Dare to Disappoint
Growing up on the Aegean Coast, Ozge loved the sea and imagined a life of adventure while her parents and society demanded predictability. Her dad expected Ozge, like her sister, to become an engineer. She tried to hear her own voice over his and the religious and militaristic tensions of Turkey and the conflicts between secularism and fundamentalism. Could she be a scuba diver like Jacques Cousteau? A stage actress? Would it be possible to please everyone including herself?In her unpredictable and funny graphic memoir, Ozge recounts her story using inventive collages, weaving together images of the sea, politics, science, and friendship.

Dare to Disappoint Details

TitleDare to Disappoint
Author
LanguageEnglish
ReleaseNov 17th, 2015
PublisherFarrar, Straus and Giroux (BYR)
ISBN-139780374316983
Rating
GenreSequential Art, Graphic Novels, Autobiography, Memoir, Nonfiction, Comics

Dare to Disappoint Review

  • Lola
    January 1, 1970
    I’m sure we’ve all read books about people who deny themselves happiness because of their parents’ expectations. Or maybe because they think that what their parents want for them will make them happy in some way in the end.But this book is not only about that. Özge does want to please her family, especially her father, but she realizes early on that she could never become an engineer, the only profession her father deems acceptable for a woman who does not want to marry.She doesn’t have the grad I’m sure we’ve all read books about people who deny themselves happiness because of their parents’ expectations. Or maybe because they think that what their parents want for them will make them happy in some way in the end.But this book is not only about that. Özge does want to please her family, especially her father, but she realizes early on that she could never become an engineer, the only profession her father deems acceptable for a woman who does not want to marry.She doesn’t have the grades to study engineering, but she also doesn’t want to. So she turns to mathematics, hoping to still please her family who struggles so hard to give her sister and herself a good life. All along, though, what she wanted to align herself with most was the societal system itself. Not be an outsider, a rebel, a failure. I loved how much this story focused on Özge’s education. I’m at that part in my life where I’m confused too. Who am I? Where am I going? What am I going to do? When I was in high school, I wanted to become a librarian. Then I created my blog, and suddenly I wanted to become a book publicist, because the book publicists I’m in contact with are so wonderful, rarely stressed out and I simply enjoy gathering media attention for a book. But then I got to university, and I realized how much the education system needs great professors who are there for their students, and I thought, ‘‘Hey, maybe I could be that professor’’.So I understood Özge’s confusion very well. Unlike her, I never felt the need to please one of my parents, because my dad passed away and my mom, who is a chief nurse, saw quite early on that science and I do not connect. She used to see me as a lawyer, but I feel too much what others are feeling to become one, which I explained to her. I’m happy Özge didn’t go through this alone, however. She and her (older) sister would help each other and support one another. In fact, I don’t think I remember reading about them fighting. That is a healthy relationship to have with a sibling. It’s rare, but it happens. Özge and her sister are always together, so it’s only natural for the former to want to attend the same school as her sister. My brother and I certainly fight, but when I was young and we attended the same school, we would hang out together during lunch and I would try to get his attention surreptitiously as I went to the bathroom. I would wave or make silly faces through the door window.I was bound to love this book. Blog | Youtube | Twitter | Instagram | Google+ | Bloglovin’
    more
  • Ludmilla
    January 1, 1970
    Bırak Üzülsünler, çevrilmesini heyecanla beklediğim bir kitaptı. İletişim'den çıkacağını ve fiyatının bu olacağını tahmin etsem (49 TL gibi bir rakamdan bahsediyoruz) beklemez, alır okurdum. Neyse, Bırak Üzülsünler, 80 sonrası doğanlar için "bizi bize anlatan" bir hikaye. Özge Samancı'nın hayatında çoğumuza tanıdık gelecek o kadar şey var ki... Bunun yanı sıra renk seçimleri ve çizimler de oldukça başarılı. Ama, tabii ki ama olacaktı, bölümler arasında kopukluk, son kısmın aceleye gelmesi gibi u Bırak Üzülsünler, çevrilmesini heyecanla beklediğim bir kitaptı. İletişim'den çıkacağını ve fiyatının bu olacağını tahmin etsem (49 TL gibi bir rakamdan bahsediyoruz) beklemez, alır okurdum. Neyse, Bırak Üzülsünler, 80 sonrası doğanlar için "bizi bize anlatan" bir hikaye. Özge Samancı'nın hayatında çoğumuza tanıdık gelecek o kadar şey var ki... Bunun yanı sıra renk seçimleri ve çizimler de oldukça başarılı. Ama, tabii ki ama olacaktı, bölümler arasında kopukluk, son kısmın aceleye gelmesi gibi unsurların yanı sıra birazcık derine indiğinizde Bırak Üzülsünler'in sadece başka bir "kişisel grafik roman" olduğunu görüyorsunuz. En klişe kendini bulma hikayelerinden biri daha. Geçen -sanırım Goodreads'te- okuduğum bir yorumu aklıma getirdi: Bu kadar hikaye ve olanak varken çizerler neden birbirinin aynısı kişisel hikayelerini anlatıp duruyor? Evet, aynı soruyu ben de soruyorum. Özellikle de o kişisel hikaye derine inemiyor, klişe yumaklarından ibaret kalıyorsa. Yoksa geçenlerde okuduğum Sıradan Zaferler de, Parantez de had safhada kişisel ve iyi hikayelerdi. Bırak Üzülsünler'den ise yabancılar için "Türk Eğitim Sistemi" tanıtımını, bizim için "aşinalığı" çıkarırsanız geriye pek bir şey kalmıyor maalesef. Bu açıdan kıyaslandığı Persepolis'e göre de zayıf kalmış. Yine de -fiyatından gözünüz korkmadıysa- keyifle okuyabilir, kendinizi mutlu ve iyi hissedebilirsiniz. 3/5
    more
  • Evren Bay
    January 1, 1970
    Bir İzmirli ve Boğaziçi matematik bölümü mezunu biri olarak kendimden çok şey bulduğum bir kitap olduğu için biraz yanlı bir değerlendime olabilir :) Bir de Amerika'da uzun bir süre yaşamış ve benzer şeyleri Türkiye'li olmayan arkadaşlarıma anlatmaya çalışmış biri olarak beni rahatsız etmedi ama yazarın konumu itibariyle, kitabını "Amerikalılara-anlatır-gibi" şekillendirmiş olması, belki Türkiyeli okurlar için bir handikap oluşturabilir. Öncelikle gerçekten çok titiz çalışılmış, çok açık yürekli Bir İzmirli ve Boğaziçi matematik bölümü mezunu biri olarak kendimden çok şey bulduğum bir kitap olduğu için biraz yanlı bir değerlendime olabilir :) Bir de Amerika'da uzun bir süre yaşamış ve benzer şeyleri Türkiye'li olmayan arkadaşlarıma anlatmaya çalışmış biri olarak beni rahatsız etmedi ama yazarın konumu itibariyle, kitabını "Amerikalılara-anlatır-gibi" şekillendirmiş olması, belki Türkiyeli okurlar için bir handikap oluşturabilir. Öncelikle gerçekten çok titiz çalışılmış, çok açık yüreklilikle yazılmış bir kitap olduğunu söylemeliyim. Her bir karesinde çok büyük emek var. Bence bunda matematik okumasının da etkisi var :) Özge Samancı, bireysel hikayesini anlatırken, hem bir kızkardeşlik hikayesi, hem memur bir ailenin hikayesi, hem arkadaşlık, hem de 80'lerde Türkiye'de öğrencilik yapmanın hikayesini anlatıyor. Çoğumuzun yaşadığı ve bir çoğumuzun karşı duramadığı bu sistemden, ailesinin ve toplumun etkisinden sıyrılıp nasıl kendi sesini bulduğunu anlatıyor. Okurken sık sık gözlerimin dolduğu, yer yer ağladığım bir kitap olsa da, bu kitabı eğlenceli ve cesaret verici olarak hatırlayacağım.
    more
  • Russell Taylor
    January 1, 1970
    Dare to Disappoint: Growing up in Turkey felt like it should have been a longer tale. Özge Samanci’s early years are richly detailed; as the protagonist ages, though, the granularity of the narrative stretches out, with discrete events replaced by more overarching sketches of longer periods of time and emotion. This may simply be an artifact of memory: disjointed and episodic recollections of early years giving way to more comprehensive understandings of later phases of life. This flow breaks do Dare to Disappoint: Growing up in Turkey felt like it should have been a longer tale. Özge Samanci’s early years are richly detailed; as the protagonist ages, though, the granularity of the narrative stretches out, with discrete events replaced by more overarching sketches of longer periods of time and emotion. This may simply be an artifact of memory: disjointed and episodic recollections of early years giving way to more comprehensive understandings of later phases of life. This flow breaks down, though, near the end of the book when Özge decides to break with her and her father’s expectations to pursue a career more meaningful to her. She reaches her decision point, but the audience is left with an inspiring moral on the virtue of risk-taking, but little evidence apart from the book in their hands as to how it unfolded for the protagonist.The narrative is snappy and funny, with an informed but child’s-eye view of the dynamics of Turkish society in the waning days of the Cold War. Quite interesting are the hints and mentions of events and dynamics which go unexplored here, but which tie into well-known historical and current events: Samanci’s elementary-school version of Turkish independence, featuring a map with a purple blot labelled “Armenian,” a discussion of anti-leftist and -Kurdish censorship sprees by authorities, and a confrontation with a devout Muslim student illustrating the relatively elite, western, and minority perspective of the author’s experience. The quirks and strange perceptions of childhood are brought to life by Samanci’s fluid line, spare watercolor, and charming mixed media collages at the opening of most chapters. This is a graphic novel with precious few hard-edged panels. Scenes take place in isolated vignettes floating in whitespace or splashed across an entire page, but never does a full page of conventional rectangles appear. Never does this hinder the flow of the story; rather, while Samanci’s figures and faces are simple and expressive, her layouts add dimension and energy, practically dragging the eye across the varied spreads.
    more
  • David Schaafsma
    January 1, 1970
    A graphic memoir about growing up in Turkey by now Chicagoan artist Samanci. I knew very little about Turkey so was interested. Also, it begs comparisons with Persepolis, as we get history of Turkey and the extent to which totalitarianism has affected its people. It sure affected Samanci, who was influenced by her uncle not to be a cog in the machine. It doesn't spare us some violence, so I wouldn't say its primary audience is necessarily kids, though it is a growing up story. Her stern Dad want A graphic memoir about growing up in Turkey by now Chicagoan artist Samanci. I knew very little about Turkey so was interested. Also, it begs comparisons with Persepolis, as we get history of Turkey and the extent to which totalitarianism has affected its people. It sure affected Samanci, who was influenced by her uncle not to be a cog in the machine. It doesn't spare us some violence, so I wouldn't say its primary audience is necessarily kids, though it is a growing up story. Her stern Dad wants her to be an engineer, but she chooses math, which she is not so good at. Most of the book is about her learning to be herself and getting in trouble in school, and failing at math. It's not particularly about her being good at anything. There's no references to any artistic talent, really, until the very end, so that is surprising. Why be an artist? It's typical for people to start out doing things their parents want them to do to be successful, and many people just do those jobs, but it's not like it's this budding thing she always knew was in her heart. This part is Dare to Disappoint, the failure years. After essentially failing at math, it's almost as if we are ready for part II, the artist part, or for her to do something other than memoir with her comics art.I liked the art work, it's very attractively laid out and colored, and I thought as a memoir it was solid, straightforward, likable, with very few surprises, stylistically or narratively. Still, I look forward to more work from Samanci.
    more
  • Yeliz
    January 1, 1970
    Çevirisini merakla bekliyordum. Okurken çocukluğuma gençliğime döndüm. Otobiyografik bir romandan bir neslin karın ağrılarına nüfuz etmiş, çok başarılı.
  • Raina
    January 1, 1970
    How much do outsiders know about the country of Turkey? Here, a professor from Northwestern University tells what it was like to grow up in Turkey. She follows her early life, starting in 1981 (before she started school), and ends during college as she looks toward a professional path. Graphic novels are an evocative medium for memoir, and Samanci uses the strengths of visual storytelling to great effect. Her thesis was on using comics in the digital context, and this is clearly a thoughtful wor How much do outsiders know about the country of Turkey? Here, a professor from Northwestern University tells what it was like to grow up in Turkey. She follows her early life, starting in 1981 (before she started school), and ends during college as she looks toward a professional path. Graphic novels are an evocative medium for memoir, and Samanci uses the strengths of visual storytelling to great effect. Her thesis was on using comics in the digital context, and this is clearly a thoughtful work. Her own drawings are cartoonish in a slightly silly way, at first, and she integrates those drawings with elements of collage. There are no panel borders – instead, the images float on white pages. She uses color sparingly -- for instance, to make her blonde head stand out in a crowd scene – and keeps the pages alive with a wide variety of layouts. Her story is a very personal one, in the vein of Marjane Satrapi’s Persepolis and Zeina Abirached’s A Game for Swallows, but she does take time to reflect on some of the larger issues affecting her world, such as governmental elections and the educational system. This is an important story, and one which will be essential in public libraries, particularly given its relevance to current headlines. In the school context, it may be best suited to high school libraries, due to some of the author’s experiences and the scope of this story. \\professional review for another sourceThe Personal Touch:Samanci is just a few years older than I am, so reading her story was particularly poignant for me. She also doesn't always thrive in school (which may or may not have to do with the school system in Turkey), and that was illuminating to watch, especially with the focus on her school experiences. She talks a lot about the reverence for one historical figure in Turkish history, and how that influenced her life - he was like a god. As far as trigger issues go, there is an attempted rape scene, and it has pretty major life ramifications for her, but the scene itself is relatively tame. So there's that.I had a hard time with the aesthetic at first, until I really sunk into the story -- and flipping back through it, I'm now struck by the beauty and creativity in her art. I love that she includes photos of actual ephemera from her life (transcripts, etc) in the vein of Middle School is Worse than Meatloaf. Her chapter openings are knockouts. I'm very curious about what it was like for her to transition from this story to amerika. I hope she writes a sequel about that.Extra star for the uniqueness of this story.
    more
  • Barb Middleton
    January 1, 1970
    This graphic novel is well done, but I'll have to send it up to the middle school library as it is too young adult for elementary students. Ozge Samanci's minimalist illustrations and dry sense of humor make this an excellent look into what it was like growing up in Turkey. The heart of the story is about Ozge trying to figure out what she wants to do in life and the difficulty of trying to live up to her father's expectations and imitate her brilliant older sister. She recounts the political an This graphic novel is well done, but I'll have to send it up to the middle school library as it is too young adult for elementary students. Ozge Samanci's minimalist illustrations and dry sense of humor make this an excellent look into what it was like growing up in Turkey. The heart of the story is about Ozge trying to figure out what she wants to do in life and the difficulty of trying to live up to her father's expectations and imitate her brilliant older sister. She recounts the political and cultural upheavals growing up and the dangerous culture she lived in. A near rape, prejudice from extreme ideologies at school, and fierce competition of trying to make it into prestigious schools make this a page turner. Ozge never takes herself too seriously though and the humor and lightness balance out the dark incidents. A terrific read. Ozge grew up in a middle class family with two parents that were educators and nonreligious. They raised Ozge to be strong and wanted her to have a good job. Getting into the top high schools and universities was competitive and difficult. Ozge chronicles this difficult journey that show flaws in an educational system many will relate too. Her path of self-discovery follows first in her sister's footsteps and she fails, next she tries to follow her father's path and fails, and last she tries to follow her own heart and fails. She never gives up and finds, with the help of family and some loyal friends that help tutor her through her classes so she can pass, that she is able to discover her passion for drawing. It is the failures and resilience to learn from her mistakes that are a part of Ozge's journey of discovering what she wants to do with her life - something we all can relate to. She is one brave person that is easy to cheer on as she works through issues.The author does a good job explaining the different leaders of the country and how they affected her country. A funny bird crops up on many of these pictures with some wisecrack comment. She shows the leaders saying one thing but doing the opposite in private while the bird hangs upside down on the president's speech bubble saying, "Liar." Later, she's trying to get the courage to tell her mom about her teacher's corporal punishment of all the students in the classroom and the bird is making light of the incident. Ozge is a strong-willed girl willing to stand-up for herself. She's a bit of a loose cannon as a young kid and her yellow hair that shoots out all over the place reflects her high spirits. There are pictures of her friends with rock star posters in their bedroom and Ozge has Jacques Cousteau because she's going to be a famous diver. Later, she humorously "talks" to Poster Jacques trying to sort out what she wants to be in life. The page where she is suspended for speaking her mind at school and criticizing the play chosen for the theater production is a hoot. The close-up photo of the suspension letter with her miniaturized and sliding down its folded edge off the page with the bird and its speech bubble saying, "Bye," is one of my favorites. I'm sure you'll find your favorites too.
    more
  • Dogukan
    January 1, 1970
    Here is the thing: Masterly drawn, and beautifully written, the book leaves you with a sense of incompleteness and a delusion that it should have been longer, braver and fuller, a much intended delusion aimed at and kept as a secret from you throughout the book victoriously by the writer; and you are hanging in time and space aching to find closure, only to realize it's the only thing the book hasn't offered you: Just like this country, Turkey itself. And you think, just for a second that this w Here is the thing: Masterly drawn, and beautifully written, the book leaves you with a sense of incompleteness and a delusion that it should have been longer, braver and fuller, a much intended delusion aimed at and kept as a secret from you throughout the book victoriously by the writer; and you are hanging in time and space aching to find closure, only to realize it's the only thing the book hasn't offered you: Just like this country, Turkey itself. And you think, just for a second that this was an error, a defect, a misjudge the writer had come to in her writing process, and that second ends with a painful smile on your face only to show you that this has been the idea all along. I am incomplete, I've always felt incomplete, and this feeling I've been left with when the book ended, this was just the thing the book tried to achieve all along, and knowing its reader, it didn't take much to have done. Because this is the only thing this country makes you, "incomplete." And it's our diamond, and it's our curse. We will be torn apart because of it, and we will rise on it. Well done Özge Samancı, the joke was on us all along. You truly are an artist.While we are on the subject... Not to be painfully obvious, but seeing readers commenting they were disappointed to some extend by a book titled "Dare to Disappoint" is like seeing republican housewives who did not vote for Clinton on account of her being a woman criticize HBO masterpiece Girls on Facebook because the show was degrading women. I am sorry, but I just have to ask: Does the Pope shit in the woods?
    more
  • Leylak Dalı
    January 1, 1970
    Bir kız çocuğunun Türkiye'de büyüme ve meslek seçme öyküsü çizgilerle ancak bu kadar güzel anlatılırdı...
  • Blue
    January 1, 1970
    Dare to Disappoint by Ozge Samanci is perhaps the quintessential tale of growing up in the 80s and 90s in Turkey in a middle class family. There is so much here that resonates with the experiences of many Turks who grew up in Izmir and Istanbul, went to cram school on the weekends in preparation for the national entrance exams, tried so hard to fulfill the expectations of many middle class families of parents working for the government, who, unable to bestow wealth to their children, insisted fo Dare to Disappoint by Ozge Samanci is perhaps the quintessential tale of growing up in the 80s and 90s in Turkey in a middle class family. There is so much here that resonates with the experiences of many Turks who grew up in Izmir and Istanbul, went to cram school on the weekends in preparation for the national entrance exams, tried so hard to fulfill the expectations of many middle class families of parents working for the government, who, unable to bestow wealth to their children, insisted for them to be "good students" so that they could have a degree nobody could then take away from them and therefore a good future. The story is almost too familiar, down to Samanci's parents who work for the government (so did mine), her uncle who was politically active and a bit of a good-for-nothing youth (so was one of my uncles), the political climate of the 80s and 90s playing cruel tricks on the middle class and their aspirations, even her obsession with Jacques Cousteau (I was obsessed with him, too!)... Yet, Samanci makes the story her own, with her quirky childhood, her numerous attempts and failures to live up to the boring expectations of her parents, her struggle to be like her older sister... She also has a great eye for the things that are uniquely captivating about the Turkish childhood, like the ruler with shapes (including the unmistakable profile of Ataturk!!! I loved my ruler with its Ataturk bust, and had forgotten all about it until I read Dare to Disappoint.)Some of the issues Samanci raises, the great divide between the conservative Muslim boys in school and the liberal girls, the economic hardships of the ever-poorer and smaller middle class, the wild political swings allowed by a not-so-solid democratic system, are some of the hard truths of Turkey. Samanci does a good job of explaining things in a way that anyone can understand them, making the memoir all the more real and universal. At this time, Samanci's memoir might be chronicling a vanishing type of childhood and young adulthood (or not, hard to say, but the trendline doesn't have an encouraging slope...) It's a good primer to those who wish to understand the complicated past and convoluted ways of Turkey at the end of the past century, which may help understand what is happening today.Recommended for those who like binoculars, plastic rulers, stuffed potatoes, and to those who hate national exams and cram school.
    more
  • Ev
    January 1, 1970
    This book was more sentimentally rated as a 5 - the colorful innocence in Ozge's imagery, as well as the acute awareness of self in the context of family and society, were marvelously poignant and led me to realize more about my own self. Ozge adroitly illustrated the shifting sands of identity and stability as we navigate life. She bravely showed her vulnerability, and it made the reader - this reader - braver too.Is this not the purpose of art? To touch another's soul, and to purpose enlighten This book was more sentimentally rated as a 5 - the colorful innocence in Ozge's imagery, as well as the acute awareness of self in the context of family and society, were marvelously poignant and led me to realize more about my own self. Ozge adroitly illustrated the shifting sands of identity and stability as we navigate life. She bravely showed her vulnerability, and it made the reader - this reader - braver too.Is this not the purpose of art? To touch another's soul, and to purpose enlightenment?
    more
  • Licha
    January 1, 1970
    Buudy read with my daughter, her book choice.Graphic memoir about a girl growing up in her country of Turkey, centered around the school system with insights into her family.I always enjoy reading about how different cultures grow live.
  • Elizabeth A
    January 1, 1970
    This graphic memoir is not labeled as such, but would work really well for kids, especially girls, fourteen and up. It's the coming of age story about a young Turkish girl who struggles to reconcile her dreams with those her father has for her. Can she be both an engineer and a scuba diver like Jacques Cousteau? It's a delightful tale of family, friendship, and self-discovery, and while it touches on some of the social, political, and religious issues of the day, it does so lightly, and readers This graphic memoir is not labeled as such, but would work really well for kids, especially girls, fourteen and up. It's the coming of age story about a young Turkish girl who struggles to reconcile her dreams with those her father has for her. Can she be both an engineer and a scuba diver like Jacques Cousteau? It's a delightful tale of family, friendship, and self-discovery, and while it touches on some of the social, political, and religious issues of the day, it does so lightly, and readers not familiar with the backdrop can read up on the events mentioned. When there are so many voices telling you how act, and who to be, how does one have the courage to listen to her inner voice? Can she please everyone she loves without making herself miserable?I really liked the art, the use of collages, and the fact that unlike most graphic novels, there aren't many rectangular boxes in this one. The whimsical style and light watercolors work really well for this memoir. Like memory itself, there's a bit of disjointedness, but I was rooting for young Ozge the entire time. A lovely, and quite feminist read, that I'll be putting in the hands of my nieces before too long.
    more
  • Dov Zeller
    January 1, 1970
    I love the mischievous, rebellious sensibility that came through the pages early on in this book, much through the great relationship between Ozge and her sister and her parents. There is a lot to be said for the way these relationships are sketched out, and for the pluck of Ozge's young self. But somehow the book never quite came together for me. There were a lot of historical and relational moments I appreciated, but just as the Ozge of the book is trying to find herself, the book itself seems I love the mischievous, rebellious sensibility that came through the pages early on in this book, much through the great relationship between Ozge and her sister and her parents. There is a lot to be said for the way these relationships are sketched out, and for the pluck of Ozge's young self. But somehow the book never quite came together for me. There were a lot of historical and relational moments I appreciated, but just as the Ozge of the book is trying to find herself, the book itself seems to be trying to find its voice and rhythm throughout. So far there aren't too many reviews, but the ones I read I appreciated. I liked this one in particular. https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...
    more
  • Selcoline
    January 1, 1970
    Çocukluğuma, gençliğime, üniversite hayallerime yolculuk yaptım. Yer yer güldüm yer yer hüzünlendim. 80 sonrası dönemin çok çok güzel bir özeti olmuş. Çizimler de çok başarılı... Çok beğendim.
  • Sibel Kaçamak
    January 1, 1970
    İki günde keyifle okudum. Büyük şehirlerde yaşayan bir kesitin ortak geçmişi söz konusu. Sonu biraz aceleye gelmiş.
  • Züleyha
    January 1, 1970
    Gülümseten ve çokça hüzünlendiren detaylarla doluydu. Hayatımın özeti gibiydi. Çok ama çok masum olduğumuz, bir o kadar da haksızlığa uğradığımız yıllar. Bizim "Bir zamanlar" denilen sihirli ülkemiz. Romantik, bihaber gençliğimiz...
    more
  • Gauri
    January 1, 1970
    Dare to Disappoint is a graphic novel that speaks about the author's struggle as a young girl in Turkey during the 80's to live up to her parents' and society's high expectations with her education and career. Throughout her adolescence and college years, she comes up short to her goals, even with great determination and work. Ultimately, though, she realizes that she only went through this difficult path to please her father, and she should finally consider what she wants. She dared to disappoi Dare to Disappoint is a graphic novel that speaks about the author's struggle as a young girl in Turkey during the 80's to live up to her parents' and society's high expectations with her education and career. Throughout her adolescence and college years, she comes up short to her goals, even with great determination and work. Ultimately, though, she realizes that she only went through this difficult path to please her father, and she should finally consider what she wants. She dared to disappoint. However, the way the novel is structured places most of its time on showing the amount of pressure that was put on her and her beating herself down, rather than the method through which she gained her liberation. There are a couple of pages of her internal struggle, personified through her dialogue with Jacques Cousteau, but it has a very generic message.She says at the end of the book, upon finishing her degree, that by failing and struggling through her mathematics course, she learned how to learn and was able to pursue anything she wanted. I found that fascinating, but no explanation or comment was offered on the subject. I would argue that this would be the most important part of the book, given the intended message.
    more
  • Beyza
    January 1, 1970
    Hayat kurtarıcı bir kitap...
  • Chiydem
    January 1, 1970
    "come, let's swim against the current!"
  • Pinar Coskun
    January 1, 1970
    Veya Türkiyeli olarak büyümek.. harika.
  • Tuğba
    January 1, 1970
    In the midst of the noise that I grew up with, I could not hear my own voice.
  • katyjanereads
    January 1, 1970
    1. LOVED THIS BOOK!!!!!2. The name is everything. Dare to disappoint. YES! Do what is best for you and follow what you want from this short and wild life. Don't let the naysayers stop you. 3. She went to the grocery store by herself when she was 6 years old??!!4. When Ozge just strolled into Pelin's classroom, it was the cutest thing ever.5. I learned a lot of history from this book because it forced me to Google the political climate during this time period.6. Another cute moment is when Ozge w 1. LOVED THIS BOOK!!!!!2. The name is everything. Dare to disappoint. YES! Do what is best for you and follow what you want from this short and wild life. Don't let the naysayers stop you. 3. She went to the grocery store by herself when she was 6 years old??!!4. When Ozge just strolled into Pelin's classroom, it was the cutest thing ever.5. I learned a lot of history from this book because it forced me to Google the political climate during this time period.6. Another cute moment is when Ozge walked by a picture of Ataturk in just her underwear and it had a thought bubble, "I should have put on my skirt to walk in front of Ataturk. I am sorry. I am sorry."7. I loved the story about the vase that appeared on the TV when there was a technical difficulty and Ozge says, "When things get hard to deal with, why can't that historic vase appear in real life?" 8. Ozge's drawings of her in the swimming mask were so cute!!!9. 63 kids in one classroom?!?!?!!? I'm a teacher. I would die. 10. Peeing in their pants at the entrance exams is some kind of hard core. 11. At the Istanbul Ataturk Science High School, I love that there was a hole in the fence that Ozge would sneak out of. 12. The teachers waking them up by clanging on the lockers. "GIT UUUUP! GIRLS, GIT UP!" hahahah13. Yeah, I wanted to punch her professors in the face. "Crossing legs for women is just not healthy. It stops blood circulation. You nails cannot breath if you put on nail polish." 14. Her almost getting raped made me gasp when I was reading this. 15. When I was in college I stayed during the summers and went through all of the dorm rooms and got everyone's leftovers just like Ozge. 16. I love the conversations that Ozge has with her Captain Cousteau poster. I wish I had a poster that brought wisdom. 17. She made a cartoon of people not following their dreams for various reasons: too old, retirement, can't take risks, what if I fail. WE ONLY HAVE THIS LIFE. Go for things.
    more
  • Lara
    January 1, 1970
    I really liked Samanci's style, and enjoyed this story of her growing up a pretty normal kid in Turkey in a time of violence. But I never really felt any sort of emotional connection to her story, and at the end we're left to sort of infer that things turned out ok for her, since she's published this book, but it felt really abrupt to me, and I wanted more about what she did after that point to get to where she is today. And it seems like so much of the book is about her wanting to gain her dad' I really liked Samanci's style, and enjoyed this story of her growing up a pretty normal kid in Turkey in a time of violence. But I never really felt any sort of emotional connection to her story, and at the end we're left to sort of infer that things turned out ok for her, since she's published this book, but it felt really abrupt to me, and I wanted more about what she did after that point to get to where she is today. And it seems like so much of the book is about her wanting to gain her dad's approval, and then she makes this decision to disappoint him, but we don't actually get to see how he reacts to it, at all. Still, I liked this book, and I'll definitely read more of Samanci's work if I run across it in the future!
    more
  • Marian
    January 1, 1970
    This graphic novel is lovely to read. It manages to hold emotional weight, depicting major conflict and violence, while allowing you to journey through the adventures of a heart-felt and well-drawn comic (that can be sweet in its depictions and yet never sickly sweet). This is a fast read but I'm tempted to go through it again because it feels rich and layered and that details would be missed in the first attempt. It also made me want to learn much more about Turkey --- though written for someon This graphic novel is lovely to read. It manages to hold emotional weight, depicting major conflict and violence, while allowing you to journey through the adventures of a heart-felt and well-drawn comic (that can be sweet in its depictions and yet never sickly sweet). This is a fast read but I'm tempted to go through it again because it feels rich and layered and that details would be missed in the first attempt. It also made me want to learn much more about Turkey --- though written for someone who knows nothing about Turkish history (me), it compels me to learn more about what is clearly more than a backdrop to Samanci's childhood and education.
    more
  • Twofrontteethstillcrooked
    January 1, 1970
    I pulled this ahead in my threatening-to-topple-and-crush-me tall pile of to-be-read books because, hey, reading something about Turkey seemed timely. This is a lovely memoir with lots of energetic, clever, mixed-media illustrations. Samanci's journey, more to a decision than an actual place, is interesting and hopeful, and given weight because she's a character (so to speak) of charm and courage trying to survive a culture at times deeply hostile to her existence. Her humanity and even-handedne I pulled this ahead in my threatening-to-topple-and-crush-me tall pile of to-be-read books because, hey, reading something about Turkey seemed timely. This is a lovely memoir with lots of energetic, clever, mixed-media illustrations. Samanci's journey, more to a decision than an actual place, is interesting and hopeful, and given weight because she's a character (so to speak) of charm and courage trying to survive a culture at times deeply hostile to her existence. Her humanity and even-handedness is evident; though this is just a slice of life in Turkey, and a very personal view at that, it made me both more and less worried about her country's future.
    more
  • Sha
    January 1, 1970
    Did you ever read a book completely by accident? (But oh thank goodness you did?) I was working the other day when I hit a slow, and I mean sl-o-o-o-w patch. I tutor, you see, so I was surrounded by books but not a single person in need of my expertise. So instead of scrolling through instagram (which I'll admit, I did for a good fifteen minutes at first) I checked out the books and stumbled on Ozge Samanci's memoir "Dare to Disappoint." I didn't even plan on finishing the memoir, assuming someo Did you ever read a book completely by accident? (But oh thank goodness you did?) I was working the other day when I hit a slow, and I mean sl-o-o-o-w patch. I tutor, you see, so I was surrounded by books but not a single person in need of my expertise. So instead of scrolling through instagram (which I'll admit, I did for a good fifteen minutes at first) I checked out the books and stumbled on Ozge Samanci's memoir "Dare to Disappoint." I didn't even plan on finishing the memoir, assuming someone would ask for my help sooner or later, so I barely glanced at the summary before diving in.First thoughts: I know nothing about Turkey. Nothing about Turkey in the 80s/90s and nothing about Turkey today. I can claim it's the fault of my education system (my school system focuses on regional history, and since I'm in Canada, Turkey is pretty much nonexistent) but basically ... it's never really crossed my mind. Turkey. So this book was my introduction to all that is Turkish and no worries I knew going in not to base my assumptions on this one book based almost forty years ago. (Expect me to do some serious Googling after!)The graphic novel starts with six-year-old Ozge in love with the idea of going to school. She sees her eight-year-old sister, Palin, go every day and dreams of her turn. School is the place of cool uniforms! Then, when she gets her turn, Ozge recounts tales of falling in love with her teacher (a childhood crush), joking around with friends ... but also questioning the power of the government. Her uncle -- and now forgive me, because I obviously no longer have the book and have no way to look up the names I'm forgetting -- is a socialist and he tells her in no uncertain terms that the government is brainwashing her. With childlike narration, Ozge admits that at school students are bombarded with the image of Attaturk, the "man who freed Turkey". They chant his name at assembly. The students are taught military marches to assemble at the end of recess. They sing the national anthem "at the top of their lungs" whenever it comes on TV. But she still shrugs off the idea of brainwashing.The graphic novel follows Ozge as she begins to see school as less of a fun place and more of an institution. To succeed at all in life, she must study endlessly, weekdays and weekends, to make it into the "special high school" and then maybe, possibly, into a prestigious university. But Ozge is not good at school and she dreams of scuba diving and drama -- two things that do not make good money.When Ozge finally makes her way to university, she observes the government police ripping down socialist posters in the university cafeteria. With her friends, she laughs about how ridiculous and over the top the actions are -- but secretly questions how extreme the government is. At the time, the region is cracking down on the Kurds, a minority group in Turkey which is seeking greater cultural rights. When the police catch her and her friends laughing, they demand to see ID cards, and Ozge knows if she or her friends had lived in an area too close to a more Kurdish neighbour, the police would have brought them in. In this instance, no one is actively protesting: there are just posters in the cafeteria. But because the government doesn't like this stance, the posters are taken down.I liked how Samanci (aka the author) switches her drawing style throughout the novel. At some times you can tell Ozge (the character) is in a more childlike state of mind by stick figures or simplified caricatures. Or the drawings take on several dimensions, and you know she is thinking about something more complex. The same goes for the writing style. Samanci involves a complexity to her writing style by showing a tiny bird that floats around the pages: the bird actively questions the government's actions even while Ozge does not. Who is the bird? Ozge's subconscious? An embodiment of the socialist movement? It's an interesting way to incorporate young Ozge's ideas with the ideas Samanci may have now, as a grown adult.As I said before, I have never thought about Turkey. Regardless of the reason, this book was a great way to introduce me to the topic. For example, at the beginning of the graphic novel, Ozge is focused on talking about her school day. Her speech bubbles are about school, and her friends, and Attaturk. But there are tiny arrows thrown in that explain who Attaturk is and other bits of information. The information is not overwhelming, either, such as a block paragraph. It's also written in a child-like voice, like Ozge is popping in to say, "Oh, maybe you didn't know!"There is so much to say about this graphic novel, and so much I want to know more about. Trust me when I say I'm going to get lost in Wiki pages on Turkey as soon as this post is finished. Of course, I should also mention this graphic novel is not just about Turkey. At its heart, it's the story of a girl who happens to live in Turkey, and wants to find herself amidst the country's education system and her parents' views of learning. Which is a whole other thing to explore right there, but I think you've heard enough from me?Five stars because the plot (I mean, it's her life, so I should say the structuring of her life onto the page?) is beautifully assembled, the art is pleasing to the eye and meaningful to reading comprehension, and the entire tale leaves you with so much to think about. Thanks for this one, Samanci!
    more
  • Stacy
    January 1, 1970
    This book was love at first sight for me! The title pulled me in right away, and the more I read of it the more that love grew! A brilliant and true depiction of what it's like to grow up in poverty and in an oppressive place with standards you know you couldn't meet even if you wanted to.This graphic tale is about discovering who you are and learning about yourself along the way. If you have ever felt lost or feel lost right now, this book will bring you peace (and insights into history).
    more
  • Perri
    January 1, 1970
    I know so very little about Turkey, so this graphic memoir of a girl growing up there was an education. The culture and politics are very different from the US but a universal is the love between parent and child and the desire to please.
Write a review