you won't find yourself begging others for scraps of love" is one of the author's quotes that I feel sums up the point of the book. Highly recommend.
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  • Amie Walker
    January 1, 1970
    This was the first book I have read by Lysa. Unfortunately, I wasn't impressed. I felt like her chapters were unfocused and really didn't get very deep into the topic of rejection. It was very "fluffy" and I was looking for more biblical truths than what she presented. Plus, if I had to hear about her thighs or body image issues one more time I would've simply put the book down.
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  • Shantelle
    January 1, 1970
    4.5 starsI read Uninvited with my ladies' Bible study group. It was really good, and so much of it extremely relevant for me! I found some awesome and inspiring quotes, and a lot of thought-provoking concepts in this book. Though some parts were kind of glum-feeling, truly Uninvited continually pointed back to Christ. And finding love and security in Him. It was beautiful.I certainly recommend to any woman who has struggled with insecurity, rejection, or the like."It's not about you becoming any 4.5 starsI read Uninvited with my ladies' Bible study group. It was really good, and so much of it extremely relevant for me! I found some awesome and inspiring quotes, and a lot of thought-provoking concepts in this book. Though some parts were kind of glum-feeling, truly Uninvited continually pointed back to Christ. And finding love and security in Him. It was beautiful.I certainly recommend to any woman who has struggled with insecurity, rejection, or the like."It's not about you becoming anything. Your soul was made to simply be with Me. And the more you are with Me, the more you will stop fearing what the world might take from you." (pg. 208)
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  • Jeanie
    January 1, 1970
    I've been hurt by rejection and started believing lies about my God and who I am in Him-I deny myself the protection of His truth. And my search for love and acceptance outside of God's presence then leads to dangerous places. Rating 3.5TerKeurst is a wonderful writer who expresses herself with vulnerability and rawness. The pain of rejection can spill out in our lives in many different ways and the damage it does can leave us spiritual immature and lacking. Does this only apply to select few? N I've been hurt by rejection and started believing lies about my God and who I am in Him-I deny myself the protection of His truth. And my search for love and acceptance outside of God's presence then leads to dangerous places. Rating 3.5TerKeurst is a wonderful writer who expresses herself with vulnerability and rawness. The pain of rejection can spill out in our lives in many different ways and the damage it does can leave us spiritual immature and lacking. Does this only apply to select few? No I think all of us has experienced rejection of some kind. The way I approach it is, when I choose one, that means I reject another. When someone chooses another, they reject me. That is what I love about marriage. Because marriage addresses that. But that is a different book. Terkeurst takes us on a journey on how we can address the rejection that we have experienced and experience God's presence. What does rejection do...it steals the security of what we thought was beautiful and stable and leaves us scared and fragile. So rejection can be a big deal to some of us. However, that being said and in my own experience I have found that I become self-absorbed. Which is not of the gospel. My rejection can turn something painful to something beautiful when I pursue the gospel. This is my fear in reading books like this. Does this read have the potential of making us self-absorbed that we become self-centered and not God-centered or gospel centered? What I found is Terkeurst passion is to put us at the feet of the Jesus but I am not sure about the cross. As I was reading, I was also underlining. She speaks to a broken heart but I also was wary, does she speak to my own wickedness. Does she speak of Christ Lordship? There is a friendship to her writing that is winsome and that I found myself drawn to and I am sure many others have been drawn in the same way. Unlike some other writers that I have experienced reading, she is not about the popularity but being real. I so appreciate it. I would not call her teacher but I would call her a friend. She does not put lightly the pain and anguish of those that have suffered and I believe God does not either but we have the greatest invitation in Christ. We all are invited and we all have a ticket that is paid. I recommend this book with caution but I whole heartily recommend the need to address our pain in a biblical way and I appreciate the author's own heart in doing so.A Special Thank You to Thomas Nelson and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.
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  • Tracy S
    January 1, 1970
    This book was so good because everyone can relate to the feeling of being left out, unwanted, rejected, or unloved at some point in their lives by others, even those close to us. Many of us know we are loved by Jesus, but how many of us live like we are loved by him every second of our lives? This book has practical tips for how to "live loved" through every season and every aspect of our lives. It has wonderful scripture references as well to keep us focused on the truth. We are loved by Jesus, This book was so good because everyone can relate to the feeling of being left out, unwanted, rejected, or unloved at some point in their lives by others, even those close to us. Many of us know we are loved by Jesus, but how many of us live like we are loved by him every second of our lives? This book has practical tips for how to "live loved" through every season and every aspect of our lives. It has wonderful scripture references as well to keep us focused on the truth. We are loved by Jesus, safe, accepted and INVITED. Absolutely loved this book. One of my favorite Bible studies ever (and I have completed a lot of studies)!
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  • Joan
    January 1, 1970
    This is, by far, the best book I have ever read on rejection. TerKeurst writes from experience. Her depth of empathy is refreshing. The practical suggestions she gives are inspiring.There are many who feel they have been rejected by their father and this book is specifically great for this issue. TerKeurst is painfully honest with her own contemporary feelings and their roots in past experience. Those who have experienced rejection with certainly relate.While that aspect of the book is great, Te This is, by far, the best book I have ever read on rejection. TerKeurst writes from experience. Her depth of empathy is refreshing. The practical suggestions she gives are inspiring.There are many who feel they have been rejected by their father and this book is specifically great for this issue. TerKeurst is painfully honest with her own contemporary feelings and their roots in past experience. Those who have experienced rejection with certainly relate.While that aspect of the book is great, TerKeurst's sharing of how she has been working through her feelings of rejection is even better. She includes suggestions for healing that come from her own journey. I was particularly struck by her ten days of prayer. As one who felt rejected by a parent, I really identified with them.I initially listened to this book on audio. Ginny Welsh's reading of the book was great. She expressed well the feelings conveyed by the written words. She is the best narrator of a book I've heard this year (and I go through over twenty books on audio annually). I listened to the book while walking but was so struck by the importance of the content I had to get myself a copy I could read.I highly recommend this book to those who have experienced rejection and are ready to work their way through to healing.I received a complimentary digital copy of this book from the publisher. My comments are an independent and honest review.
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  • Christina Claypool
    January 1, 1970
    When a book comes along at just the right time, it can be a double blessing. Lysa TerKeurst's "Uninvited..." came along at the perfect moment for me.If we're honest, there are times when we all feel rejected, and less than. Many of us, like Lysa so adeptly writes about, have childhood issues which we can hold onto, if we're not careful. As an author and role model, she is transparent in a sensitive and challenging way, using herself as an example that there is a wonderful freedom God can give us When a book comes along at just the right time, it can be a double blessing. Lysa TerKeurst's "Uninvited..." came along at the perfect moment for me.If we're honest, there are times when we all feel rejected, and less than. Many of us, like Lysa so adeptly writes about, have childhood issues which we can hold onto, if we're not careful. As an author and role model, she is transparent in a sensitive and challenging way, using herself as an example that there is a wonderful freedom God can give us, if we're willing to fight for it.In addition, as we age, it is very easy to fall into the trap of feeling that our best days are behind us due to the invisibility created by the societal worship of youth. This is where I was when I picked up this book. Not so much regarding physical attractiveness, but about our usefulness to the kingdom. That's why it's beyond encouraging to read about all the ways our loving God embraces and loves us, not only when we fail or feel like an outcast, but when we are struggling to accept an older version of ourselves. Loved this book!
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  • Schuyler
    January 1, 1970
    While I'm not suffering from a deep and traumatic relationship break-up, I was in need of fresh reminders of God's sustaining love when I picked up this book. I think what I most appreciated about Lysa's book was the truth it gave me about God's power, sustenance, and love. As Lysa says on pg. 23, we need our minds braced by truth. My own mind feels weary right now, so I need more time in the words of God, and the life that he gives through Scripture. Throughout Uninvited, I was comforted by the While I'm not suffering from a deep and traumatic relationship break-up, I was in need of fresh reminders of God's sustaining love when I picked up this book. I think what I most appreciated about Lysa's book was the truth it gave me about God's power, sustenance, and love. As Lysa says on pg. 23, we need our minds braced by truth. My own mind feels weary right now, so I need more time in the words of God, and the life that he gives through Scripture. Throughout Uninvited, I was comforted by the reminder of God's character. So often, when we suffer, we have wrong behavioral reactions of resentment, withdrawal, or hopelessness. Those can only be fixed by a better, deeper understanding of who God is, and who he is to me. God is very, very good at all times, and once our confidence is founded in that, we can begin the healing process of healing pain and gaining spiritual strength.A couple things that stood out: people aren't meant to be used as life support. People can do CPR, but clinging for life support from someone continually goes beyond their human strength. If you're going from person to person looking for life support, you're doing it wrong: only God is designed to offer that constant level of sustenance. Yes, we need community. We need help from others. But we need to be careful to have proper expectations of what belongs to God, and what belongs to people.It's all about perspective. Truth. When I believe the truth about God, and have abundant life in him, I am better able to have real expectations and not get unnecessarily hurt by others. I'm also better able to look into the raw, hurt places and find healing for them. I can lived deeply loved on a daily basis, full to the brim with the love of God. The second to last chapter, about Jesus in Gethsemane, was also really good. Lysa talked about how olives are pressed, processed, and ultimately destroyed. But they're destroyed to be edible and preserved. The hard process of refining ultimately leads to a better product than the olive in its raw form. Sometimes the processing seems incredibly hard, but Jesus is using it to make us better than we were before. We are not being destroyed. We're being given better life.There was one spot with an example about David's feelings that I think Lysa read more into Scripture then can rightly be inferred from the passage. I don't connect to every sentence or how she says it, but overall I connect to the heart of the book, and I learned so much from it. The only thing that bothered me as I went through it was the underlying jokes she made about body image. They were meant to be a light-hearted, relateable "me too" thing, but it was a subtle undercurrent of putting down herself that might cause others to struggle without knowing where or why those feelings had come from. There was no truth to combat it, and I didn't like that unresolved and troubling strain in an overall lovely book.I underlined a lot in this book, finding truth to tuck away in my heart again and again. I want to revisit some of the underlining and copy it down in a notebook to have that truth nearby to review and remember. Also, when you purchase Uninvited, you get a free audio download of Lysa reading prayers from the book that is incredibly beautiful to listen to. If you've ever felt hurt, betrayed, or simply lonely, then Uninvited will give you an invitation to a closer trust in Jesus.Prepare to live loved. I received this book for free from BookLook bloggers in exchange for an honest review. All opinions expressed are my own.
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  • Sarah
    January 1, 1970
    I'm generally not a fan of "Christian women's issues" books and I would never have picked this up had it not been an assignment. Overall it felt shallow and self-involved. The examples given by the author were mostly petty, and when she could have gone deeper into some of her past, she just glossed over it. Other than the last "bonus chapter" most of the application points just seem like they would enforce more self-absorbed behavior. I understand the desire to be relatable, but in this case it I'm generally not a fan of "Christian women's issues" books and I would never have picked this up had it not been an assignment. Overall it felt shallow and self-involved. The examples given by the author were mostly petty, and when she could have gone deeper into some of her past, she just glossed over it. Other than the last "bonus chapter" most of the application points just seem like they would enforce more self-absorbed behavior. I understand the desire to be relatable, but in this case it felt more like a group pity party. The bonus chapter and self-assessment were the best parts of the book in my opinion.
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  • Rachel
    January 1, 1970
    A must read for all women and great for small group studies.Excellent biblical truth that speaks right to the core of many of our hang ups. More of my thoughts can be found on a recent blog post:http://blog.lifeway.com/shelflife/201...
  • Ronie
    January 1, 1970
    This book met me on so many levels. It validated my feelings, made me feel less bad--that I wasn't alone having thoughts like that. But then--of course--Lysa challenged me with the Word as a very good friend would do. In essence, God spoke to me and my situation heavily through UNINVITED.
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  • Bluerose's Heart
    January 1, 1970
    When I first debated whether or not to read this book, I thought it might be one of those books that so many would roll their eyes at. I wondered if I'd be ashamed to be seen reading it. (Maybe, but I did read it in the privacy of my own home.) I decided to give it a try, though. I remember loving Lysa's writing style in the past, and really, if there was ever a book title that was meant for me, it'd be this one. I've made it no secret that I suffer greatly with social anxiety. At the time I dec When I first debated whether or not to read this book, I thought it might be one of those books that so many would roll their eyes at. I wondered if I'd be ashamed to be seen reading it. (Maybe, but I did read it in the privacy of my own home.) I decided to give it a try, though. I remember loving Lysa's writing style in the past, and really, if there was ever a book title that was meant for me, it'd be this one. I've made it no secret that I suffer greatly with social anxiety. At the time I decided to read this book, I was at an all time high with my suffering. I didn't want to go in public(even more so than normal). I'd force myself to anyway, sometimes in tears, because I have 3 little boys that need to be around people. I'd almost always come home in tears, full of embarrassment, with a severe headache and stomachache, and want nothing more than to curl up in a ball under my blankets and cry the pain away. I wanted to hide from the world, simply put. So, that's what this book was up against, meaning it probably didn't have a fair chance to begin with. Did it help with my social anxiety? Mostly, no, to be honest, but you expected that, right? I really enjoyed the humor of the book. Lysa seems much more outgoing than me, but the stories made me feel much more normal with my feelings. We all get embarrassed and we all get uncomfortable. We all imagine that others are judging us, when maybe they aren't so much. (Though at times they are, because many people are cruel.) Reading this book reminded me that I shouldn't imagine things that aren't for sure, though. Plus, the more I'm around people, the more I realize that we're all weird in our own little ways. ;)Despite enjoying the humor, though, I did find parts of it annoying. I just didn't connect to it like I have a couple of her past ones, and though I laughed, I also got annoyed too frequently while reading. Maybe I'm just in a different phase of life or maybe I just put too much pressure on it?Really, the biggest thing that helped me was focusing on the fact that life isn't about me and reminding myself NOT to focus on myself. No matter what struggles I'm having, praying, focusing on God's Word, along with other people, is key to making it through my hard times. For the most part, this book has a bit more of a selfish feel to it, and focuses entirely too much on me. Sometimes that's a good thing, when it calls attention to improvements that need to be made. As far as my social anxiety, though, that's part of who I am, and always has been. I was much worse, overall, as a child. I can't change that. I need the focus to be removed from me here. (There are parts about focusing on others, just not near as much as I'd have liked.) I'm a selfish person that wants life to always be comfortable and happy, though, so that's a hard lesson to learn and apply. Plus, this post has turned into being mostly about me. *sigh*In the end, there are great parts and not so great parts. Ultimately, I didn't connect to it quite as much as I anticipated. I do think it's a beneficial read in some ways, but maybe pair it with something that puts a much greater focus on others to create some balance.In case you're curious, I am at a much better place now, and I pray that continues. When one escapes from a dark time, there's always fear of returning, so if you'd like to pray for me, I sure won't complain! (And, as always, I'll be more than happy to pray for you for anything. My line is always open for your requests!) :)*I was given a free copy of this book.
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  • Rissa
    January 1, 1970
    If you want some helpful lessons to get through the day. Beautiful quotes to lift your spirits. An amazing story filled with love, humor and prayer. Love this and cant wait to read more from her.
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